Anyone have suggestions on potty training a 2 yr old. He will be 2 1/2 in April. We've tried the training toilets, seat that fits on the big potty, treats, stickers, underwear, nothing seems to work. He'll just tell us when he's went but refuses to go when we take him to the potty. He seems to do well (in underwear at that) at daycare all day but just won't do it for us at home.

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Nicole - posted on 02/18/2009

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Hi Tiff...When I potty trained my Two boys I tried to do things which were suggestions such as...putting froot loops in the toilet and asking them to try and pee on a certain colour- kinda worked, but found it just plain hard for a woman to "show" her boy how to pee in the toilet as learning by example is still the best...so, I found a solution to my problem with a squirt gun!!! Worked like a charm and all you need is a little imagination with fun play...this worked for me and made it fun, rather than a chore. Good luck.

Nicole

Charlotte - posted on 02/18/2009

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I have worked with children for over 10 years in daycares, homes and my own kids.  To me it sounds like a control issue since he goes fine at daycare.  Make sure you are not letting him see any frustration or giving him tons of extra attention when he has accidents at home.  Also make sure you are giving him lots of positive reinforcement and regular attention when needed.  Just try to be very casual about the whole thing so he doesn't have a reason to "not" use the potty at home.  Good Luck!

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Barb - posted on 05/09/2011

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my husband made a game out of it. He took jr into the bathroom with him, tossed in a handful of cheerios and played target practice with his pee.



Jr loved the idea, and sure, that first month we went through some cheerios, but they were cheaper than diapers!



he pooped once in his underwear, i made him clean his underwear in the toilet saying "poop goes in the potty now" and then he had to clean himself in the shower.



Not one night of peeing or pooping the bed.



Good luck.



Edited to add: this was about 2 months before his 3rd birthday.

Angela - posted on 05/09/2011

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just be patient its still early. has a simple schedule for him. just keep training him anyway even if he does not seem to get it right. eventually by the time he is turning three he will have trained well

Melody - posted on 02/24/2009

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Little boys typically will not train until age 3. If he doesnt do this somewhat on his own terms there will be a negative association with it and it will prolong the process. That said, is there a boy who is a little older than him that he loves or admires? I gave my sons outgrown undies to my friend for her little guy and she would tell her son that they were 'Aidens underpants' . This was a simple encouragement and her little boy wanted to be big like Aiden. It worked for her, good luck!

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I tried at 2 but my son was not ready. He is 3 and 3 months now and i started training him at 3 - I just put undies on him and said no more nappies! we had 2 days of constant accidents but by the third day he was pretty good at wees but it has taken a lot longer to get number 2 in the toilet on time. It has been 3 months now, and he rarely has an accident (poo's sometimes, but he is getting better).

I still put him in night nappies though and just a thought - if it is a boy you are training you may want to start him sitting instead of standing for wees at first (my son is still sitting) as this helps with getting the poo's right!! You just need to percavere and you really learn patience, Good Luck! (its also good to do it in summer - much easier!)

Karen - posted on 02/24/2009

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I have two boys that are now 19 and 17.  They seemed to take forever to potty train.  They were at least 3 years old when they finally got it.  My daughter was very easy and trained at 2.  I teach pre-school and know that the boys seem to take longer.   Don't worry,  they eventually get it. Just keep up your routine, be non-chalant and don't stress.  Kids pick up on their parents stress and then they stress.  Hang in there!

Jodi - posted on 02/24/2009

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My daughter just went through the same thing exactly - so, I stopped making a big deal about it for about 2 weeks. Then when getting ready to go to school (preschool) on morning I just asked her if she'd like to wear big girl panties - she agreed. I made kinda a big deal that she was wearing big girl panties to get her excited about it....it worked! Now, she still has an accident or two when it comes to poo poo....that is abit frustrating but when I threw her "favorite" princess panties away after she messed them she wasn't very happy. About a week after her starting to wear panties all day she got very upset wearing pullups at night - she has been in panties at night now for a week and no accidents all night either!! They have to want to do it for themselves....not for you.

Jessica - posted on 02/24/2009

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Hi, my son is 3 1/2, he starting peeing at 18 months and did great, for daycare and it seemes the more we pushed and tried to get him to go the worse response we got. #2 was a total different ball game, it came after he turned 3 but almost instantly. He will go when he is ready and until then you are fighting a loosing battle. Try to make it his idea and praise him to others in front of him about how big he is and what a good job he does going potty @ day-care. Good Luck and hang in there this will be over soon.

Jessica - posted on 02/24/2009

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Hi, my son is 3 1/2, he starting peeing at 18 months and did great, for daycare and it seemes the more we pushed and tried to get him to go the worse response we got. #2 was a total different ball game, it came after he turned 3 but almost instantly. He will go when he is ready and until then you are fighting a loosing battle. Try to make it his idea and praise him to others in front of him about how big he is and what a good job he does going potty @ day-care. Good Luck and hang in there this will be over soon.

User - posted on 02/19/2009

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Don't push him, unless you want lots of bed wetting problems later. Most boys potty train between 3 - 3 1/2 years.

Robin - posted on 02/19/2009

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Fun is the best medicine. I had nine boys, I think only one got potty trained before he was three. there is just too much other stuff to do and after that many boys you realize that bodily functions are not as bad for them as for little girls. Anyway, if you are insisting on him doing this now try this, dry out the toilet and paint a picture where you want him to point, could be a target, that's the one we used, Then he can see how close he gets to the point in the middle! or you can use one of those floaty ducks and see if he can sink it. I couldn't use that one cause touching it grossed me out. I know other moms who used it very successfully. If you push this kid he will never do it. Of course you know he won't be soiling himself when he is 18! Also tell him alot that you know he wants to be big like Dad, or big brother or grandpa or uncle you get the idea, and that they all do this and they don't wet their pants. Express so much confidence in him, he is a boy and has a male ego and if you can feed it feed it feed it he will respond to that first always.

Shannon - posted on 02/19/2009

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I agree with the "if it is difficult, drop it" approach. I know this sounds awful and changing messes or diapers is not ideal but I did that with our 3.5 yr old. We have been trying for about a year and it was hard... so I would just drop it... try again a few months later and still hard... about 2 months ago I told him...let's try underwear tomorrow and that was that... no accidents... no getting upset... EASY EASY... I think that you kinda have to let them lead the way... He may have fears or anxieties he cant tell you about ( they are still so little). GOOD LUCK!!!!

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You have tons of great advice already but I have some too! My daughter will be 4 this summer and we are still struggling with the potty. I pushed really hard and we did terrible. I dropped it and let her do it herself and we did OK. We finally found a mix that works for us and it is going well now. When they are ready everything will click and it won't be so hard. If it is hard you have to drop it. I know you want to be potty trained but the harder we push the worse they do. We are not bad parents if our child is a slow trainer. Good Luck.

User - posted on 02/19/2009

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My son was crazy about Buzzlightyear from Toy Story. I found some pull up's with Buzz on them and told my son that if he went pee pee on Buzz he would be really sad. From that day on, he peed in the toilet!

Christine - posted on 02/19/2009

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Hang in there and don't give up. My daughter is 2 1/2 and still won't go on the potty. Everytime I ask her she says no to me, too. Everyone says not to force her. I figure when she's ready she'll go-hopefully, by the time preschool starts. I guess what I am saying is that he may not be ready. My friend's son is a couple months older than my daughter and still has no interest in being potty trained.

Glenda - posted on 02/19/2009

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I agree with Judy, a week after my son's third birthday was the magic time for us, he just decided one day that was it, we tried a few days with underware, a couple of accidents later and he is doing good with it now. However he is apprehensive at other people's homes he does prefer to use the toilet at home.

Linda - posted on 02/19/2009

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Great ideas here! Here's a couple more. You could just let him go without anything on his bottom. My son would wet his pants, but he would not pee on the floor. This helped with one of my children. My husband was discouraged for a while and wondered when his son would wear clothes again, but I assure you they do not run around the house naked anymore! (caveat: this is only when you are IN your house at home with no company!)

Another idea: I found a book in the library to encourage children to go potty and be a big boy, but I thought I would personalize it. I made a book of my son (with actual pictures) detailing him growing up from a baby to a toddler. We talked about what a big boy was. He fed himself, walked by himself. A big boy went on the potty. He loved that book!!

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Quoting Tiffany:

Anyone have suggestions on potty training a 2 yr old. He will be 2 1/2 in April. We've tried the training toilets, seat that fits on the big potty, treats, stickers, underwear, nothing seems to work. He'll just tell us when he's went but refuses to go when we take him to the potty. He seems to do well (in underwear at that) at daycare all day but just won't do it for us at home.




Be patient it took my daughter almost a year. She would go no. 1 but was scared to do no. 2.  She would hold it in and would cry. After watching her cousin she finally got it. She didn't do it until she wanted to. I think that alot of times it is rushed. They will get it when they are comfortable with it. That is my opinion. I hope it helps.

Anabela - posted on 02/19/2009

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Try a potty training video. It worked for me. I also kept my daughter in big girl undies all day long (pull ups when we went out & at night), and took her to the potty every half hour until she understood where the poop & pee has to go. However, even when I was out & she had Pull ups, I still took her to a bathroom very often. Don't give them mixed signals, pullups are not there to act as a diaper, but for accidents. My daughter was fully potty trained by 2yr 9 months, and we started potty training at 2 years 7 months. Kind of late by some standards, but every child is different, be patient. During those 2 months of training, it was undies at home (which she had a few accidents on), pull ups out & at night, potty training video almost everyday, chocolate every time she initiated her trip to the bathroom for the first couple of weeks. Don't get discouraged by accidents, it's part of the training. But it's better for them to have accidents, at home, with undies rather than pull ups because they need to feel uncomfortable with their accident. Pull ups keep them dry, and thus don't teach them much. Hope this helps.

Latasha - posted on 02/19/2009

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maybe they arent ready... some kids arent ready tell later and they say the average age for a boy o be trained is 3 and girls 2 and 1/2.. i struggled with jenika.. but when she was ready she had no accidents at all try again in a month or 2.. and see if that makes a difference i started at 18 months... and she wasnt ready.. again at 22 still wasnt again at 24.. almost ready.. and now at 26 months she is completely trained... it only took me a week once she was ready

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With my son, we used CheerieO's or dish soap. Just put some in the potty and let him try to SHOOT at them, and with the soap it will make lots of bubbles. It worked with my son.

Maria - posted on 02/19/2009

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hmmm.... clap and cheer him on if and when he goes potty at home... Ask him how his day went and if he went potty at daycare and make a big deal facial expressions to show him that's a big deal when he says yes he did...

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I have identical twin 11 yr old boys. Now if i remember right Oprah had a show about this. She suggested letting them run around without underwear. It is a little messy at first, but they quickly learned they didnt like the feel of pee or poop running down their legs. Boys are a little slower to learn, but I think they got it pretty quick. They had to wear the sleeper pull ups for a couple years till they wear almost 5 yrs old and had some accidents after that, but i just left the plastic on their mattresses till they stopped having them.

Nesreen - posted on 02/19/2009

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let him see his father seeting on toilets my husbend try this with my child and he went like his father exactly.

Jenny - posted on 02/19/2009

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Quoting Nicole:

Hi Tiff...When I potty trained my Two boys I tried to do things which were suggestions such as...putting froot loops in the toilet and asking them to try and pee on a certain colour- kinda worked, but found it just plain hard for a woman to "show" her boy how to pee in the toilet as learning by example is still the best...so, I found a solution to my problem with a squirt gun!!! Worked like a charm and all you need is a little imagination with fun play...this worked for me and made it fun, rather than a chore. Good luck.
Nicole



I have 2 boys just a year apart and I was wondering how I could eventually teach them to pee standing, great idea, for now I just have the seat with the "cup" shield thing.

Cathryn - posted on 02/19/2009

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With our son he was about the same age, he would wear nappy at night then sit on toilet as soon as he got up and then we would take him to sit on the toilet every two hours we had alot less accident and slowly he learnt and he told us and the length between each toilet sitting became longer. Took us about a week but my husband and I both had whole week off which made life easier.

Lorena - posted on 02/18/2009

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for me the key when I was training my son was to be consistent. That means you have to be willing to accept the accidents, because there will be accidents. With my son Ryan we just decided one day to put him in underwear and explained to him that unless he wanted to get dirty he'd have to use the toilet. After a few accidents he finally got it. Try and figure out how they train them at daycare so that you can incorporate some of the same things into your house-life. Good luck.

Jes - posted on 02/18/2009

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i've got a 21/2 yr old boy too.  my oldest son is 4.  i tried to potty train him at that age - but with boys they're sort of on their own schedule.  one thing that helped me get my oldest trained is at home i kept his pants and underwear off.  that way when he had the urge to go he had to go somewhere and most the time it was in the toilet.  we also, gave him quarters for each time he went for awhile - then on saturday he could go buy his own toy. 

Gabriella - posted on 02/18/2009

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We did not have any men around us regularly when my twin grandsons were ready but unwilling to be potty trained so we invited someone ( a guy ) over to go to the bathroom in front of them. They caught on really fast. I told my daughter about the cheerios but it didn't work with them. Good luck.
Gabriella

Lori - posted on 02/18/2009

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I have twin girls,  one of them was just lazy.  She would rather get cleaned up than take the time to go to the potty.  I started leaving her wet panties on her a little longer.  She was umcomfortable and started going to the potty on her own.  A friend told me about this and it worked for her as well.  Good luck..

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Have you tried putting cherrios in the toilet, placing him on the seat backwards, and telling him to sink them? I've found that each child is different, and I don't think gender plays a part. My daughter refused to "poop" in the toilet, she had to clean herself, was sprayed with the hose (summertime), everything. Finally, when she had a success, we took a picture with a digital camera. Needless to say, she finally was proud to go "poop" on the toilet, and I could easily erase the pictues. She is nearly 4 now, and still presents her creations, but no need for pictures anymore. The reason for the picture was the praise, and she wanted to leave it for daddy to see. The great art of compromise!!!

Lori - posted on 02/18/2009

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I bought one of those dolls that pees and rewarded the doll when she went on the potty and the peer pressure/competition was all it took, my son wanted the same rewards the doll got so he went on the potty.  It sounds crazy I know but it worked, maybe that's why it works at daycare, he sees his little friends and want to do the same.  HTH

Anna - posted on 02/18/2009

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Can you have Daddy take the lead? Let your little boy see him pee in the toilet - he might want to be just like Daddy. When your son uses the potty, get excited with him about what a big pee he does, or the sound of it hitting the potty - whatever works for him. Reward him with a lot of praise each time he uses his potty, and tell him what a big boy he is! And maybe try reinforcing how proud you are of him for trying. Our son began potty training himself at 21 months - he moved his potty into his room and put it by his bookcase, and then he was using it the next day. He previously was afraid of it. He didn't like the feeling of the cold bathroom floor, and I guess he felt more comfortable in his own room. A few weeks later, he is now using the potty and the toilet, and I am hoping to transition him to the toilet for good soon. If all these things don't work, give it time - he will get there when he is ready, and you might find that if he does it later than others, it will be a faster transition.

Lori - posted on 02/18/2009

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it's one of the only things they can control in their world and it will become a battleground if you push too hard. try less pressure for a while. and one of the best ways for boys is to let them pee outside. of course we live on a farm with no close neighbors!!

Tina - posted on 02/18/2009

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Try cheerios in the toilet, make it a target game. When he tells you , or you think he has to go, just say lets play a potty game. He will have fun and learn to hit the bowl all at the same time. Don't worry about the cheerios they dissolve in the water.

Anichia - posted on 02/18/2009

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Hi my name is Anichia i have a little boy, Lorenzo. Just make him aware that the potty is there i know it is frusterating and i was at the verge of giving up than my health visitor told me to let him stew in his wet underwear for a bit...but i couldnt so i just left him and a week before new years 2009 he went to the potty himself.  He had alot of accidents after but he would always end up on the potty.  Make sure to praise him when he does his thing on the potty and try not to fuss when he doesnt.  Everyone says the same thing and it works just be patient with your little one and he'll get it aventually.

Melissa - posted on 02/18/2009

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First of all, Do NOT panic. You child will eventually get to that point. My son was 3 before he was finally potty trained, yet my daughter picked it up right away with little or no effort. All kids are different and do things at their own pace, and I think boys are inherently harder (they are small versions of men, afterall..LOL)



I will say that I didn't use the "Pull ups" with my daughter like I did my son. They are so much more like a diaper without the sticky tabs on the side. I think they actually decreased his motivation.



Just continue to praise him when he does well. His body may also still be trying to learn to control it. If he is still wetting at night, then he has not gained full control yet. Don't be frustrated... he won't start kindergarten in diapers.. promise =)

Anngel29 - posted on 02/18/2009

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You are not alone!! I found that my son wouldn't go in his pull up,but he peed in underwear. We decided to make a game of going to the bathroom. he didn't like to sit on the toilet or potty, so I got a stool and kept beside the toilet, that way he could reach and he thought it was great that he was just like daddy, If possible let daddy take him as often as he can. my son is 6 now and still has the odd accident. When he does this, I remind him to go to the toilet and "try", then he goes and changes himself. we have been doing this with him since he was two. I hope this helps!

Nadine - posted on 02/18/2009

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I have a little boy that is 2 1/2 too and he has been pretty good at potty training but we still have to remind him. A Lot of times we'll aske him if he has to go and he tells us no even though we know it has been a long time since he has gone. We relate going potty with other things. Like the dogs are going outside to go potty that means you have to go now too...and he does, or he wants to play with mom or dad and well tell him we will play but not until you use the potty. It works every time and we haven't had an accident in months!

Christie - posted on 02/18/2009

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My son still has accidents but he hasn't worn a diaper or pull-ups in over 4 months old and he is 2 1/2.  We constantly ask him if he has to go to the bathroom.  If he starts grabbing himself then we get him to the bathroom.  He didn't like the potty chairs or the other stuff either at first.  It is going to take a lot of patience.  It is good that he does good at the daycare because that is a start.

Jennifer - posted on 02/18/2009

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There are two ways to approach this subject. You either want him potty trained now or you are willing to wait a little longer. If you want to potty train now then I will tell you what works guaranteed. My son pottytrained early and easily, but my friends son did not fare so well so when she finally had enough (he was older than three and still pooping in his pants) she told him that the next time he did it that she was going to let him keep it. In other words, she let him stew in his soiled underwear for a couple of hours after he went. He tried getting her to change him but she refused and after a long period of time he got tired of "smelling" himslef and carrying a "load" in his pants that he never pooped in his pants again and he gladly and proudly started using the potty. No harm, but effective.



Second, if you want to wait al little longer just keep in mind that all kids train at different ages and that he won't be walking down the aisle in a diaper. All kids potty train at sometime. I tend to like that idea best.

Stacy - posted on 02/18/2009

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He may not be ready yet and boys do seem to be harder to train so with that in mind, what worked for me was putting my son on the potty every 15-20 minutes and let him sit there for a minute to see if he had to go- you think its annoying putting him on the toilet so often believe me he doesnt like to be interrupted either and they seem to get the message that this is what you are supposed to be doing so they learn to ask so they can play or watch tv without interruption. and also if they do happen to have an accident you should immediately put him on the toilet and explain to him that this is where you are supposed to go potty- IT WORKed FOR MY SON :)

Shannon - posted on 02/18/2009

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Hi my name is Shannon.  My son is 31 months old and has been using the potty for two months now.  I am a stay at home mom and first started at 18 months old.  The first day I bought the potty - my son went potty in it that day.  For two months after that he was going in the potty - but then stopped.  He didn't want anything to do with the potty other than just sitting on it and then he would say "I'm done".  I didn't push.  I would try everything that you said you have tried.  They are smart and they know what they are suppose to do in the potty.  I just noticed that he couldn't control himself to go when I would put him on it.  Now he can.  I just have to keep asking him every hour.  He will still go in his pull-up - but I have to keep on him.  He will even go on the potty when we are out in public.  That is something else you have to do - not just at home.  He will get it we just have to be patient.  They are smarter than we are.  And I use pull-ups.  They are easier for me - but more expensive than Luvs diapers.  It gets them use to underwear.  I hope this info helps you.  Good Luck!

Angela - posted on 02/18/2009

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having them clean themselves seems to work pretty well...but i wonder if maybe he's not quite ready yet...

Nichol - posted on 02/18/2009

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Boys tend to take longer, I would not push him because if he is not ready and you force it he may never want to go. Just take a break for a few weeks and then try again, I have found that underwear works the best pull ups are just a waste of money.

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I made my first child clean herself (with my supervision) in the tub after pooping in her panties. She's a clean freak so that was that. She always went in the toilet after that.

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