Any tips on weaning a 20 mnth old from breast?

Lee - posted on 05/22/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have a very dependent breast addicted daughter. Have managed to wean her down to 3 breast feeds a night (yes I know what your thinking!). Still has several during day also. Gets hysterical and screams for 'booby' when I dont give in!

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Alessia - posted on 12/05/2011

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I am so glad I am not alone here! My oldest weaned himself at 14 months, but my little guy now is just a total boobie maniac! He is 16 months old and gets hysterical as well. I've managed to cut down his feedings to where he's not on them ALL THE TIME but he's still nursing like crazy! He eats regular food and drinks cow's milk so it's not like he's starving! Help as well!

Andrea - posted on 12/05/2011

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what is this bitter tasting dutch medicine? can you get it in the states? i am having a very difficult time with a HYSTERICAL 23 month old waking up 2-3 times a night wanting to nurse. she throws herself about and screams at the top of her lungs like someone is killing her. it is absolutely awful. i have cut out night feedings all together. it is miserable, but i am doing it and only nursing a few times a day, once when she wakes up, before her nap and before bed, but not nursing to sleep anymore.

Julia - posted on 05/22/2009

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Yay for the breast-feeders! I b-fed my son til he was 18 1/2 months. Gave up cold turkey when my husband started saying he was too big to still be b-fed! It took a weekend of just not offering when I came home from work (I was on night-duty), just distracting him for the first while until he stopped asking by the Monday a.m. Then when I offered him, he refused!
I don't if this was ideal, as he developed huge temper tantrums from a young age and I often wondered if that was a factor.( He is a lovely 22 yr old now; I am blessed!)
My daughter b-fed until she was nearly 3 yrs old. My husband had got used to this whole plot by then. She would come and stand between my knees and slip her head under my shirt. No-one knew what she was doing...Of course as she was older, she didn't feed that often, but it kept us in a strong loving bond which is still there today.(She is nearly 18). She also had me in fits of laughter as she would name my breasts; "the Mommy-one" and "the Name-David one" (She knew no-one called David at that time!). One day she called them the Mommy-one and the ' Vailable! You don't have this kind of fun when they are not yet talking.
In the day-time, you could perhaps try to distract her at the crucial times.. before they happen. Leave the night feeds for last as this is such a precious stage with your child. Once it is over you cannot get it back and you will miss it once she is out of it.
It is also a wonderful source of comfort for when they have "owies" or are ill.
Having said all that.... I probably haven't been of much help at all!

Debbie - posted on 05/22/2009

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Am feeling for you as been there with my middle child - finally id had enough at 22 months but she had other ideas! I decided that during the day would be the first time to stop and just went cold turkey and each time she screamed i offered her a beaker of milk. Took several days of my telling her she was a big girl and my boobies didnt work any more in the daytime and screaming for her to give up but she did... which left the night feeds (as she always fed herself to sleep). These i did after about a week (as much for my comfort as hers) and decided on a new routine for bed which didnt involve milk and just offered her the beaker and told her she was too big and my boobies didnt work any more. . .

It was hard and tiring (esp when would wake up bursting to the seams ready for her to feed) but i was determined and that really is what you need - to be absolutely sure you wont give in.

If you have a partner to help could they take over the night time sessions for a couple of days to break the cycle of expecting you to feed?

Good luck.

Debbie - posted on 05/22/2009

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Am feeling for you as been there with my middle child - finally id had enough at 22 months but she had other ideas! I decided that during the day would be the first time to stop and just went cold turkey and each time she screamed i offered her a beaker of milk. Took several days of my telling her she was a big girl and my boobies didnt work any more in the daytime and screaming for her to give up but she did... which left the night feeds (as she always fed herself to sleep). These i did after about a week (as much for my comfort as hers) and decided on a new routine for bed which didnt involve milk and just offered her the beaker and told her she was too big and my boobies didnt work any more. . .

It was hard and tiring (esp when would wake up bursting to the seams ready for her to feed) but i was determined and that really is what you need - to be absolutely sure you wont give in.

If you have a partner to help could they take over the night time sessions for a couple of days to break the cycle of expecting you to feed?

Good luck.

Nazreen - posted on 05/22/2009

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i used a very bitter tasting Dutch medicine which i put on my nipples whenever my daughter wanted "booby".. she never asked for it again!

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