Francine - posted on 10/09/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )
first time ive addressed this issue really.
Here goes, lost a baby boy 15yrs ago. At the time I also had a two year old daughter who has since grown into fantastic well grounded young woman. A year after losing the baby i gave birth to another daughter. From an early stage she seemed a little obsessed with her baby brother. Thats fine, I accept she was curious and trying to reason it all out in her head. But im concerned she is dealing with his death in the wrong way. Thing is too, I split with my husband a couple of years later. It dosent help the situation with her that, my ex hasnt exactly found the death of the baby easy to come to terms with. Every year I feel he goes out of his way to make a big deal of the anniversary. Its almost as if he wont let them forget the baby. I really dont think this is healthy for them. From year to year they are great and they visit the grave when they want to. But at anniversary time my ex seems to up the antie on the sadness thing.!! Time moves on and you do heal with that time there is no doubt in my mind of that. But I feel there has to come a time when enough is enough of this need to heave onto the kids the sadness of his loss. I hate to see my childen feeling sad, and he seems to think that they should cos he does. Anyone wanna help with this?