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Lisa - posted on 01/14/2009

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I am a Mom(step-mom) to 2 girls and a boy, they are now 33, 27 & 24. When I came into their lives they were 5, 8 & 16 and they are AWESOME!!!!! I have had an awesome relationship with all 3 of them. I have always told them that I would never try to take the place of their Mom, but that I love them as tho they were my own kids, I dont like to say they are my step-kids, they are my kids and I tell them that. I have always been involved in their school activities and do things with them to try to be involved as much as I can, their Dad and I have a 16 yr old together and they are close and she goes and stays at their houses and they do things as siblings do. Kids are so different now a days, just keep your faith and remind them you love them and will be there for them. I am also a grandparent thru this and IT'S WONDERFUL!!! I would do anything for these kids and they know I would.

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Theresa - posted on 01/04/2012

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To all step parents i am a step parent to and you know what my husband is also and i have two children that is not my husband but he love them all the same but the big thing is my son which is my husband son excepted me and we talked on the phone and make it so bad he found out a lot when he became a man and called me and talked to me i alway talt my children about there brother and they love him and so do i he findly found out somethings about his mother and it hurt him concerting that his mother talt him against his father but any way as the get older they start to understand things and what happen with there parents and if they dont talk to you tell your husband how you feel about itespecially when you tryed if it was your children miss treating you there mother would say to there dad i dont want her talking to my kids so you do the same but like this honey this is not working and you need to maybe change where they spend the night and just let them spend some time with you for a few hours and then go home for an while them down the line we can start with the stay over again.

Julie - posted on 01/04/2012

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I got married in October and I am a stepmom to 3 daughters. I do have one child that is mine. The daughters are ages 10, 12 and 17. Mine is 19.

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Quoting Leeanne:

i'm a step mum to a 14 year old boy and 11 year old girl and try as i can it's not a easy relationship...they can spend the whole weekend in our house and not say one word to me in entire time.... which can make for a hard weekend. any help????



I'm a stepmom to 3 boys 18, 12 and 11 and 1 girl 14. My husband and I have a 9 month old daughter and have been together for 81/2 years and I have to say I understand the silent weekends. They are here every weekend. In the beginning it was actually great but as the years have gone by it has actually gotten worse, don't know if it is because they are teenagers or if it is because thier dad wants to basically let them get away with anything and everything, including talking back to me. I would like to tell you it gets better but in my case it hasn't. I am so glad I have a child  of my own now, it definitly puts my mind somewhere else. A counselor once told me to act like their Aunt instead of a Mom, that did not workk for me, but you might try.Good luck!

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Quoting Leeanne:

i'm a step mum to a 14 year old boy and 11 year old girl and try as i can it's not a easy relationship...they can spend the whole weekend in our house and not say one word to me in entire time.... which can make for a hard weekend. any help????



I'm a stepmom to 3 boys 18, 12 and 11 and 1 girl 14. My husband and I have a 9 month old daughter and have been together for 81/2 years and I have to say I understand the silent weekends. They are here every weekend. In the beginning it was actually great but as the years have gone by it has actually gotten worse, don't know if it is because they are teenagers or if it is because thier dad wants to basically let them get away with anything and everything, including talking back to me. I would like to tell you it gets better but in my case it hasn't. I am so glad I have a child  of my own now, it definitly puts my mind somewhere else. A counselor once told me to act like their Aunt instead of a Mom, that did not workk for me, but you might try.Good luck!

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Quoting Leeanne:

i'm a step mum to a 14 year old boy and 11 year old girl and try as i can it's not a easy relationship...they can spend the whole weekend in our house and not say one word to me in entire time.... which can make for a hard weekend. any help????



I'm a stepmom to 3 boys 18, 12 and 11 and 1 girl 14. My husband and I have a 9 month old daughter and have been together for 81/2 years and I have to say I understand the silent weekends. They are here every weekend. In the beginning it was actually great but as the years have gone by it has actually gotten worse, don't know if it is because they are teenagers or if it is because thier dad wants to basically let them get away with anything and everything, including talking back to me. I would like to tell you it gets better but in my case it hasn't. I am so glad I have a child  of my own now, it definitly puts my mind somewhere else. A counselor once told me to act like their Aunt instead of a Mom, that did not workk for me, but you might try.Good luck!

Danielle - posted on 01/14/2009

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I am a stepmom to three beautiful kids and i have four of my own as well.. Our families have be blended for three years now and all the kids already say that they are all brothers and sisters ...It is amazing  together we have children ranging in ages 4,5,6,7,11,12,and 14 we have four children living with us and the rest with us on the weekends and vacations.. It is pretty amazing and we sometimes wonder if we will ever have children together but for now we love our huge family !!!

Kimmy - posted on 01/13/2009

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replying to Leeanne.....I was in the same boat..with the same sex and age as yours.....only now they are 22 and 19...and still won't speak to me...lol..and now they have a baby brother 2yrs old and a baby sister on the way.....and the step-daughter, wants no part of me or the siblings....my weekends were torture when they were over...the silent treatment was a killer..but now I have my own babies, and it is different...I wish you luck..I definatly know how hard it can be...believe me!!!!!!!!!!!

Kimmy - posted on 01/13/2009

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Quoting Leeanne:

i'm a step mum to a 14 year old boy and 11 year old girl and try as i can it's not a easy relationship...they can spend the whole weekend in our house and not say one word to me in entire time.... which can make for a hard weekend. any help????


 

Shareka - posted on 12/17/2008

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Glad to meet other step moms:)I have 2 step kids and 3 more of my own..we zig and zag as a blended family and have stayed strong ONLY by putting CHRIST first, in our marriage and family..

Shaffai - posted on 12/17/2008

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Relief! I too am also a step-parent, step-mom! It has it's ups and downs, just as "regular parenting", lots more drama, but I won't let myself forget that I am the step-PARENT (parent being the operative word here). Life would be alot easier if the actual mother would have tried to get on board with me, but she chooses to lead her kids down a very dark unfullfilling path! Fortunately, on the flipside of this matter, one of my daughters also has a step-parent....and together she and I make the best of the situation, as we do not add unnecessary drama, stress or pressure to my daughter. So I guess you could say I have the best of both worlds. I would love to connect with different step parents to see how some things are handled differently. Good luck to all!

Leeanne - posted on 12/17/2008

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i'm a step mum to a 14 year old boy and 11 year old girl and try as i can it's not a easy relationship...they can spend the whole weekend in our house and not say one word to me in entire time.... which can make for a hard weekend. any help????

Kimmy - posted on 12/16/2008

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I am a step-mom of a 22 yr old and a 19 yr old with a 2 yr old of ours together and one on the way......it has been rocky...as we have been together (my husband and I) for 9 1/2 yrs.....My step-daughter HATES me from day 1 and my step-son is going through something where he doesn't like me much anymore either!!! The hardest part for me is I wish my step-daughter would have a realtionship with our children together....her baby brother and sister to be.....it is sad that he doesn't know his sister...that she wants no part of him....

Meegan - posted on 12/16/2008

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I am a stepmom. I have three stepsons, one 2 yr. old of my own and another on the way. Connecting with other stepmoms is a great idea!

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