Any other moms here raising bilingual children?

Audrey - posted on 10/28/2008 ( 54 moms have responded )

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I see there's no community for moms raising bilingual children...is there anyone else out there raising their child(ren) bi/tri-lingual?

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Cortney - posted on 02/13/2009

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My almost three year old speaks English and Serbian. More English for now, but i suppose that will change when she goes to school in a few months, as we live in Serbia.

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Anne - posted on 06/03/2011

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Hi, I just joined this community. I have 2 kids. I am German, my husband is American. I speak only German with my kids when we are alone, English when my husband is around. My kids went to preschool/school in a Spanish speaking country and are now tri-lingual. It's really interesting how they switch back and forth and sometimes use German grammar when speaking English and vice versa. They are 7 and 4 now and are getting pretty good and sorting out English and German. We just moved again, to a completely different country and completely different language. Our 7-year old is at an international school, because we thought to throw a 4th language into the mix would be too much right now. She should learn the two main ones properly first. We haven't quite firgured out yet how to keep the Spanish going. Any ideas? My husband is bilingual English and Spanish, but the kids know that he speaks English and refuse to speak Spanish to him. My kids sort people by languages - which ever the language you use with my kids the first time you meet them, that's the one they will use with that person. Funny how that works!

Marjolijn - posted on 09/17/2009

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Hi, I'm dutch, living in australia. I'm a bit embarrased to say I haven't been speaking dutch to my children. My husband doesn't understand it and I find I only think in english myself. I read them dutch books, but find they don't understand them, have I left it to late?

Angelita - posted on 09/16/2009

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I have three children. I am raising them to be bilingual. Their father is Hispanic so it is very important for them to know spanish to communicate with his family. I started working with them from a early age. For example, I would say would you like an apple in english and then say it in spanish. I teach them something new everyday and we set times up for when we speak english only and then set other times we speak spanish. It helps them to be able to go back and forth in both languages. I wish you luck!

Ir Nana - posted on 09/14/2009

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My daughter is born in Singapore and we are Malay. We've been in America since Nov 2008, and ever since we start to speak English all the time that now she kinda forget how to speak Bahasa Melayu. Now I have to speak Bahasa to her all the time which makes my husband wanna learn too. ;)

Cyndy - posted on 04/10/2009

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Hi!

My little daughter was born in January. I am Mexican and her dad is American. I want to raise her Bilingual.



I want her to feel proud of both nationalities and languages and NEVER be embarrassed to speak either.



I already speak to her in both languages.



My husband only speaks English, so I will do my best to teach her Spanish.



Which is the best way to do it? Any advice?

Do you know a website that can help me?



Thanks and have a great day!

Cyndy from N.Y.

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While we lived in South Africa I had friends who spoke to my son in only zulu and he was bilingual (with english) however when we left the country he lost the language. Very sad as both him and my daughter were in a bi-lingual preschool (english/afrikaans) and they were learning that as well. He actually did have a hard time speaking some english sounds though. But now he is great (7 y/o). I wish I had learned more so I could have continued after we left the country.

Heather - posted on 04/08/2009

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My kids are learning English, Latvian and Russian. Since I only know English it is sometimes hard for my husband to remember to speak the others when I am around so my son understands but mostly speaks English for now

Ashley - posted on 04/08/2009

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hi my name is Ashley and my son is 8 months old and we are raising him to speak spanish and english. Antonio's father is mexican and i am african american......

Natali - posted on 02/17/2009

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My daughter is only 6 months, but I have been talking to her in mostly spanish since she was in the womb! My husband and I are both bilingual and were raised in blingual homes, and the best way to teach a second language from what I've experienced is to use it constantly. I sing to my Juli in spanish and I use certain words or phrases in only spanish and she seems to prefer when I sing in spanish rather than english. Or she likes Backyardigans in spanish but not in english. So incorporate it, bilingual kids double their oppurtunities for work with that second language!

Hannah - posted on 02/17/2009

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I have 2 children ages 2 and 4, who are both trilingual, (English, French and Breton) I speak only in english to them, my partener speaks only in french to them and they learn breton at school, I find it works really well and have been told that once a chld n bilingual they can learn different languages easily. what a great start in life.

Steph - posted on 02/16/2009

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My husband talks to our daughter in Spanish but not often enough, his Spanish mother always nags him about it! however the few phrases she understands is helping me learn too, at nursery she also is learning Welsh, but i never understand what she is saying then!!

Dana - posted on 02/10/2009

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I was raised bilingual. Never had any speech delays or trouble learning English (my third language) when my family moved to the U.S. My mom spoke to us in her native language and my dad in his, and I and my siblings always knew which language to use when talking to them.

Ashley - posted on 02/10/2009

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my sons father is russian. he is 9 months old and his parents have been speaking to him in russian since he was born. when he is over there (without me) they only speak russian to him. he obviously isnt speaking yet so we will see what he's like once he starts talking!!...

Rocio - posted on 02/10/2009

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I am raising biligual children... It is very interesting to see how easy it's for them to learn the languages almost as they learn any other thing in their busy lives!

Sammy - posted on 02/10/2009

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i was brought up speaking four different languages and im doing the same wit my kids i just talk to them in what ever language i feel like (not english they get that at daycare) and both my kids understand me no matter wat language i use so it doesnt matter how many u choose to teach them as long as they hear it all the time

Katherine - posted on 02/10/2009

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Actually, we are trying...my husband is Portuguese and he was raised with that as his 1st language. However, I don't speak the language so it is a little difficult. I do know some words which I instill in my children, but basically they learn the most when they visit with my in-laws.

Carrie - posted on 02/10/2009

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We are raising our son bilingual.  My husband is Puerto Rican, and we think it is very important for our son to learn Spanish.  Especially with the increasing number of Spanish speaking people.  My son, who is 1year old, has many bilingual toys and books.  He also has a  DVD series called Little Pim.  He doesn't watch it yet, but I have it for when he gets a little older.  My husband speaks more fluently than I do, but I speak what I can to him,  We will see when he says his first spanish word

Carrie - posted on 02/10/2009

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We are raising our son bilingual.  My husband is Puerto Rican, and we think it is very important for our son to learn Spanish.  Especially with the increasing number of Spanish speaking people.  My son, who is 1year old, has many bilingual toys and books.  He also has a  DVD series called Little Pim.  He doesn't watch it yet, but I have it for when he gets a little older.  My husband speaks more fluently than I do, but I speak what I can to him,  We will see when he says his first spanish word

Rebecca - posted on 02/10/2009

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LOL! my older daughter has picked up a bit of Spanish from playing dora explorer games online (she's five) and we don't even live in a Spanish speaking country (south africa).

Marie - posted on 02/10/2009

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My husband and I are raising our daughter to speak both english and spansih.  We are currently down in Mexico and she has had no problem with picking up the language.  She prodiminantly speaks english but she does understand spanish, and can say alot of words in spanish.  She is getting really good, being around the language has really helped her alot.  She is 3, and we wanted to make sure she got her english down before we introduced spanish so she would not get confused.  She has done incrediable.  Good luck, it will really benefit them when they are older.


Rebecca - posted on 02/10/2009

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p.s. i live in a country with nine official languages ;) once they start "big school" the regulations say the MUST learn two languages and become bilingual (also necessary for university entrance), so i've decided not to worry about it overly for now, as they will be exposed to at least three languages at school...

Rebecca - posted on 02/10/2009

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my youngest child's father is Afrikaans speaking and he initially planned to speak Afrikaans to her, but he hasn't followed through and just speaks to her in English (as do I). the nanny we had was Xhosa and she spoke xhosa to my child, and my child would only speak Xhosa to people she identified as Xhosa speaking, but now that she has started English pre-school -- after two months she is already losing the Xhosa.

Geneviève - posted on 02/10/2009

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Thanks! That's the way to go. Its so much easier to teach them the less common language first! The other one, they'll just pick up by playing with friends, tv, and just being out at the store. Trust me I know, I as a French as a Second Language teacher!

Christi - posted on 02/10/2009

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Genevieve -- Good for you! I plan on speaking Spanish to my little one while they are babies because I live in the States -- they will learn English through books, tv, school, ect. But Spanish won't be as natural.

Geneviève - posted on 02/10/2009

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Hi! I'm also planning on raising my son bilingual. We speak French all the time at home, but live in an English environment. I don't speak English to him right now, it will come in its own time. Since French is a more difficult language, that is what we are focussing on right now. He is exposed to English though everytime we go out, with tv and almost all his books are English. Its never too late to learn a language, but it is easier if kids learn it young. I was raised in French only and moved to an exclusively English part of the country (and still went to French school). It took me a couple of years, but I mastered the language pretty quickly. I am now so thankful to be bilingual. Its has been such a help in my career.

Christi - posted on 02/10/2009

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Were here! My husband is Peruvian and our 6 year old CAN speak Spanish, though she doesn't like to. He tries to speak Spanish to her, but often just forgets =) We have certain words and phrases that have become like English in our house and use them often, not even knowing they are Spanish, but for the most part she learns when her Grandparents are here -- they don't speak English. I have no doubt that she will retain the information and will use it later in life. What an asset!

Didi - posted on 02/10/2009

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what are the languages you are trying to teach? i am tri-lingual but it was easier for me to learn all the languages spoken at home because my parents were bi-lingual but it is harder for me to do it with my children beacause we live in an area where there isn't a big French and german communities.

Ana Maria - posted on 01/15/2009

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I am one of them!!! What a job!!! kids get some comfortable with the language they speak in a daily basis (English) that they do not wanna become completely literate in other language (speak, write and read). As a bilingual/polyglot individual I can tell you that is one of the best skill they can develop.
A friend of mine send her daughters to her home country when they are out of school here to attend school there for a month. That has been the best way for the girls to learn the language and the culture with other children. If you have the means you may be able to do that.
Another idea is to check with your school district about bilingual charters schools in which you can enroll your kid(s)
Any ideas for me?

Shana - posted on 01/15/2009

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I have two daughters (ten and seven) who are fluent in both French and English.  My husband and I don't speak any French and the girls have learned everything at a French Immersion school.  Our month old son will also be attending the same school as it is invaluable.  We have a large Francophone community in our city and I glow with pride when my girls can carry a conversation in each language easily and translate if needed!

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My father is from Iran. My mother and father have both been teaching my daughter Farsi since she began talking. She can say words in both English and Farsi now.

Tara - posted on 01/14/2009

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Wow! I never thought of a site for that! My enlaws are Puerto Rican and speak both English and Spanish to my girls. Its great and it teaches me some too!!

Tricia - posted on 01/14/2009

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Hi, my husband is Mexican and we have been trying to raise our two children to speak Spanish and English and it has been very difficult. My daughter would tell us to stop talking like that when we spoke Spanish and then she started watching Dora and has become more interested in learning it. Our 3 year old son only wants to learn sometimes when his big sister is learning so hopefully it will rub off on him. We started this from birth and hope they will start to take more of an interest soon.

Mona - posted on 01/14/2009

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Hi Audrey, I just created a community for multi-lingual children. :) I am raising a tri-lingual 4 year old.



 



Mona

Audrey - posted on 12/18/2008

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If anyone has any good websited in Spanish or French for kids...please share them...my daughter is obsessed with the computer and loves watching songs/videos on it! We mostly watch Boowa et Kwala in French...I'm getting a little tired of it!

Thx!

Joanna - posted on 12/16/2008

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I'm raising my children bilingual. English & Spanish. Both my husband and I are of Cuban parents born and raised in the US.

Alex - posted on 11/30/2008

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I'm a single mom raising my 2 year old daughter to be bilingual in English/Spanish. My daughter is half mexican and her father's family speaks to her only in Spanish. My family speaks to her only in English. I think that constant interaction and repitition in both languages helps her learn faster. I sometimes get questions/answers from her in both languages at the same time but at this age she picks up on things very quickly.

Ana - posted on 11/04/2008

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Hi, my name is Ana and I'm Portuguese and my husband is South African. So obviously our cultures are totally different - i have two children: my son is going to Gr 1 next year and my daughter is turning 3 next month. I firmally believe that children who are growing up in a home that have 2 or 3 more languages should learn them - not only because of their parents' cultures but for them themselves. My children are learning: Portuguese, English and Afrikaans (one of the 11 languages of our country). One thing we tend to forget as parents at times is that no matter where our kids are born the languages we speak is part of who they are!

Jenny - posted on 11/03/2008

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I speak with my daughter, 11 months, in ASL-sign language, and English. If she doesn't sign (and I know she knows the sign) I just wait for her to answer in sign. It doesn't take her very long to figure it out she isn't going to get what she wants until she answers "correctly".

Vicki - posted on 11/03/2008

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We're raising our daughter in Spanish & English & are both bilingual. My husband's Cuban & his mom is monolingual Spanish & here living with us for 6 months, so now almost all conversation in the house is in Spanish. When she's not here, we speak a mix, and my daughter seems to be doing fine in both languages. She's 21 months and has a vocab of maybe 60 words, uses both languages all day.

Brandi - posted on 11/03/2008

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My son is being raised bilingual. His father is brazilian and speaks to him in portuguese. He understands everything his father says to him. The tough part is getting him to speak back to him in portuguese and not english.

Anita - posted on 11/02/2008

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Hello, I'm going to attempt to raise my child bilingual. She's only 5 months now, I should probably start soon...

Audrey - posted on 11/02/2008

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Thx all...so...has anyone had success with what Diana said about making your child respond to you in the target language...or they don't get what they want? I'm just going to have to stick to it, I know...but just wondering if anyone has any ideas to make it smoother.



I know that usually multi-lingual kids usually know to speak one way to one adult and another way (other language) to another...that's why I'm worried about being the one who teaches my daughter 2 languages at once. Right now I speak only French to her...but if I introduce Spanish now, will she know the difference between the two?



Here's some super sites for your kids if you're teaching them French....my daughter is only 1+ and she LOVES listening to the songs and such on these sites. It's mainly just two sites, but I added sub-sites that are my daughter's favs!



Enjoy! and if you have any great language learning sites for kids...please post them here! THX!!!



http://www.uptoten.com/enfants/boowakwal...

http://www.uptoten.com/enfants/uptoten-h...

http://www.poissonrouge.com/

http://www.poissonrouge.com/schooloffren...

Mardeen - posted on 11/01/2008

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Yes! Our child is being taught tagalog by his babysitter, spanish from his father and english by his mother. He's 2 and understands them all but so far only speaks a few words in tagalog and spanish. He mostly speaks English.

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My son is bilingual too. He knows both English and ASL (American Sign Language) and can use his signs to communicate with our 2 deaf Mexican foreign exchange students. And no it is NEVER too late to start. Children can learn languages more easily and readily than adults can.

Stephanie - posted on 11/01/2008

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I have a 2 week old and I plan to teach him sign language at first. My father-in-law (who is Mexican) plans to speak to him only in Spanish. I will speak to him in English. So, he'll be trilingual :) Wish us luck!

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Yes Audrey,

That is a very important factor when you want your kids to be bilingual. You must make her respond to you in french... or she just doesnt get what she wants.



I would say that my profs always say that a child can learn to speak 7 languages at once if they have people they can speak it to. So, I wouldnt be too worry about introducing spanish to your little one.



I am doing Spanish and English... I looked into Mussy and I will for sure get her the french dvd for christmas....I hope it works

Audrey - posted on 10/29/2008

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My daughter is 1...

I say it's NEVER too late...if you're interested, check out "MUZZY" it's a video program for kids to learn other languages.

I speak to my daughter ONLY in French right now, but I may decide to add Spanish soon. EVERYONE else speaks to her in English...but I'm proud to say she definitely understands me. She's not speaking yet, but I hope to be able to only respond to her if she'll speak French to me...it'll be tough, but that's my plan...if she wants something, she'll have to use French...we'll see though!



I'm debating whether or not and when to start speaking to her in spanish...i was thinking of waiting until she's speaking French...but not sure what to do...

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my mum was born in PNG and can speak Motu as well as English, i live with her and she speaks to my son in Motu sometimes he understands but dosen't speak it yet. I'm not fluent with Motu and my son spends most of his time with me so that's probably why he only speaks English.

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