Any ideas on a babysitting problem?

Lynnette - posted on 07/11/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I babysit a 19 month old girl. She's rather chunky and lazy about a lot of things. This little girl doesn't do anything if she doesn't have to. I watch her while her mom is at work. The problem I have is she eats a LOT of food, cries a LOT, and her mom puts her in clothes that are to small for her. She got an excuse for just about everything when I try to bring up a problem to her. She brought her daughter over in the same outfit for 4 days because she had nothing else clean. I suggested she hand wash some stuff in the tub and let it hang dry. She looked at me like I was the crazy one. Any ideas on what I should do? Her daughter plays with my kids when I watch her but it's getting to be such a trial that it frustrates me more than anything. Looking for any and all suggestions please.

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Dove - posted on 07/11/2012

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The fact that you are calling a 19 month old baby lazy and complaining about how much she eats and cries makes me think you shouldn't necessarily be in the childcare profession....

If you aren't a good fit for this family then it's in everyone's best interest if you stop watching her. Personally, I'd be helping this mom out and doing everything in my power to take away her excuses (like picking up some properly sized clothes for the kid).

How you handle this is up to you though.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/11/2012

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It sounds to me like you don't like the child or the mother. If you feel this strongly about it, stop watching her and find another child to sit for money. She is the mom, and will parent how she sees fit, just like you parent your children how you see fit. I am not saying she is right, but still....that is the way it is.

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Lynnette - posted on 07/11/2012

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I've been watching this little girl for a while. She is starting to get more active but I'm concerned about her a lot. I adore her, she's very sweet. I've tried helping her with advice and the offer of clothes but get looked at like I'm crazy. I'm honestly getting to the point where I'm not sure it's worth it any more. She's a single mom that seems to take offense to anyone intruding on how she's raising her daughter even if it's just advice. We have a couple of local places that help with vouchers to get clothes, which I've suggested to her. I just don't think she knows what size her daughter is for clothes and has no interest in anyone telling her. Every time I bring it up she cuts off the conversation and leaves.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/11/2012

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Sounds like perhaps you don't enjoy having to care for this child, so it may just be best if you step out, tell the mother to find other childcare, and move on.

You don't sound as if you've tried to help, except to "suggest", and I would bet it came out as a condescending statement that made her feel worse.

Just in case you didn't realize, at 19 months, kids eat a lot. Kids still cry a lot, because conversational skills are not developed. If she gets up and plays with your kids, then she's not LAZY, a baby cannot be LAZY.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/11/2012

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"The fact that you are calling a 19 month old baby lazy and complaining about how much she eats and cries makes me think you shouldn't necessarily be in the childcare profession...."

LOL, great point Dove!

Lynnette - posted on 07/11/2012

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She claims she can't afford to buy clothes for her not even second hand store clothes. Even when she does get her daughter clothes they still aren't the right size. She gets clothes for her that are to small. She's putting her in clothes for her age but they are to small. I've seen this child in 2t stuff that is also small on her. She should be wearing from a 2t-3t. Which I think is ridiculous at her age. This little girl is sick quite often and the mother doesn't even question the doctor when they tell her they aren't sure what's wrong.

Brianna - posted on 07/11/2012

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wow same outfit for 4 days cuz nothing else was clean.. i mean that outfit shes wearing isnt clean. interesting parenting thats for sure... im not really sure what to tell u.. can she not afford to buy her daughter clothes that fit??

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