ANyone have very low sex drive while pregnant?

Mel - posted on 01/17/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Ive never had a sex drive this low in 5 years. I have sex about every 6 weeks to help him but because Im not into it , it just causes pain. I do satisfy him other ways evey few weeks but sometimes I say Im going to do it for him then I just cant be bothered because I dont want to. I have a partner who would never pressure me but I dont want him being too frustrated either cause it isnt fair

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Amber - posted on 01/18/2010

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Hey! just remember your body isnt going to want sex!! The point on sex is to reproduce, you have already done that so your body doesnt need it, its just your bodys way of saying...whats the point? I shouldn't worry 2 much, explain this to your partner and im sure he will understand.

Mary - posted on 01/21/2010

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It is perfectly normal to have periods of no sexual desire. Don't worry too much. It may help if you talk to your significant other about your feelings. Do you feel unattractive, tired, or does it hurt? If it is painful to have intercourse try more &/or longer foreplay to get natural lubricant to flow or try an OTC lubricant. Tell him this he may not realize you don't want it & he doesn't realize he is pressuring you. If it doesn't bother you too much get him videos & toys for him to use for self pleasure. Also if intercourse is to intense or unpleasant try to give him pleasure w/ BJs, hand jobs, & boob f***ing. .

Sharon - posted on 01/18/2010

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sorry not me.



I was so horny all three times I actually considered buying a toy for those times hubby wasn't around.

Amie - posted on 01/17/2010

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Try changing your mind frame. It might help. Think about it more, how you want to please him, how good it used to feel, etc.



Plus lube always works in a pinch.



Mine went down near the end of my pregnancies but never that low, it almost sounds non-existent.

Mel - posted on 01/18/2010

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lol oh yeah i remember that not being able to for months haha. omg thats funny though. I remember when I was horny like that lol. yrs ago now

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Sharon - posted on 01/18/2010

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I personally don't care for toys - I prefer the real thing, but, lol, the poor man was being called home on his lunch hour (and sweetheart (snicker) that he was - he "came" too) and I was still horny.



I told him all that extra sex was to make up for the lack that was to follow after the birth of the baby....

Mel - posted on 01/18/2010

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haha Sharon my fiance said he bet if he bought me toys I would use them I said actually I wouldnt because I feel no need for it. And your right Amber. But since it took us 13 months to conceive he feels like we must have only been doing it to reproduce then since we had to make it timed and everything. Now I guess he thinks thats the only reason it was happening and now he's worried Ill never go back lol. Im sure I will though. It just sucks having it on your mind that I know Ive got to help him out soon and when I do the weeks go so quick and I realise I realy shoudl be doing something again. But will attempt to get more in the mood

Sabrina - posted on 01/18/2010

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I didnt want it either with both my pregnancy and some times it comes back and it doesnt

Nakita - posted on 01/18/2010

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I had a very LOW sex drive ! yes i did have sex during the pregnancy, but i didn't want to at all, and the only reason i did was for my BF, other than that,i didn't even think of sex unless he brought it up! And even then, he had to ask for at least 3-4 day be for i finally said yes lol so yea deff. last thing on my mind.

Tara - posted on 01/18/2010

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I had a very high sex drive while I was pregnant with my son. I didn't feel good about myself because I had gained so much weight, but I was always in the mood. With my daughter, I never was in the mood. I didn't want to be close to anyone, I didn't want to be touched or anything. It was different for me with both of my pregnancies. It may change to the further into your pregnancy you get.

Brie - posted on 01/18/2010

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For my first pregnancy we had sex during the pregnancy. The second time i was really sick for the whole pregnancy, which didn't leave time for sex even if i did want it. I had a 0 sex drive I just didn't want it. I know what you mean i felt so guilty about it, like there was something wrong with me for not wanting. My daughter is now 7 weeks and it's just starting to come back. It will eventually happen but try not to force it, it could turn you away even more. Try to find other options for you and your husband that can make you both feel comfortable, instead of one having pleasure and the other guilt

Mel - posted on 01/18/2010

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Monica - I used to have pain a long time ago for the first 2 yrs I was having sex but it went away as I got more comfortable so Im assuming it only happens because Im not in the mood and your right I have to try and get in the frame of mind because me not being into it and just lying there wont help me

Monica - posted on 01/18/2010

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Hormones influence your sex drive (specifically testosterone) and while and after you are pregnant and then deliver, your body is simply producing a plethera of others that are taking presedance at the moment....your body is in balance mode and simply put; women produce lower levels of testosterone than men and just aren't wired to have it any other way. The pain experienced with the act while or imediately following pregnancy can also trigger a psychological response to future acts of intimacy. If your body doesn't balance out after you deliver or you physically or mentally can't overcome the drive (or lack there of) issues that you are having, I would recommend having your hormone levels checked with your GYN or a phamacist that specializes in Bioidentical Hormone Replacement Therapy. Sex is 80% mental and 20% physical in most cases but if there are underlying physiological issues, that can influence the mental aspect of it all....

Leanne - posted on 01/17/2010

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I stopped having sex with my boyfriend all together.. I couldn't do it, we tried once and I wanted to cry and we didn't go through with it.

I had zero sex drive, basically still do and my son is nine months old. We have only had sex three times in over a year. I couldn't even bring myself to just please him, it made me feel awful.

So yeah, I know where your coming from. :P

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