Are you different on CoM's?

Shannintipton - posted on 06/07/2011 ( 17 moms have responded )

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How many of you act completely different in real life than on CoM?
For ex: Do you cuss more or less. Are you a smart a**, are you funny, are you a bitch? Things like that. I have to say I put my foot in my mouth as much on here as I do at home. Please let me know. I am really curious. Thank you in advance.

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I'm the same person, but because of my social anxiety... on the computer I can actually vocalize myself. ;)

Lisa - posted on 06/07/2011

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I have to say Fartsy I agree with the self realization concept. I know I can easily come off a little to blunt, and aggressive which in turn can lead others to be easily offended. I do try to pick my wording carefully when I speak to others (whether in person or online). Like you I have a learning disability and have had to teach myself new ways to learn and obtain information. I am currently working on earning two associate degrees, and it has been a rough long road (4 semesters down 3 more to go). I have grown not only intellectually but spiritually and maturity wise as well. I find I have less patience for those who have not worked on improving themselves in some way on some level. So I totally get where you are coming from.

Lisa - posted on 06/07/2011

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Shannin, I am a horrible speller too ... however google tool bar has a spell checker and I use that to spell check everything I type before I post it..lol

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I think the problem most people face is that they usually don't self actualize. Therefore, they live their lives in sort of a half ass way? How can I explain this.... I've been through a lot and actually have a learning disability which makes it harder for me to learn. It's taking me 4 years to get my 2 year AA degree. I end up doing whole assignments over and Math - I totally fail at..... but personally I've been working for the past 8-9 years on learning, listening, educating myself, working to overcome my disability and not be so judgemental as how I was raised.... so through all of this I have learned so much. Experianced and grown. So it's hard to be around people who haven't gone through this process. Not a lot of people have, I feel? And I know it took total rock bottom for me to want to change. So it is just a very.. very different way to live your life? I think that is the hardest part I see with people.. and why I complain about them not caring. I mean it on these types of levels. The deeper ones. Spiritually, they haven't soul searched and found themselves. Most anyway.... I think. ?

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Don't feel so bad Shannin about the spelling. The only reason why I'm halfway decent at it is due to the fact I spent 4 years of my life being an online nerd (in highschool) and when I started debating (yep, even back then lol) I would feel stupid and look up words through the internet (faster than a dictionary) so I eventually learned quite a bit not to sound too idiotic........ I still do it every so often when I know I'm way off base or curious. Sometimes I don't care lol Lisa, that's a good idea. I just type in my google bar 'define _______' and the word. Usually it will bring up proper spelling 'Did you mean ______?' and then a definition to make sure it is correct.

Er, I'm smart but I don't think I'm smarter than anyone. At least I try not to but it is VERY hard sometimes because I came from a verrrrrrrrrrry judgemental family.

It is just hard for me because I'm different. I think that's the biggest thing that sets me apart. I'm soooooo very different than most everyone. It's very hard to make friends. I recently joined a mommy group and quit going because they sat around barely talking and barely even played with their kids. My mind was bored! 10 women all together, and no one talking? Whhhhy... yet when we went out to the 'mommys night out' women were obnoxious and funny it was awesome....... but apparently they cannot even be 1/4 of that way around their kids? I don't get it.

I'm just not normal Shannin :)

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Lissa - posted on 06/07/2011

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I'm the same in that I say whatever I think, I was never good at being diplomatic. I wouldn't argue or disagree for the sake of it but when I do disagree I can't seem to shut up about it :$
I do sometimes feel like I come off like I'm saying look at me I'm perfect which of course isn't true. I think it's just as my eldest is a teenager I have had a lot of time to figure out my mistakes and sort them out.

Shannintipton - posted on 06/07/2011

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okay you two. That leaves me out. Off to go find some trouble else where. Have a good one.

Shannintipton - posted on 06/07/2011

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Very insightfull. I bet I spelled that wrong. You are too wise for me. I dont know why you hang out with me. But I am glad.

Shannintipton - posted on 06/07/2011

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Thanks I can do that on hubby's computer but not mine. Dont ask. Also I have misspelled words so badly they come back saying WTH are you trying to spell. LOL

Shannintipton - posted on 06/07/2011

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I dont like the fact that everyone here can tell that I cant spell. In the real world it is not that ob-vee-ous. See what I mean.

Shannintipton - posted on 06/07/2011

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Fartsy, is it hard to hold a conversation with people? I think you are highly intelligent. Everybody must seem so dumb to you. Does it get frustrating at times?

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Foot in mouth lol



I keep more of my opinions to my self in person, as usually there isn't a lot in life that comes up as room for an 'open debate'. So I usually just come off as 'informative, story telling, or interesting' ??



I notice I carry a lot of information with me as I grew up reading and discussing things alllll the time so it spills out of me alllll the time, even in person.



It's hard for me not to start talking about GMO seeds, or cancer causing moisturizers, or illegal immigration...... there's sooooooo much going on out there!



So I try to curb that sometimes in real life just to make it through a normal conversation because my family and I are just.... not normal :) politically active, opinionated.... on and on...



And most people don't care about these things so......... I end up not being able to talk about what I am interested in most of the time. Or being dissapointed with friends I meet in real life due to their lack of involvement or care in any social issues or even when an interesting topic does come up they don't quite know how to debate it very well...... I don't know.



I need weirdos like me in real life. too bad we're all online!!!!!!!!! :D

Lisa - posted on 06/07/2011

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Very good question... I seem to offend just as easily on here as I do in real life..LMAO.

I am stubborn and passionate no matter what... doesn't matter if I am having a discussion/debate with my family, friends, co-workers, college professors or with people online.

Shannintipton - posted on 06/07/2011

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I am the same way. What you see is what you get. lol
P.S. I do have more fun here than out at a party or something.

Jacquie - posted on 06/07/2011

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Nope, I am genuinely kind and uncussed everywhere. My grandmother said "Never do in private what you would not do in public" Of course she did, since I ws only seven, discuss pottying and nakedness!!

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