Melissa - posted on 06/15/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
In Aug we have our first case conference. I am not happy that we are leaving decisions into the hands of a man/woman we don't know "judge" to make some serious decisions on our family. I trust that it will work in our daughters favor though. Her father has not picked her up to take her on any one on one time in 10 months. He has not visited to see her in 10 weeks. I stopped allowing him to pick her up after 6 months of not picking her up and spending one on one time, he attempted to say he was going to randomly pick her up and I told him that at the age she was in (currently she is 15 months old) she had major attachment to her sole caregiver *me* and unless he was willing to have me come along, it wouldn't work.
I have offered him to come over to my home any time to start re-building relationship before taking her off property.
I am even taking a 1 hour transit ride tomorrow to give his mother the opportunity to see our daughter. He has emotionally abandoned his daughter and I have made MAJOR attempts at including him the best I can within reason. He has denied all communication and has made no attempt to see her or talk to me in 10 weeks. Actually longer than that.
So now he is in agreement of me having full custody yet he wants to fight for 1 over night every second weekend. Yet, he has not spent time with her (personally) in 10 months and she has yet to ever be at his home since her birth.
People tell me that he will probably be granted supervised visits to rebuild the relationship and than move forward to visits off property to eventual over nights. I really look forward to the point when he can have her for over nights.... that would be a success.
Do you know anything on how a judge goes about this matter in regards to supervised visits? Am I aloud to request us to meet in a public place while I am there or will they choose someone he is comfortable with?
Please share with me your experiences or thoughts.