Any suggestions to losing the pacifier? My daughter just turned three and I WANT THAT THING GONE!

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Kate - posted on 04/09/2009

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I just took it away from my daughter...It was hard but I didn't want her teeth messing up or her relying on a pacifier her toddler and prek years..... Try replacing the pacifier with something else that can give her security....

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My son was over 3 and still had his to go to sleep as I was pregnant with my second and couldn't face life without the pacifier. I did bite the bullet though- spoke to him about it being time to leave them for the fairies and he agreed (verbally anyway!). We put them in a box and that was that- a few rough nights but then it was history. A bit harse you might think, but it worked. Good luck. xxx

Jennifer - posted on 04/17/2009

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We thought we broke my 2 1/2 year old last week. She had some major fits the first couple of nights. Then I kept finding her little sisters binkies in her bed - under the blankets - hidden in the corner. She has started stealing them from her 17 mo old little sister. Which she readily admits to. So do I just take them away from the 17 mo old as well.



The other day the little one only had 2 binkies that we could find so we put her to bed with both of them. About 1/2 hour later she starts screaming her head off. Her sister was standing there, reaching thru the bars of the crib, yelling for a binkie. That she needed to share! So now I'm facing getting rid of them all. I think it would be fairer this way to the eldest, but I worry about the younger as I am finally breaking her of the midnight bottle as well...and I am trying to get things done with a minimum of screaming. Any comments?

Sarah - posted on 04/14/2009

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I am trying this with my 2 1/2 year old son....recommended by my dentist and is working really well! Cut a little bit of it off at a time, until you are left with no nipple on it. I cut it each week and have one more snip left. I notice him not wanting it as much..sometimes not at all.

Katrina - posted on 04/10/2009

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i have 6 kids and with my first she had a dummy up till see was 5 i hated it and we had tryed everything even cutting the top so that she could not suck it but she just stuck her tounge in there and she was happy with that we were going through 7 dummys a week so one day there was a storm comming and we told her it was the fairies comming to get all the big girls dummies for all the little kids (babys) so she put it on the bench or were ever they like and we told her she had to go and play so that they could get it and when the storm was over it was gone so she dident ask for it again but she is 11 now and still remembers giving it to the faries but she dont care. but they will only give it up when they really wont to but good luck

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Carmel - posted on 06/29/2011

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Don't buy any more after the ones you have are worn out and try to avoid the aisle in the shops where they sell them. In the meantime, try painting a bit of vinegar on the existing dummies to make them less attractive. 3 is certainly too old to have a dummy.

Colleen - posted on 04/17/2009

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I had a friend with the same problem a few years ago. She cut a little of the nipple off each day until the child did not have anything to suck on. It worked. Good luck!

Colleen - posted on 04/17/2009

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I had a friend with the same problem a few years ago. She cut a little of the nipple off each day until the child did not have anything to suck on. It worked. Good luck!

Colleen - posted on 04/17/2009

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I had a friend with the same problem a few years ago. She cut a little of the nipple off each day until the child did not have anything to suck on. It worked. Good luck!

User - posted on 04/17/2009

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We had left it behind at a friends house and would not be able to get it for a few days we thought why the heck are we going to give it back when we get it?



He had it at night only then so it made bed time rough for a bit but he got over it *S* I wish you the best of luck!

User - posted on 04/17/2009

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my mom suggested for my sister to cut the tip off of it. It wasn't any fun for my niece to suck on it after that and lost interest. She was 2 1/2 when they did this

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My son was the same way...and with a speech deficiet it was necessary to get rid of it. The therapist had us start where he could only have when he was in bed for nap and night time. If he needed it for comforting, he was able to go in his room and use it, as long as he was in bed. When getting out of bed he had to tuck it under his pillow. It went really well. Then we cut out the use of it at nap time. At 3 1/2 we took it away all together. It worked that it was when we returned from visiting a relative. We said that he left it there. It took him 4 days but then he was ok. Didn't have an issue since. Good luck!

Tammy - posted on 04/17/2009

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we cut the tip off of my sons and he didnt like that at all and tried a couple of times but just slept with it for about 2 nights then he threw it in the garbage and it was done... good luck

User - posted on 04/17/2009

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we wrapped it up for Father Christmas! In return for giving Santa a present, they got a 'special' present in return. Have done this with all three children and it has worked each time

Hannah - posted on 04/17/2009

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Our son loves Peter Pan so, we told him that at christmas he had to leave his dummies for Tinkerbell and Peter so that they could give his dummies to all the fairy babies because he did not need them anymoe because he was such a big boy!

It worked a treat and although he asked for them for the first couple of nights we explained where they had gone and he was fine.

Amy - posted on 04/17/2009

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Just totally take it away. She will cry for awhile, but she will eventually get over it. Does she have something that she uses for comfort? All three of my kids had blankies.

Nikki - posted on 04/17/2009

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My son kept biting his and it would go flat. Sick of buying more every day i simply gave him the broken one back. He would put it in his mouth, say yuck (cause it was flat). This happened for a couple of days then he stopped asking for it cause he knew it was no good anymore. Hope this helps.

Jennifer - posted on 04/16/2009

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We used "The Binki Fairy" It's the same concept as the "Tooth Fairy". Instead of money, the binki fairy left my son a toy. We told him that the binki fairy took them to give to little tiny babies and that he was a big boy and he didn't need them anymore. I think he only asked for them maybe, three or four times and that was it. I still have all of them in a box for keep sakes.

Shauna - posted on 04/16/2009

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Sometimes we want our children to stop doing certain things but we need to realize that they are children and they don't make the decisions we do. Bottom line is if you take it away she won't have it but you have to be able to deal with the change until she gets use to it. It's not the child it's the parent

Shauna - posted on 04/16/2009

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Sometimes we want our children to stop doing certain things but we need to realize that they are children and they don't make the decisions we do. Bottom line is if you take it away she won't have it but you have to be able to deal with the change until she gets use to it. It's not the child it's the parent

Shauna - posted on 04/16/2009

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Sometimes we want our children to stop doing certain things but we need to realize that they are children and they don't make the decisions we do. Bottom line is if you take it away she won't have it but you have to be able to deal with the change until she gets use to it. It's not the child it's the parent

Shauna - posted on 04/16/2009

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Sometimes we want our children to stop doing certain things but we need to realize that they are children and they don't make the decisions we do. Bottom line is if you take it away she won't have it but you have to be able to deal with the change until she gets use to it. It's not the child it's the parent

Shauna - posted on 04/16/2009

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Sometimes we want our children to stop doing certain things but we need to realize that they are children and they don't make the decisions we do. Bottom line is if you take it away she won't have it but you have to be able to deal with the change until she gets use to it. It's not the child it's the parent

Shauna - posted on 04/16/2009

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Sometimes we want our children to stop doing certain things but we need to realize that they are children and they don't make the decisions we do. Bottom line is if you take it away she won't have it but you have to be able to deal with the change until she gets use to it. It's not the child it's the parent

Sharon - posted on 04/16/2009

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Lose them one at a time until you are down to one, be honest, you are more afraid of not having it than she is. When you get down to the last one, this should be done in a short time period. Then help her to be a big girl and throw the last one away. The first day and night are the worst but, teeth are way more valuable then a binky! It is just another step in growing up. For you too, mom. Good Luck!

Roseanne - posted on 04/16/2009

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My auntie told my cousin that santa wanted his titties (his name for dummys...i'm not being rude) and he recieved an extra big present for them. And that he was a big boy now...not a little baby.
Freinds have used simular things like the dummy fairy, or when an advert or tv program has a baby crying on it...mentioned that they were crying due to not having a dummy and they child wanted to send that baby her dummy (that kid is so sweet...i'm not quite sure it would work with other children)



 



I cant talk from experience i'm afraid...as my boys never have had a dummy. Oliver couldn't suck on one due to being tongue tiees (but hell he could of done with one, i ended up being the dummy) and kyle just spat it out so i never bothered with them.



 



best of luck hunni xx

Kelly - posted on 04/16/2009

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It is really difficult but take it from her and pretend it is lost, I told my daughter that the diddy fairy had come as she thought she was now a big girl. I had one really bad night, in fact I'll be honest it was hell!! but persevere. After she had done two nights my daughter decided she was a big girl and that the fairy was bringing her a present in exchange for her old diddy, so on the 4th night I snuck into her room and left a peppa pig camper van that she had been wanting. Problem solved no more diddy!!! My daughter was just turning three. Hope this helps. 

Kelly - posted on 04/16/2009

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It is really difficult but take it from her and pretend it is lost, I told my daughter that the diddy fairy had come as she thought she was now a big girl. I had one really bad night, in fact I'll be honest it was hell!! but persevere. After she had done two nights my daughter decided she was a big girl and that the fairy was bringing her a present in exchange for her old diddy, so on the 4th night I snuck into her room and left a peppa pig camper van that she had been wanting. Problem solved no more diddy!!! My daughter was just turning three. Hope this helps. 

Cherie - posted on 04/16/2009

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we prepared ahead of time it took about 2 weeks but she finally chewed through them all...as each one got chewed we threw them into their own garbage bag....til garbage day when we had her put it in the outside trash....and told her the garbage man would take it away......we waited and watched the garbage man take them and now they are gone.....it is no longer your fault as the person taking them it is the garbage man........and the child put them into the garbage outside....so bye  bye soother and hello big girl.

Samantha - posted on 04/16/2009

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I think that the best thing to do is buy something like a toy for her and tell her that she can have it but only if she throws the pacifier away and make sure she understands that it is her decision to throw it away and that once it's gone it's gone, ive seen it done and it works a treat...

User - posted on 04/16/2009

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Both of my sons had dummies and they were both just over 3yrs when I'd had enough and decided to get rid of them. It sounds harsh but it worked. You could try cutting the ends off them, this worked for one of my boys as he couldn't suck it properly. You will probably have a couple of 'tough' days especially at times when she would normally use it, the key is to be strong and not give in, if possible try distraction. Good luck x

Mellissa - posted on 04/16/2009

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Awww your such a nice mommy. That is such a cute idea. I'm mean n made my kids throw them in the garbage lol. Your idea sounds way funner.

Mellissa - posted on 04/16/2009

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My youngest two kids both threw out their soothers when I asked them too. Thats all it took. They were both 1 1/2  at the time and once they seen that it was gone n mommy bagged up the garbage and  took it to the bin that there was no going back.

Terri - posted on 04/16/2009

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tell them they lost it...LOL

the nights will be rough, you'll wanna give in when u want peace and quiet, but be strong, in the end, its for the best...you'll save a bundle on that dentist bill...

Cathy - posted on 04/16/2009

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Post a reply! Throw ALL the pacifiers away.  I trashed my daughter's when she was a year old.  Waiting too long becomes difficult.  We resorted to talking and singing as to putting the plug in her mouth.  She never asked for it again.  Sorry to say sometimes I think the pacifier is for the parents purposes and not the child.   Its much joy listening to my children sing and have a chat than to suck on the pacifier.

Patty - posted on 04/16/2009

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I had to break my three yr old of the pacifer twice. The first time we went to the pier and he threw his "ninny" the the baby fishies. He wanted me too but I made him throw it so he couldn't say I got rid of it. When his dad died last Feb. He stopped sleeping except for maybe an hour at night and I gave the pacifer back to him for comfort. In order to break him of it a second time, we picked out a stuffed animal/blanket to replace it. There will be some rough moments but they won't last...

hopes this helps

Sonia - posted on 04/16/2009

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My son is over 2 and still has it at bedtime. I have a coworker pregnant and I've told my son that we have to give her all the soothers for her baby. We are going to have a party and he's going to put them in a box, wrap it and bring it to her. We are going to have cake too! He knows this is coming so the preparation and anticipation is helping. He has one more month. Hopefully this works....I did read this somewhere and it worked for that mom . Try that!

Kathleen - posted on 04/16/2009

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my cousin had the same problem so when i went for a visit we took her to build a bear and let her pick out a bear and we had her put the passy in the bear and we named it the passy bear.it worked wonders she only asked for it once and we old her to find her passy bear .she still has it now to this day and that was over a year ago. hope this helps

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Too bad there's not a really simple way of taking the pacifier away. I took mine away at 3 months. Even then it was a little hard. It took a week for her to readjust. But I just took it away, and kept telling myself, "It'll all be over soon" and it was!

Teresa - posted on 04/16/2009

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Just collect them all and throw them away. Tell her they are ucky now and big girls don't need those ucky things. She might scream so put in your earplugs. When she sees you aren't going to dig them out of the trash, she will give up. It worked with my four children.

Jessica - posted on 04/16/2009

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u cud tell her tha there are tiny babies who need them and wud b very happy of she could send it 2 them tie a few balloons 2 them an send them flyin the first 3 nights r the hardest just dont give in wen its done

Hannah - posted on 04/16/2009

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i told my little girl that the babies needed it more than her and she accepted it with no problem. good luck

Danielle - posted on 04/16/2009

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Instead of taking it away from her cold turkey - tell her to get all her dummies together and put them in a bag have her do it then hang it outside and tell her the dummy faries are coming to get them as she is a big girl and doesnt need it anymore and tell her when she wakes she will be left a suprise in replacement of them - once she has gone to bed replace the dummies with toys and when she finds whats in place hopefully it well help her get over it and that way she knows where they have gone etc etc - hope that helps..

Julia - posted on 04/16/2009

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hi Cassie, tell her to put it under her pillow for the dummy fairy, just like the tooth fairy and see what she will leave her instead. Or somewhere in the garden and then leave her something lovely to replace it.

Angie - posted on 04/16/2009

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My pacifier sucking child is almost 18, she gave it up at the age of 3. I had a friend who had a new baby, and Ashley (willingly) passed the pacie to the new baby... she cried for it like crazy the first night, and that was the end of the passie... come up with something creative, don't just take it away from your daughter. That way she knows that it's not just thrown away. This is her security and something that she uses for comfort. GOOD LUCK...

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i picked a date on the calander and put a fairy sticker on it. Together we counted down the days till the fairies would come, The night before they were due to arrive, we made a fairy ring on the rug with flowers and glitter and put all the dummies - (that's what we call them in australia) in the middle of the ring. In the morning the faries had taken all the dummies away and left behind some "My Little Ponies".



That was it, she never need one again.

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We put our sons soother on a plane, so we said, so when he asked for his oosh we said "remeber its on a plan with Pa" Pa was in pheonix on vacation at the time. worked like a charm, no crying and no fits.

Manda - posted on 04/15/2009

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Oh my! My daughter was a little over 6 months when we pulled hers. We didn't want her to get even more attached than she already was. We went cold turkey. We actually forgot it at home and decided that it must be a sign to do what we had been discussing, lol. And that was that! After all the screaming, we realized there was no going back. And we never did. I would suggest the same thing. It is painful at first, but after the first night, they seem to forget about it. :)

Terri - posted on 04/15/2009

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We bought a bunch of hellium balloons, tied all the pacifiers to the ends of each balloon and told our son they needed to help other children in the world.  He loved letting the balloons go so much that he didn't care that the pacies were at the end.  Maybe a little over the top, but it worked for us!  He never asked or cried again for one.  Good luck!

Tammy - posted on 04/15/2009

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I told my daughter that big girls don't use a pacifier and the first step is to throw it in the garbage when she feels like being a big girl......and well she walked over to the garbage and put it in there.....then we gathered up all the other pacifiers and threw them away when she wasn't looking for it.  she asked for it only about 2 or 3 times and we told them that the garbage men took the garbage already

Tammy - posted on 04/15/2009

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I told my daughter that big girls don't use a pacifier and the first step is to throw it in the garbage when she feels like being a big girl......and well she walked over to the garbage and put it in there.....then we gathered up all the other pacifiers and threw them away when she wasn't looking for it.  she asked for it only about 2 or 3 times and we told them that the garbage men took the garbage already

Tammy - posted on 04/15/2009

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I told my daughter that big girls don't use a pacifier and the first step is to throw it in the garbage when she feels like being a big girl......and well she walked over to the garbage and put it in there.....then we gathered up all the other pacifiers and threw them away when she wasn't looking for it.  she asked for it only about 2 or 3 times and we told them that the garbage men took the garbage already

Tammy - posted on 04/15/2009

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I told my daughter that big girls don't use a pacifier and the first step is to throw it in the garbage when she feels like being a big girl......and well she walked over to the garbage and put it in there.....then we gathered up all the other pacifiers and threw them away when she wasn't looking for it.  she asked for it only about 2 or 3 times and we told them that the garbage men took the garbage already

Tammy - posted on 04/15/2009

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I told my daughter that big girls don't use a pacifier and the first step is to throw it in the garbage when she feels like being a big girl......and well she walked over to the garbage and put it in there.....then we gathered up all the other pacifiers and threw them away when she wasn't looking for it.  she asked for it only about 2 or 3 times and we told them that the garbage men took the garbage already

Tammy - posted on 04/15/2009

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I told my daughter that big girls don't use a pacifier and the first step is to throw it in the garbage when she feels like being a big girl......and well she walked over to the garbage and put it in there.....then we gathered up all the other pacifiers and threw them away when she wasn't looking for it.  she asked for it only about 2 or 3 times and we told them that the garbage men took the garbage already

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