Are anyone's kids being targeted by bullies? And how are you dealing with the problem?

Minnie - posted on 05/08/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My son has been the target of four or five kids that like to make fun of my son because of his hearing aid, because of his kidney condition and the fact he can't play sports, they like tripping him, bullying him constantly. We've tried mediation but they're parent's are just as bad. The school has done "little" besides talking to the kids, giving them detention, and shaking hands which fixes the problem for a week, and after that, it starts back up. I have always told my son, not to hit anyone, and to walk away, but i'm a bit of at a wit's end, and changing schools would be more of a hassle for him, than anything. How would you deal with bullies? I'm not saying these kids are bullies, but I do believe it's from lack of attention, or from the examples they see, I just am concerned on what lessons I would be teaching my son if I told him to do the same to them. Which is something I do not believe is right.

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Minnie - posted on 05/09/2012

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Thank you very much ladies. I appreciate the input. Shawnn, you're absolutely correct, my son's rights are what's important, and the school should be able to resolve it, it's their responsibility to watch over him, while he's there.

Melissa - posted on 05/09/2012

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Yes, Minnie...you're right! :) Way to go!! :) Hope things will get so much better for you all..... boy, parenting sure can be hard at times! You're son is lucky to have YOU! :)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/08/2012

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You've tried the nice way. Now its time to start being the Mama Bear.

Every incident needs to be documented. Every time you document, you give a copy to the school directly, one to the superintendent and keep a copy at home. Tell the school district that if this is not handled in an appropriate, escalated manner, you will escalate it yourself, by bringing in an attorney to protect your son's rights.

Be calm, be firm, and stand your ground.

Minnie - posted on 05/08/2012

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Melissa, thank you, that was going to be my next step is going straight to the superintendent. We have done the "go to class and teach people about his hearing aid" etc... so I just wanted to make sure I wasnt stepping on any toes when I went to the superintendent and had those kids expelled. Unfortunately, many kids learn by example and I didn't want my son, to hear me have a yelling match with the child's parents. He doesnt see my husband and I fight, there should be no reason i should set that example by cussing out another parent right?

Melissa - posted on 05/08/2012

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Minnie.....these children you are talking about ARE bullies. I am so sorry your son is in this stiuation. Children can be so MEAN!!!! Personally, I think you need to call the school EVERY single time something happens. It is the school's respons. to deal with this issue...it is a horrible epademic in America, and children are paying the price. NOT FAIR. And, what makes it worse is when the parents of these children do not hold them accountable for thier actions......
Unfortunately, I say it is time to put your "nasty" face on and stand up for your child.....you need to be an advocate and that is, at times, very difficult, but...you know what they say," The greasy wheel gets the oil." Schools need to be held accountable for their student's behavoir....and, they certainly need to have a bullying curriculum in place. If this doesn't stop now, your poor son will grow to hate school....and, I would not blame him one bit! I really hope you can solve this problem soon ...... you sound like an awfully nice person...... my advice would be to continue to bring this subject up to your son's principal.....over and over. ( I'd like to add that I am an elem. school teacher......I certainly do not know everything, however, I know this is a real problem and needs to be addressed......in fact, if the school is not dealing with it, you need to go right in and sit down with the superintendent of your school district.......)
Good Luck!!!!!!

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