Asburgers at age 15? When does this syndrome surface? My child was happy and healthy up until age 14. We changed his school when he was 9 because we thought he would be more challenged and excel...instead he goes to school with children that are a lot more privilaged than he is and has withdrawn socially. He is 16 1/2, never leaves his room, went from honor roll to D- in at least one class. My husband says he has asbergers syndrome....okay...I say now what??

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Cecilia - posted on 11/08/2013

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It sounds like depression from what you are saying. Or even to go out on a limb and say normal teenager activities. Not one thing points to asperger's. I have a 14 year old with it and the truth is the signs were clearly there around 4 years old. Nothing was major that sent out red flags in my mind.

He rocks back and forth. He would get upset if anything changed in the home. If I rearranged the living room he would wake up and try to put things back where they were. If you were off on schedule, it bothered him all day. He showed early on that he didn't understand things such as body language. He didn't understand empathy. Those are just some of the examples of asperger's symptoms.

Yes sometimes they can be missed as just who they are.

Truth be told my 16 year old doesn't leave him room either. He comes when called for dinner, grabs his plate and goes back to his room. Every once in awhile he will come down and hang out with me at night when neither of us can sleep. I write it off as he's a teen and mommy isn't cool any more. Try to remind yourself how hard it was to be a teenager. It can be rough to deal with all the social issue. Could be something as simple as he's having problem talking to girls, or a girl broke up with him. If you feel overly concerned, first tell him he can talk to you about anything ( and mean it ).

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Cecilia - posted on 11/08/2013

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you're welcome, when did he hit puberty? Has that been a consideration of your husbands? If it happened right about the time he started to change it really could just be hormones all out of whack on him.

Linda - posted on 11/08/2013

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Thank you Cecilia...I am reaching out to a local organization to get to the bottom of this and I just sent my husband the link.....I believe it is depression as well...which can snowball by lack of activity.....and unfortunately, clinical depression does run in my family, my Dad and brother have been diagnosed. I think I just continuously dodge the bullet by hitting the pavement when I feel like I'm going to explode..Thank you for your post.

Dove - posted on 11/08/2013

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Is your husband a developmental psychologist or some other professional in the mental health field? There are many reasons why your son may have become withdrawn and unmotivated in school. Have you talked to your son about what is going on in his life? Have you talked to the school guidance counselor or someone else he may be willing to confide in to get to the bottom of this?

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