Anybody else?.. (Preferably around 18 or so..) All advice/input welcome.

Erika - posted on 01/04/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )

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Is there anybody else on here that are in the same situation as I am?..
My baby's father and I we dating and I got pregnant, he ended up leaving (he says he doesn't know why and because I didn't love and cuddle on him anymore or want to have sex alot like before I was pregnant {I was pregnant and hormonal.. I guess he didn't quite understand that..}), he was with this other girl and a week before I was due we started talking again and he was saying how he wanted to be with me, he loved me, he couldn't sleep cause he was thinking about me, etc., so when I went into labor he came to the hospital, when we left he came home with me and was pretty much living with me. After two months straight of him being there he said he had to talk to me and I knew it was probably going to be something bad so I tried to brace myself, we went to my room and I sat down on the bed, he started hugging me and not saying anything, then after a few minutes (still hugging me) he started crying and said you know I love you don't you. I said yes and said it back as I started to cry also. Then he said 'so and so' is pregnant and we both started crying harder. I asked him what he was going to do and he said he was going to be with me but also be a father to both. We talked a little more and then go up and carried on with our day while I processed what just happened. We ended up 'breaking up' and him going back to his dad which was right down the road from the other girl's house and within the time he was there she came over blah blah blah, they started 'not being together' (what I was told) again, her being over there and talking about him on facebook and everything, then him and I were back 'together'. Same thing 1 or 2 more times. Then as it was coming closer to the other baby being born I asked him what his plan was and he still said to be with me so I asked about when the baby got here and he said to go to the hospital and all. I was a little uncomfortable with it but I wasn't going to be like "no you can't or we're not going to be together" I just wanted him to at least talk to/text me to tell me how things were going, such as if everything was going okayy at the hospital, say goodnight and he loves me, just simple things because he was staying at the hospital with her over night for 2 nights and I was already freaking out because I didn't know how to handle it. It would've helped calm me down, but he didn't do any of that. We ended up 'breaking up' again. Got back together a little later and were fine. Couple months later I messaged the other girl saying we didn't have to be friends but we needed to be civil about things blah blah blah because I didn't think it was good if we were going to have kids that were related for use not to get along (done that once before while she was still pregnant). I said it as a question and she said "umm, no." so I said that it was fine but that she couldn't say I didn't try. Despite everything that happened I didn't hate her or anything but she hated me for some reason, even though she had no reason to. A couple of days later she messaged me wanting to talk about him and if he was with me because she heard he was at a party with some girl so we talked about stuff because he wasn't with me. We ended up finding out that he was sleeping with both of us. I talked to him and he admitted that he slept with her once but that they weren't together that he couldn't help if she thought they were but that he didn't say or do things to make her think they were. We ended up staying 'together' and that's how we are now.. ((P.s. This is the short version....))

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