Anyone Feel Oh-So-Slightly Put Down by Montessori / Waldorf Moms?

Kathryn - posted on 08/11/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi All,
I have a 6 and 8 year old boys. I am a single mom by all rights. Their father is not able to take them weekends, every other day, etc. (That's a story in its self though). If I'm lucky, or if the boys are in school or Summer camp, I get a few hours free. I have them ALL OF THE TIME.
I have gotten used to people who have no children giving me advice on how to make my boys behave, which is irritating enough. Or, moms insisting that I read book on how to raise your children. But, my issue now is with moms that are raising their children in the Waldorf / Montessori tradition. Personally, I love what I have read about some of their beliefs and my boys have had a teacher during one of their school years that was Waldorf trained. However, I do NOT appreciate moms who are 100% Waldorf or Montessori who seem to have an underlying holier-than-thou aura when I am around them and my boys are with their children.
I had mentioned once to one of these moms that I had to buy a few things at Walmart for the prices (again, single mom here) and that I am looking to an alternative to Walmart since I am sickened by their greed. The mom made an under the breath "I thought so..." directly after she asked where I was going shopping. This mom also asked me not to let my child bring a remote control helicopter to her house as they don't "allow electronic toys." I was surprised since my boys would only be there 2 hours and would play with it outside but I apologized and did not get angry or bent out of shape at all. After all, it is her house.
I am a very live and live person and try hard not to judge. I only interfere if asked to or if there is an innocent, helpless being involved (child, animals, the earth).
I do not appreciate the silence I get when I mention something non-waldorfy or non-Montessori to this mom and her friends.
By the way, this mom has one son (aged 1) and her step son is there only half the time. And, she has a husband and parents who help her out.
Just trying to give the full picture.
And, by the way, I have another friend who insists that I embrace the Lord and all will be fine. At least she is overt about it so I am on equal ground, if that makes sense!
Any suggestions / advice? We all live in the same neighborhood and they are my boy's friends so it's important that I keep a good relationship with their friend's moms.
Thank you!

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Kathryn - posted on 08/13/2013

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Okay...think I got the picture. Guess this was a topic that is not to be discussed. Thank you, Evelyn, for having the kindness to show some support.

Could be getting paranoid here but maybe I this is another clique?

Kathryn - posted on 08/11/2013

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Thanks, Evelyn. I think I'm just super-sensitive due to exhaustion and feeling overwhelmed so often. I just don't need judgment, I need support. Us moms should be able to do that for each other. Just bugs me but you're right, time to start shrugging! :)

Ev - posted on 08/11/2013

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I would honestly not let their comments you catch bother you for the boys' sake. Just be polite and friendly and shrug off what they think or say about you. If you let it get to you then its going to cause undue stress and anxiety that you do not need. Otherwise, I would find some new friends.

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