As a mom how do you bear the loss of your only child?

Consolata - posted on 02/27/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My cousin just lost her only child. I can't even begin to imagine her agony

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Sandi - posted on 08/21/2012

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someone wrote on here --celebrate the happy times--dont mourn--what a crock! i lost my only child in addition to 7 babies--u have to mourn--it takes long time and never goes away--it is the worst pain ever--ppl just think u are supposed to "get over it"--until it happens to them--its a long processs with many ups and downs --u are never the same

Melinda - posted on 02/27/2010

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The loss of a child is very difficult to understand and to cope with. You are overwhelmed with mixed emotions and yet still trying to grieve the loss. However, I believe in keeping the memory of the child going... Talk about your loss openly with friends and family this is the time that you really need a shoulder and an ear. The upcoming year will be the most difficult time in your life, b/c you will encounter all the FIRST events of the child not being around. Don't morn the loss, CELEBRAT the memories!!!!!!!!

Consolata - posted on 02/27/2010

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Diana we don't know what happened yet. I guess everyone is treading softly but it happened this morning.

Heather - posted on 02/27/2010

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Losing a child doesn't mean you failed as a parent unless abuse or neglect were the cause of death for the child. That being said. I am so sorry for your loss Consolata. I'm sure anyone who reads this will pray for you, your cousin, and your family for the strength, courage, and healing you will need to get through this difficult time. Since I haven't had to bear the loss of a child and can't give you advice based from experience, I can only remind you to be there for each other and make sure she has a big strong support system of friends and family. Let her say what she needs to say and grieve for as long as she needs to. Encourage her to get the help she needs from a good counselor who has experience in this area to help her get through this in a mentally, emotionally, and physically healthy way. May God Bless You All! You are in my prayers.

Diana - posted on 02/27/2010

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i lost my daughter almost 2 years ago when she was 3 months old. the pain of it is indescribable. you feel so many things that you have never felt before. if you dont mind me asking what happened?

Becky - posted on 02/27/2010

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I don't know how you would bear it. I don't even like to think about the possibility of losing one of my children. I am very sorry for your cousins, and your loss!

Natalie - posted on 02/27/2010

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The ultimate responsibility of parenthood is to protect your child from harm. To bury a child is to confront the reality that no matter how many suppers you cooked, how many stories you read, how many cuddles you gave, you have ultimately failed. Waves of guilt wash over the bereaved parent. I never found anything that anyone said made much difference to that acrid, unpalatable feeling. I just had to go with it. In time, the guilt has abated a little, to be replaced by the more bearable emotions of loss and longing.

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