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Heather - posted on 01/04/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




I'm having MAJOR sleep issues with my son and would love advice on how to get him in his crib (which he hates!). He is now 4 and a half months old, never coslept well because he would constantly make noise throughout the night and I would be hanging off the bed holding the passifier in his mouth to get him to sleep. Because of that I did what I never thought I'd do, I brought him into the bed. For the past two months now he sleeps inbetween my husband and myself. We both love this and my son sleeps terrific!! He can go 8 hours without waking up inbetween us. I also breastfeed him to sleep and just put him down with me next to him and he's out. While I'm getting great sleep I feel guilty because I'm not teaching him to self sooth. Two nights ago I tried to CIO method and put him in his crib for the first time. It was miserable!! He was in the room 5 hours and slept a total of 45 minutes while hollering the rest. We tried again last night and i didn't see any improvement. He cried for two hours straight (we did limited checks and only picked him up once) before he fell asleep for only FIFTEEN minutes and then continued to holler. I can't listen to him scream and cry for hours on end when it seems he just can't sooth himself. I also have all the gadgets. A sleep machine, the night turtle light, warm room (we are choosing not to swaddle so he can suck his thumb and apparently my doctor said we don't need to swaddle at this age?)

ANyway, I'm at my wits end because I just want him to learn to fall asleep in his crib. I don't even mind if he wakes up after 3 hours or so but he won't sleep that long in there and I'm not sure what method to do!! Maybe I should just keep him in my bed and get rest?

THanks in advance for feedback.


Lacye - posted on 01/04/2013




It's hard to teach a 4 month old child how to self soothe. I would not do the CIO method with a child this young (believe me, I'm all for CIO. Just not at that age). I would wait until he's a little older before I would try it. Right now, I think you should keep him in the bed with you. At the moment he's just way too young to understand that he needs to sleep in his own bed, especially since he has been sleeping with you in your bed.

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