Any ideas on how to handle children's friends who live right next door???

Charity - posted on 07/13/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I need some advice on how to handle some pesky neighbors. I moved into our new home from the country where there were no neighbors and especially no neighborhood children to play with my 4 and 6 year old daughters. Well, we were all excited to move and find out our closest neighbors also had two young daughters. It was nice in the beginning because they had someone to play with but now it is getting to the point that thats all they want to do and all they think about ever single day. Because I have never had a neighbors with young children, I don't know exactly how to set rules for their play or if I should just let them see each other all the time. I just want to do whats best for my daughters and the family but I want them to see their friends to. Having come from the country with no other kids around, I am unsure of what the boundries should be. My daughters would play with these neighbors every second of the day if they could!! Any ideas?

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Silvia - posted on 07/25/2011

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I had a neigbor with 3 little kids, they would come straight to my house after school or for the weekend and walk over my house, run up and down, open refrigerator and ask for foods, it was very anoying because my kids never did anything like that, so i talked with my kids and made them to understand that they could play outside, in the back yard but not bring the neigbor kids inside and my own kids would say, my mon dont like when we go inside because the house got mess. We stayed in that house for only 2 years, i think it would get worst with them growing up and being around. I dont mind if the neigbor kids play outside everyday for a couple of hours, i just didnt want them inside of my house and would not let my kids being on their house too. Whats botther me would certanly bother other people too.

Billie - posted on 07/14/2009

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I have a 8yr old and a 2yr old both girls. My 8yr old has a friend that comes over almost everyday and she also brings her 4yr old little sister. It was great when we first moved in about 2 yrs ago. Now it's just getting annoying. They are over all the time, but my daughter hardly never can go over there, cause just their dad is home and their mom works 2nd shift. I feed them give them snacks and drinks, I feel like it's onesided. They ask for food too! I'm just now telling them if they are hungry to go home and eat, I feel mean but I can't afford to feed two extra kids all the time. I just tell my daughter no sometimes that she can't have friends over and she ask "why" I tell her that we are going to have a quite day today. When her friends come over they stay all day. They hardly ever have a time to go home, they live three houses down.

Pam - posted on 07/13/2009

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i loved having our kids friends over. sometimes they would each have 3-4 friends over (we had 4 kids). even today, they are still friends with their childhood companions, and they became an extended family for us. we would send everyone home during homework, supper, or family time however. just set your rules and stick to them for consistancy.

Michelle - posted on 07/13/2009

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I think its important for the kids to socialize but I do believe there needs to be some boundaries in place. For instance, if your girls have chores they need to do around the house then then need to have them done before going out to play. Also if you have plans for the day such as grocery shopping, family time, or anything else that you need your girls to participate in then you need to tell them that they will see their new friends later. You'll find the balance I am sure...however be prepared for the tantrums or a little nagging...but be firm so you can set some boundaries.

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