anybody going thru custody or visitation battles?

Raey - posted on 05/14/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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A while back my sons father got mad at me and of all things to say he says " Well im leaving and taking him with me" "Im going to get custody of him and you arent going to see him EVER" etc. Now mind you...I am a wonderful mother. (everything he said was out of spite) My son was in the NICU for 49days (I had him 11weeks early), I was by his side EVERYDAY & his father isnt even on the birth certificate nor did he sign a acknowledgement of paternity. all in all i was hurt because it is usually the mothers who try to keep their kids away from the fathers for various reasons (which, i never brought up custody EVER) long story short. my sons father moved out of my home, i filed for custody, and my babyboy is with me. so we'll have to go to mediation and come to an agreement about custody and/or visitation. I just want to know if anyone is going thru what I am. questions, comments, concerns, someone to talk to would be nice...

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My ex threatened to take my girls away and never bring them back if I didn't let him take them when he wanted. I didn't and he didn't, but it's been over 3 years and I still don't trust him. Never will. He DOES have visitation, but it's all set up through the court.

He walked out of my kids lives for 17 months and then walked in to court and asked for full custody. I'm really surprised the judge didn't laugh him out of the court room, but I guess they're more used to that nonsense than I was. Anyway.... that was the day that I got permanent full legal and physical custody...

It IS scary, but hopefully he is one of the men that are all talk. Hang in there!

Raey - posted on 05/14/2011

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thank you so much. and did you ask for child support or apply for tanf? i recently just applied for tanf because financially i have done everything for my son by myself. buying his crib, clothes, swing, toys etc. he hasnt bought a thing. and at first i refused to apply because i wanted as lil to do with him as possible but now i realize sometimes money toward my son would help alot. if he wants to be man enough to act the way he has been then he can be man enough to help me pay for our child as far as im concerned.

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Roseann - posted on 10/13/2015

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I live in Ohio and it certainly is not a maternal state
My daughter is fighting for custody for her daughter
The fathers name wasn't on the birth certificate either
The child is 5 and the only time he paid child support is the day of the court hearing
And he paid that in one lump sum
Didn't even provide health care until a few days before the hearing
Really need some help advice for this custody battle

Smile - posted on 08/20/2011

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How did court end up going?
I have a 9 month old fully breast fed son, we live in Kentucky and the father now lives in California.
He is wanting 10 day visits per month starting next month.
We went to mediation this last week and he wouldnt do anything less then 10 days per month starting next month so now I guess its up to the judge?
Do you guys think that would be good for my son who hasnt seen his father since he was 4 months old (fathers choice not to see him) Im scared help!!!!!
Let me know how your court went please?

Also I posted a question about my case with full details if anyone could please please please help me with advice stories and opinions

http://www.circleofmoms.com/welcome-to-c...

Katherine - posted on 05/14/2011

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At best he'll get every other weekend, he's not even on the birth certificate so you could actually drag this out for awhile. He would have to pay for a paternity test, he really can't do a damn thing. Sounds like an idiot to me and not thinking things through. If he wants to see his child great, but he can/should go through the court. Don't be worried at ALL.
http://singleparents.about.com/od/legali...

Raey - posted on 05/14/2011

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I live in Virginia. i was told its a "Mother state" but you know its just scary when anyone says "im going to take your child away from you" especially when ive done nothing wrong at all. he called and apologized but..im still going thru with the case because im sure he'll try to pull this stunt again.

Katherine - posted on 05/14/2011

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I would NOT worry. He is just trying to scare you. I am going through the same thing. You have been the primary caregiver and he has been NOTHING. He will not get custody. Most states are what they call "maternal" states. Where do you live?

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