Kathryn - posted on 08/11/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )
I have a 6 and 8 year old boys. I am a single mom by all rights. Their father is not able to take them weekends, every other day, etc. (That's a story in its self though). If I'm lucky, or if the boys are in school or Summer camp, I get a few hours free. I have them ALL OF THE TIME.
I have gotten used to people who have no children giving me advice on how to make my boys behave, which is irritating enough. Or, moms insisting that I read book on how to raise your children. But, my issue now is with moms that are raising their children in the Waldorf / Montessori tradition. Personally, I love what I have read about some of their beliefs and my boys have had a teacher during one of their school years that was Waldorf trained. However, I do NOT appreciate moms who are 100% Waldorf or Montessori who seem to have an underlying holier-than-thou aura when I am around them and my boys are with their children.
I had mentioned once to one of these moms that I had to buy a few things at Walmart for the prices (again, single mom here) and that I am looking to an alternative to Walmart since I am sickened by their greed. The mom made an under the breath "I thought so..." directly after she asked where I was going shopping. This mom also asked me not to let my child bring a remote control helicopter to her house as they don't "allow electronic toys." I was surprised since my boys would only be there 2 hours and would play with it outside but I apologized and did not get angry or bent out of shape at all. After all, it is her house.
I am a very live and live person and try hard not to judge. I only interfere if asked to or if there is an innocent, helpless being involved (child, animals, the earth).
I do not appreciate the silence I get when I mention something non-waldorfy or non-Montessori to this mom and her friends.
By the way, this mom has one son (aged 1) and her step son is there only half the time. And, she has a husband and parents who help her out.
Just trying to give the full picture.
And, by the way, I have another friend who insists that I embrace the Lord and all will be fine. At least she is overt about it so I am on equal ground, if that makes sense!
Any suggestions / advice? We all live in the same neighborhood and they are my boy's friends so it's important that I keep a good relationship with their friend's moms.