any one else have a problem with sever agression and violence in there toddler and if so what are some of the challenges you go thru daily thank you to all who reply

Amanda - posted on 10/15/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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my names amanda and my daughter is fours sence she was two she has pushed her sister down stairs, out a second story window and took a butcher knife after me she has also just walked outside and double handed clawed a little girls face she bites kicks throws things hits pinches claws and spits in peoples faces i am very consistant with disapline my daughter just thinks its funny to do these things she litterly laughs does any one else have this problem i just feel so alone with it i tell people and there like oh its a lack of parenting but its not am i alone on this or do other people have toddlers that act like this also her diagnosis is adhd

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Amanda - posted on 10/16/2012

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thank you for your advise ariana i use time outs corners taking things away i have taken all toys away from her and tv things keep happening i even went as far as making her scrub the floor when she does these things we have been in cousling sence she was two and i always explain to her what she should be doing i have tryed positive reinforcment behavior charts keeping her in her room restricting her to her bed nothing seems to work so far its like she does not care what her consequences are and for the most part she has strict supervison but there are sometimes when i am unable to provide supervision for instances i have to go to the bath room dinner needs to be cooked dishes need done i am a single mom and i know most people would say do these things at night while child is sleeping problem is even with meds we average about 2 and a half hours of sleep a week so when she sleeps so do i again thank you

Ariana - posted on 10/15/2012

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What do you do when she does these things? What is her consequence?



If this is reaccuring I would make a rule that she is basically bound to the room you are in and not allowed near her sister unsupervised. So if her sister is upstairs in her room your daughter is not allowed to be up there with her. The safety of your daughters is the most important thing here.



What type of dicipline are you using right now? Is it time outs? Things taken away? Maybe you need to try something different for something this serious. Since it happens a lot I would make her realize that although she may find this amusing every time she does something like this her whole life will go onto lockdown. So if she has toys/tv (or w/e) in her room it will all be taken away and put into storage, she will be grounded and spend the whole day in her room (the day of the incident). She will also have to give an apology to the child she's done something to and make amends (give the child an icepack for their face).



I would give her her stuff back once she's gone a week with no incidents of violence. I would also take tv privilages and all the good stuff for a couple days (not to long since she's 4 but still).



I would also go over the correct ways to do things, find out what the issue was and ask her what she could have done instead of that. Even make her practice ways to handle situations without violence.



I know this sounds a little harsh but I know a mom with a 7 year old who just recently bit the 4 year old in the face so it's not something that will just go away by itself.



You may want to take her into family councelling. They may be able to figure out what exactly is going on and maybe there are other things you can do to keep this from happening.

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