Anyone else think they might have PMDD?

Sarah - posted on 06/09/2009 ( 33 moms have responded )

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I really think I do. I've made an appt with my doctor but wanted to hear from some other moms. I lose total control of my temper when I'm pre-menstrual. I yell unneccesarily at my babies. they're only 4 and 2 (i have a 15 month old too but I don't yell at him , although he does witness it all) and I have ENORMOUS guilt for being this way. They don't deserve it and it's for the stupidest little things. The whole time there's a voice in my head whispering, "WHAT ARE YOU DOING!?" the voice is like the "normal" me trying to shut down this monster. But I literally feel like I have no control. I apologize to them for all the yelling and tell them they're good kids but they're so little and I feel like I'm scarring them. I'm a single mom so taking a time out for myself isn't an option.

The guilt is unbearable especially because around that time I'm a weepy mess too so I just cry and cry about it afterward, after they're in bed.

I don't want them to feel bad or be scared or think they're bad kids.

Anyone else go through this and/or try meds and how did they work if you did?

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Wendy - posted on 06/10/2009

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Sarah, I have been just like you and my body also cannot tolerate any unnatural hormones, I've tried them all. Our bodies weren't designed to be fed synthetic hormones and drugs. Your body is unbalanced and when something is unbalanced, it won't run smoothly. I strongly suggest maybe think about finding a really good Naturopath like I did. They help you balance your whole body out naturally, the way it is meant to be. Listen to your body, it is telling you it is out of whack and can't handle unnatural quick fixers. Do yourself a favour and find some natural healing methods. (Bach flower remedy's work a treat at high stress times, maybe speak to your local Health Food store as well? Good Luck Sarah:)

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Bev - posted on 06/11/2009

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You are so not alone in this....I've been fighting this since the I started having my babies. After each one it just got worse. My doctor prescribed anti dep... I tried just taking them the week before but that just didn't help a whole lot. I just wound up taking them all the time. It can take a couple of weeks for them to actually work properly so I didn't have the full effect of them when I needed them to work. I also found that going off and on them all the time gave me huge headaches. Everybody reacts different to them and it's finding the right one, right dose. What works for one may not work at all for the next person. Good luck and try and take it easy on yourself. You will get through this....keep in mind you are doing it for yourself and your babies....if you ever need to vent send out a message!

Roslyn - posted on 06/10/2009

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hey girls, i have been through the same cycle, but not wanting to go on the pill, i went to the homeopath. She has worked wonders for me. the best thing is that is has evened out my cycle, and i dont need to take medication every month and i understand my body and myself better. its worth a shot! get a recommendatin from someone if possible, because there is a big variation of practitioners out there. good luck!

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Stevie - posted on 04/09/2012

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I am a stay at home mom of two boys the oldest will be 2 next month and the youngest is 8 months, I don't think I had PMDD before my first baby and since he was only 5-6 months old when I got pregnant with my second I didn't really notice in between but I feel the exact same way as you! I'm not a single mom but for the amount of time my boyfriend works and his unhelpfulness when he is home I feel like I almost might as well be :( I get angry over everything and just want to hit myself and cry ALL the time. I started YAZ birth control pills after hearing they are supposed to help but after the first two pill packs I"m back to my psychotic old self and I too feel the massive guilt of looking like a complete unstable mess and alarming my toddler. I just want to cry more when he asks "mommy whats wrong?" I don't really have any close friends anymore because I don't have my drivers license or a second car and my only close friend I rarely ever see anymore, my mother says I'm being "dramatic" and to stop scaring my children which as you can guess really helps me feel better about myself. Compounded with the PMDD I also have bad ADD which I can't afford medication for since I'm not working and my boyfriend has no drug plan so simple tasks like keeping the house clean are a huge struggle to me at the best of times. Basically I feel totally lost and useless like I'm failing my kids every move I make. Pretty much everyone in my life thinks I'm lazy, incapable, don't care or just a bitch including my boyfriend and I'm really starting to get depressed and especially when I am premenstrual I have terrible thoughts about hurting myself becauise I just don't see a light at the end of the tunnel. I love my boys so much and I want to give them everything and I just feel like I can't. My doctor seems sympathetic but I suspect thinks PMDD is just some imaginary disease people use as an excuse to describe their lazy/useless/bitchy/stupidness. I feel so overwhelmed like everyone has turned their back on me and I just don't know how I can get help!

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Hi! My name is Heidi LaGrow. I had all kinds of issues with that time of the month too. Physically and emotionally. Before you decide to go on any of the medication that the doctors and pharmacudicals all want you to spend your money on, try some natural remedies. Get yourself off all the products that have any petroleum products in them. Petroleum really screws with the hormones leaving them all unbalanced. Also, you might want to consider doing a detoxification on yourself. Also, if you're not pregnant, Dong Quai is an herb that comes in a tea that you could take regularly to keep you normalized in your hormones. Hope that helps!

Dawn - posted on 06/12/2009

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i find that the older i am getting the worse it gets , so i usually keep a calender and look to see when it begins , i started taking a natural vitamin , called fever few. you can get it at GNC. it works miracles and it is natural, acouple of my girlfriends told me about it and ot worked for them. now i am feeling better near that time of the month.

Amber - posted on 06/12/2009

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Are you only showing these signs around your period? Because I too am a single mom of a 2 and 4 year old. No boyfriend for support emotionally or anything and I feel like this almost everyday at times. Yelling uncontrollably, crying after they are in bed, etc. It's getting better as time goes on and I'm able to better deal with being a single mom AND I don't have a period. I have and IUD which suspended your period for 5 years. So it could be the stres and emotional trauma that you yourself are in right now dealing with 3 very young children. Just a thought. I wish I had more words of advice. To help me with my kids when I feel like they aren't following directions before I start yelling now I talk to my kids and say, "Mommy is really starting to feel frustrated! I need to start to breathe. 3 (Big Breathe) 2 (Another breathe) 1 (Another breathe)." The reason I do this is it gathers my thoughts and calms me down and at the same time, I am teaching my children how to manage their anger in a healthy way and talk about their feelings so they know what frustration means. Then we talk about the problem and they do it. Anyway, not sure if any of this is helpful. But I hope something is for you. Good luck!

Lora - posted on 06/11/2009

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I haven't been professionally diagnosed with PMDD, just know that I have the symptoms but haven't discussed it with the doctor because all they do is want to put you on pills. We have breast cancer in the family and I refuse to take any hormonal pills, I have been taking St. John's Wart and Mood Magic for Women (natural oils) and it does help, along with trying to have a regular daily routine, enough sleep (like that's possible) and exercise. WII fit is fun! Try it... I prefer alternatives to medicine anyday.

Jessica - posted on 06/11/2009

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Dear Sarah,
I have a good friend that suffered from PMDD for over 20 years because she didn't want to have to take meds. She ended up having to live away from her family for a week and a half out of each month because it was that bad. She started taking a nutritional supplement and within 2 1/2 months her PMDD was under control without drugs and no side effects. If you'd like more information, let me know. E-mail me at jbarnum921@msn.com

Beth - posted on 06/11/2009

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Diet and exercise is the only thing that will work. I used to be very emotionally disturbed before I changed my diet starting taking Juice Plus and exercising on a regular basis. My periods have become more predictable, painless, and lighter! I have a better control of my emotions and a clearer mind! I would be happy to tell you how I did it... just email me personally :O)

Heather - posted on 06/11/2009

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Sarah, i've often wondered about cysts or some type of endometriosis. Every annual exam has been completely normal! i asked my gyno about it as it was happening, while insured, and he said those things were quite normal. I'm quite anxious for the new ins to kick in, by Aug, and will be seeking a second opinion. When i did 4 different kinds of bc over a years time, i would only be ok for about the first two months and then would immediately in the 3rd month of the trial, bleed through them like i was on nothing. i then spent a little time on Wellbutrin, which helped the moods but increased the irregularity! I hate it and will be seeking treatment as soon as possible. the past 5 years have been hell for me and i'm ready for a treatment or an answer!

ELICIA - posted on 06/11/2009

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Hey Sarah,

Yes it is real and no you ar not going crazy. I spoke to my doctor about yaz. Because just what you discribe is what I go through 3 so days before the cycle hits, so no I don't get the cramps but my boys feel the ringing in the ear from my rath. Hang in there. Don't give up hope that you can get this under control. So my doc wants to see me so that we can talk about it. But... not ubtil the 23rd so if you could hang in there I promise I will ahve areport for you. Just keep in mind that it may work for you i a whole different way.

Sarah - posted on 06/11/2009

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wow, thanks everyone for all the responses!!!! It's so good to know I'm not alone and as much as I feel like a total psycho when it's happening, I know I'm not. I think I'll probably ask to try an antidepressant at first just because I want something with a pretty good chance of success and low risk of side effects.

Sharon- I hear what you're saying about hormones being natural whether they are produced in your body or put there from a pill but there are just so many side effects and being that I'm not needing them to avoid pregnancy (I don't do anything that would risk a pregnancy!!! :) ) it seems like killing a mosquito with a machine gun to go that route unless nothing else works.

Heather - gosh it almost sounds like there are other issues at play there. Is the bleeding a lot? does it last for days? I'm wondering if it could be cysts or something? Although I'm not sure if the bleeding post coitus is a symptom of those.

Bev- did switching to daily anti-dep help?

anyone ever try evening primrose oil?

Laura- i'm too nervous to try BCs, i'd definitely be too nervous to try meds i got offline LOL I'm leaving all options open but I'm going to take the long way to the ones I'm nervous about. BTW i LOVE your profile picture. What great shots.

LAURA - posted on 06/11/2009

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Hi Sarah, I went through something similar in Jan this year & really thought I was losing the plot!! Felt very out of control.! I remembered seeing some pills advertised years ago & thought .....this might be what I need. They are called 30 Plus - they are natural & basically balance out your hormones. They say they take 6 - 8 weeks to work but I found myself feeling a lot calmer in the 1st week. I have been telling everyone about them as they have really helped me to become "me" again!! I am in Australia but I know you can order them through a lot of the pharmacy websites....I'm guessing you are in the states? If you would like any more details please ask. I call them my happy pills & a friend calls them her anti demon pills!! :-) but since I have been taking them I have not gone backwards at all.....thank god!!

Sharon - posted on 06/11/2009

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Sarah- as you can see, you are definitely not alone in this. What you have to do is find out what works for you and honestly, that can take awhile.

Yaz is great and I know lots of women who have been helped by it. It worked for me for about 6 months; then my symptoms got worse. My mood swings never returned to the highs and lows I had experienced before, but I still had the out of control episodes. Remember this- hormones are hormones. Hormones naturally occur in the body and while contraceptives are not naturally occurring- they are hormones, just like your body makes. What they do is alter the amount of each respective hormone you have at a time in your body. It is also something you will have to take daily.

Anti-depressants are the same in that you will have to take them daily; most (not all) people do not get any benefit from taking them on an "as-needed" basis because the drug has to build up in your body to take effect.

There are natural remedies you can try- exercise is the best, along with staying away from alcohol and sugars. I finally got away from hormones and have tried the natural route. It seems to be working; but that's my body and my body is different from everyone else. I also have a very supportive husband who allows me to have "down-time" when I need it.

Everyone has their own advice, pro or anti-drug. Try different things. Don't be afraid to find what works for you; you're doing it for your family and whatever works for you isn't bad! Good luck!

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I had PMDD (I had only one 'good' week per month ;o) AND post-partum psychosis with my first 2 kids....all (of course) hormonally related.....Zoloft helped both problems. DO NOT use artificial hormones for anything, especially if there's breast cancer in your family. Try to find a doctor/psychiatrist who specializes in women's issues (a woman in my opinion could offer the best help - men have never had a period - they'd never understand...) - I did and she really helped! Good luck....

Meagan - posted on 06/11/2009

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G'day Sarah! My name is Meagan, and yes I can appreciate what you are going through, although I am not a single mum, I still suffer from something very similar to what your goig through I didn't know why I am always yelling at my kids either. I just blame PMT or PMS which is what PMDD is, but, I don't like the thought of taking any drugs, cause I don't believe that would be a good solution, instead I try vitamins and maybe a homeopathic solution. I hope this has helped you, just wanted to let you know your not alone. Ok Take care.

Linda - posted on 06/11/2009

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I remember telling my health care provider, I don't even like myself when the PMMD sx's start. I feel the older I get the worse it is. I will be 44 next month. Nothing has been done yet, I have my next annual in a few months I will be bringing it up again.

Tabatha - posted on 06/11/2009

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There has got to be a better way of dealing with this. I'm tired of taking all kinds of pills then dealing with all the side effects of those! Besides hiding out in a dark room so everyone is safe, what are some natural ways of getting through these days? I know running or be active will take the edge off! Anyone else w/ an opinion?

Heather - posted on 06/11/2009

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i have been suffering for a long time with irregularity and irritability! i've even gone so far as to try weight loss because i thought it was due to the obesity. well that's not even working. and to boot, i don't know if any of you experience this one, but everytime i have intercourse with my husband i actually start bleeding then and doesn't subside for many days. just like having an additional period. So no wonder i'm slways exhausted! I'm certain there's an iron defficiency at this point. these symptoms have been going on since i was about 4 months post-partum with my son, who is now almost 5. (who was, btw, breastfed for almost 9 months!!) I've been without a job and ins due to the economic's impact on the auto indusrty! So there is no doctor appointments in my near future. if anyone can relate i would love to hear anything there is to be said about this as well.

Irene - posted on 06/11/2009

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I was diagnosed with PMDD last year after trying to put it off for almost 2 yrs. I referred to it as my PMS psychosis or PMS on steroids. After doing some research, I found that it is not necessarily hormone related. I am not on any hormone treatments or contraceptives. The usual treatment if it is PMDD is a low dose anti-depressant taken just as needed. You don't even have to take it all month, only for the week before your period when everything is so crazy. The big key with PMDD is do the symptoms stop when your period starts?
You are doing the right thing going to your doctor to find out what is going on. Hang in there. And remember everyone freaks out occasionally. If you show your kids you love them, they will not be permanently scarred by occasional freak outs. Thank goodness or my kids would all be maniacs. ;)

Lori - posted on 06/11/2009

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Hi Sarah, I have had this problem for years. I have tried everything from Prozac to Yaz.. Zoloft? Forget it. I have much better luck with Xanax. It calms my nerves. I am so embarrassed after the fact. I cry uncontrollably, say mean and hateful things, and forget about driving. I cannot stand anyone on the road! I do very irrational things like trying to cook supper with a towel wrapped around me and crying at the same time. You must try different meds and experiment with them. I find that exercise helps me. I try to avoid caffeine around that time, too. My husband really endures a lot of crap from me around this time but if I take my Xanax, I'm okay.... Good luck to you!

Tabatha - posted on 06/11/2009

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Sarah, I suffered from PMDD. I noticed I was getting worse with my "PMS" and had been for years. Wasn't sure if it was just age or what. Then I found it affecting my relationships and myself. I found I wasn't happy at all. I was depressed! I hated it! I knew I had to do something about it because it had stolen my identity. It took me from a happy person who could joke around to a very serious, misearable person who found no good in anything, not even family. Earlier in life I was afraid to get on medication because I didn't want to be labeled "Depressed". Well, the more I looked into PMDD I realized that is exactly what I had. I finally spoke to my doctor who prescribed Fluoxetine to me. 20 mg a day, once a day. I filled the prescription and started taking it. I knew I had no choice. Guess what? It worked. I found myself again. I found happiness again. It was the best decission I ever made. My doctor's before who I had spoke to in regards to my mood swings, my HEAVY cycles, would tell me the same thing, you can get on birth control. I didn't want to take birth control when I was done having children, had my tubes tied LONG ago and didn't feel I needed it. I had a procedure done to lighten or take away my cycle all together. I DO NOT regret that at all! I also go on the meds. I chose to take them every day versus just two weeks prior to my start date. I didn't want to have to worry about remembering when I needed to start taking them. My doctor left it up to me.

I hope this helps to you and to any others who are dealing with this. I really wish I had done it sooner. My heart breaks when I think of all those women who suffer from PMDD and have no idea or deny it out of pride and loose the things in life that are most precious to them.

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Quoting Sarah:

Anyone else think they might have PMDD?

I really think I do. I've made an appt with my doctor but wanted to hear from some other moms. I lose total control of my temper when I'm pre-menstrual. I yell unneccesarily at my babies. they're only 4 and 2 (i have a 15 month old too but I don't yell at him , although he does witness it all) and I have ENORMOUS guilt for being this way. They don't deserve it and it's for the stupidest little things. The whole time there's a voice in my head whispering, "WHAT ARE YOU DOING!?" the voice is like the "normal" me trying to shut down this monster. But I literally feel like I have no control. I apologize to them for all the yelling and tell them they're good kids but they're so little and I feel like I'm scarring them. I'm a single mom so taking a time out for myself isn't an option.
The guilt is unbearable especially because around that time I'm a weepy mess too so I just cry and cry about it afterward, after they're in bed.
I don't want them to feel bad or be scared or think they're bad kids.
Anyone else go through this and/or try meds and how did they work if you did?


I started going to a caropractor 'wellness center'...works wonders!

Kristen - posted on 06/10/2009

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I didn't even know there was such thing as PMDD and these out of control emotions that happened every month could be managed. I have had my tubes tied so didn't need to be on the pill so my dr. prescribed Zoloft - my "happy z's!" I take them as the "pulse method" - the lowest does 25mg (which is 1/2 a pill) - 10 days BEFORE my period and about 3 days in to it. HUGE difference!!! I did not experience any of the side effects this way - no weight gain or "fuzzy" feeling because of the low dose. It takes the edge off the crazy feelings and helps me cope during the off time of the month. Give it a try - you've got nothing to loose!

Ruth - posted on 06/10/2009

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Poor you. I know you say you don't want to take the contraceptive pill but it might be the thing that you need to do. I also don't like the thought of putting false hormones inside my body but if that's what it takes to calm your temper then that's what you'll have to do. It's like when people are depressed but they don't want to take tablets - surely your and your family's happiness are worth giving it a go?

I'm pregnant at the mo and my hormones are haywire. Sometimes I'm absolutely livid for no reason at all. I shout at my kids, then the guilt I feel onced I've calmed down is unbearable.

I feel for you, I really do. Perhaps you could look into alternative treatments like acupuncture? What about a change in your diet? I'm sure if you google it, there'll be plenty of suggestions x

Tracy - posted on 06/10/2009

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I know how you feel,I went to my doctor & was given the cotraceptive pill but that didn't work,I feel let down as the doctors haven't helped at all,so if you do manage to find something then please let me know...

Sandy - posted on 06/10/2009

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I've struggled with this for years. I have about two days a month when I get irritated or sad easy, start arguing with kids or husband then go into a depression-feeling very overwhelmed. I've tried all sorts of anti-depressants. Some work for a awhile. Biggest side affect was a decrease in my sex drive. Not good! Then I started taking Sertraline/Zoloft two weeks before my period. Kinda worked but still had problems with the sex drive. So now I try to narrow down when I get moody and take it that morning or when I feel the first signs of moodiness. It also helps to warn my husband when I start feeling that way. He trys not to aggravate me those days. I call it my "chill pill" and carry it in my purse. I also wish there was another way to control this without medication.

Sarah - posted on 06/10/2009

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i thought maybe you were on a contraceptive pill already, and if you changed types it may help. i think there are pills that can help with PMT that aren't contraceptives, but i'm not sure. best bet is to see your doctor and see what they suggest. sorry i couldn't be of more help! hope you find something that helps! :)

Sarah - posted on 06/10/2009

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I don't really want to be on the pill. I just don't like messing with my hormones and all the possible side effects, etc. I don't need it to prevent pregnancy but my hormones have started messing with ME so I'm thinking of the pill. I don't know what is safer, the pill or anti-depressants. I read somewhere that SRRI's (antidepressants) have helped some and they only take it 2 wks prior to their period so they're medicating less and I like this idea but I'm not fully aware of the risks.

Sarah - posted on 06/09/2009

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Hi Sarah, i used to get very pre-menstrual!! when i went to see the doctor they suggested changing the contraceptive pill i was on, it worked wonders!! :)

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