S - posted on 01/26/2015 ( 14 moms have responded )
When I found out I was pregnant with my son more than 8 years ago, the biological father didn't want him. (We were also quite young at the time too) After telling me to abort the baby, I said no and he left. When I was 5 months pregnant, I ended up meeting someone, who eventually was there for me and acted as my son's father. He was there from appointments, to birth of the baby to raising him as his own. 4 years later, I put his name on the birth certificate. 2 years after that, he ended up becoming a casino addict and we broke up.
I have been raising my son on my own for 2 years, and Money has been much tighter than I thought it would be, and I am looking for child support. I have asked for support from the ex bf who is on the birth certificate, but now he says he's broke and wants his name off the certificate to avoid me asking for child support and would like me to pursue asking the real dad for support. I am considering this too. More so for education wise. My son is now 8 years old and I have not asked for a single penny from him (the bio dad).
My question is, is this situation possible to fix? Is it possible for me to ask the biological father for support? If I do, does that mean he will get custody of him? I need to know what he pros and cons are of all this. I want to go to see the Maintenance Enforcement people, but the birth certificate is what's holding me back.
If someone can please help me out, I would appreciate it. Thank you.