Julie - posted on 07/11/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )
I would not believe it myself, but my mother in law states my husband had a friendship with his toilet growing up! He named it "Herbie" and when they moved he cried over it!
My now 8 year old has been doing the same thing. It started when he was around 5. Our dryer broke down so we turned it in for a new one. At bed time, while tucking him in I noticed he was crying? I said, what is the matter? He said, "I miss our dryer? I will never see it again? Where did it go?" I told him it went to Dryer Heaven (what the heck?) I was completely caught off guard, but let it go.
Since then, it has continued..with clothing, papers, toys, furniture. Even when he finally lost his first two teeth! He was crying? I said, what's up? "I don't want to give my teeth to the tooth fairy?" I said, honey, you don't have too." I took him one week and a written letter with instruction to the fairy that she "take care of his teeth for him."
I keep thinking it is a phase, but recently he was crying again in his room alone. I went in distraught asking, what is wrong? He said, " I don't know why I am so attached to material things?" " I miss stuff and don't know when I will see it again".
Shocked at his insight as a child, I tried to explain that giving things new homes makes other children happy, and the "things" happy as well. But I can not seem to answer his question WHY?
Last night, we put his old playroom TV out on the curb for recycle. He choked up saying, I am not going to cry but can I take a picture with the TV? I said, of course and we did. But he still cried, and it is breaking my heart.
Have any of you dealt with this? If so, how and what do you think the cause is? Is it genetic? Is he just more sensitive than others? The trigger was after watching Toy Story 3. He cried until he fell asleep, traumatized by what happened to the toys.
My other question is, do I have a potential hoarder on my hands? How can I help him transition out of his attachment to material things...thanks.