Anyone else friends with their step-kids mom?

Brenda - posted on 10/10/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I've been with my husband awhile now, but after we became pregnant his daughters mom become very jealous and a bit crazy. She hated me and decided to take him to court to take custody away from him, I think the thought of us starting a family and how serious we were killed her inside..so she decided to make my pregnancy hell! Anyways after i had my daughter everything calmed down, I let her know that, "no matter what, whether you like me or not my daughter and your daughter will always be sisters and theres nothing that you do or say that will change that" after that conversation her guard went down a bit and i noticed her attitude around us changed she actually put my opinion into consideration and viewed me as a second mom to her daughter which i adore! we are civil around each other I'm happy we are on the same page about how we are all raising our daughter but i still haven't put my guard down and don't really trust her around me or my daughter after all the mean things she said and did while i was pregnant.. i don't know what to do. apart of my wants to just put everything aside and be more open to communicate but at the same time i want to continue being reserved and to ourselves. ex being having one big birthday with all our families vs two separate birthdays..

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Jodi - posted on 10/10/2014

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I wouldn't say you are friends with her. I would say you have both just stepped up to be the adults in the relationship. I'm fine with my husband's exes. We've always had a "civil" relationship. But that's hardly called being "friends". My interests are far too different to theirs to be friends. But I am not enemies and I respect them, and vice versa.

At the end of the day, you don't have to be friends with them, but you do have to be able to communicate in an adult manner, and respect who they are, and that's all that counts.

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Brenda - posted on 10/11/2014

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Jodi,
Thats true, we are civil nothing more nothing less we out our differences aside because we have one thing in common and thats her daughter. It just sucks sometimes because i have all this hate built towards her that sometimes when she does try to start a conversation or just be nice it makes me mad! I dont say anything or act on it because its pointless..

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