Asking my daughter to "shake it off" not motherly?!

Corinne - posted on 05/30/2012 ( 186 moms have responded )

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I grew up in a family that lived by the 'rub some dirt in it' rule. If you didn't seriously hurt yourself there was no need to get anything but a kiss and a reassuring "You're ok" from an adult. Times have changed but my family hasn't; the kids in our family are still expected to take a minor injury as just that. We have had two cases where we had to go to the hospital for stitches or a cast for a broken bone in my lifetime and even then we are encouraged to "take it like a champ" as my grandpa would say.
Now that my daughter is at that stage I keep the same philosophy (although I do get scared EVERY fall). She loves to climb, jump and run a little too fast than her little legs can keep up with so she takes a tumble at least once a day. While her and another kid were playing at the park she fell and hurt her knee a little. It wasn't even bleeding so I told her "You're alright, shake it off kiddo!" with a reassuring smile. She got up and got back to playing. No big deal, right?
Wrong. At least as far as the mother of the other toddler was concerned. She gave me a dirty look and without a blink said "I would never treat my child that way, you're supposed to be a mother and comfort her, not a bully and tell her to suck it up!"
I couldn't believe it... I was so offended that this woman not only called me a bully but insulted my parenting skills. I don't usually let people's words phase me but there are some places you don't go and your ability as a mother is one of them. My daughter knows that I love her and will comfort her whenever she needs it but she also is learning not to make a mountain out of a molehill and I think that's a useful life skill.
Am I wrong to expect my kid to get back up when she gets hurt without mommy's help every time? Yea, she's barely two but the earlier you start the better is what I was taught. I will continue to expect her to "shake it off" even if I get grief for it... I just hope I'm not the only one out there expecting my child to be resilient all by herself.

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Krista - posted on 05/30/2012

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I think you're smart. A lot of times, kids make a big deal out of a minor tumble, simply because the mother is making a big deal out of it. So the kid thinks, "Mommy's freaked out. This must REALLY be bad!"

You didn't tell her to suck it up, you told her to shake it off. In my view, there IS a difference.

As far as that busybody goes, I would basically just raise my eyebrow and say (in a tone that could freeze lava), "Thank you for your unsolicited opinion about my parenting. I'll be certain to give it the consideration it deserves," all while looking at her like she's a new, interesting insect on the bottom of my shoe.

Firebird - posted on 05/30/2012

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I tell my daughter to shake it off too. Because of that, she knows that a minor fall is no big deal, she doesn't make a big fuss over it. Someone else I know, coddles her kids over every single little owie.... even pretend owies, and her kids now cry over everything.

Dove - posted on 05/30/2012

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That mother is way over the line. I'm sure you can tell when your child is really injured and I'm sure you would offer the appropriate amount of sympathy and care.

That lady would've gotten a 'kick' out of me when my kids were little. If they were crying, but I could tell it wasn't serious I would pretend my hand was a phone and 'call' 911 and tell them that the ambulance driver told them to get over it. lol 'Shake it off' is a frequent phrase for minor things.

I haven't seriously scarred any of my kids yet and any time they ARE actually injured... it tears ME up. IMO, you have to develop a delicate balance of humor, suck it upism, and genuine care or you will either breed wimps or calloused creeps. Neither of which are a good thing. ;)

Michelle - posted on 05/31/2012

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No you are not wrong. You were obviously sitting next to one of those ever so annoying helicopter parents. I have the same motto in my house. I've said "no blood, no foul", I've asked if they are okay...I know my children will look to me for my reaction and if I react as if they are on their death bed then they will get scared. Even when it is bad, we are expected to keep level headed for our children. You are teaching them not everything is drama and they will be better for it.

Sal - posted on 05/31/2012

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No your not wrong in helping her deal with a minor fall, I do exactly the same thing, I know that you can tell if she is really hurt or just had a minor fall, and I'm sure you wll act appropriatly, one BIG reason I am for this is so that your child is able to tell you when they are really hurt and you will believe it, not the crying wolf senario that I have seen (for eg) my sister does all the Sooking up (her word) but when her daughter was really hurt she didn't respond quickly as her kids always cry and sook over every little bump and her daughter had a dislocated elbow and her and her daughters reaction was as if she had grazed her knee

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Kelly - posted on 05/23/2013

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I'm leaning with the other mothers view here. (although I would not have attacked you like she did) I mean no offense to you as a mother. Your little girl is "barely two". (a baby really) At this age I would prefer to teach/show her that mum will be there for her when she needs some comfort from her falls or whatever upset she is dealing with. Then, as she grows, you could teach her, (after she is comforted) that her fall and damage is no drama. Don't forget that she is only two, she only has her own small world of experiences to draw on, she has no experience of broken bones or deep gashes or stiches etc. to compare, so her fall and sore knee is a big deal to HER.
Show her you love her first, then teach her life's lessons slowly and with compassion. If you have a sensitive child be doubly kind.

Danielle - posted on 07/11/2012

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A friend of mine did exactly that ... "Shake it off" with both of her children & Now I do the same with my daughter ! They all laugh when we say "Shake it off" . There's nothing wrong with saying it if they are honestly fine ! Even though falls can be scary for ALL kids & parents we can't show them that they have to freak out every time ! That mom was out of line in my opinion !

User - posted on 07/09/2012

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Good for you! We pussy around our kids way too much..Parents try to be their kids friends and we let kids whine about everything! If they aren't really hurt, then no worries move on and keep on playing! I love my kids, and when they are really hurt, they get attention....but in my opinion if we give attn about everything then kids will never learn to help themselves. We coddle kids in school too much, we now have team sports day at school where everyones a winner!??!! come one!!! it's okay, in my opinion to be in first place and have someone not win for a change. In our day and age kids are learning that they never lose at games, and when they become adults and are told no, they don't know how to cope!

Good for you, we need to allow our children to learn for themselves if they are hurt or if they need help.....I'm gonna take on the catch phase too! I say go ahead and say shake it off...that other parent is probably gonna end up with a whiney kid that complains about everything!

Good for you!

Beth - posted on 07/09/2012

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Why were you offended? Because she called you out on your inability to smother your child into being a needy little brat that cries when they trip over their own feet. With 3 boys that play baseball, football, wrestling, rugby, skateboard, ripstick, etc... And a daughter who is extremely active (no, not the dance/pageant type of "active") We have had our fair share of accidents. This woman would have flipped if she had to watch me shove a tampon up my son's nose to finish a wrestling match, or super-glue a cut during a rugby game!

Hayley - posted on 07/09/2012

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You are not wrong! When my daughter has any sort of minor bump or scrape we usually say something similar. She is now nearly three and does not make any fuss over these minor accidents, so much so that I have collected her from nursery and she has had grazes on her knees and such and the nursery have no knowledge of any accident because she gets up and gets on with it without any fuss!! IMO nothing worse than a child who makes a fuss over small bumps!!

Elizabeth - posted on 07/09/2012

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no you aren't the only one, it is what I would tell my daughter. I'm not raising sissies here. Girls have to be tough, and I won't make a major ordeal out of a small thing. If I do, then Im making drama queens. Keep doing what you are doing, if you do , you will end up with an adult that will be resilient, and will know the diff between a major situation and a hiccup. As I can see it you are encouraging and loving, clam and know when to freak out and when not to...THAT dear sister, is what you are teaching her. Good job

April - posted on 07/09/2012

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I have CHAPTERS to say about that whole scenario, but in the interest of making a long story short:

WELL DONE, Mom! Coddling kids with too much attention for minor bumps, bruises, and falls creates a kid who thinks that a bruise that shows up on his/her leg should be grounds for an emergency room visit. Trust me - I created one. I have a very athletic teenager, but she tends to be susceptible to sports injuries in her ankles and hands (she's a lacrosse goalie). She's always asking if maybe we should see a doctor, get an x-ray, etc. Our usual response is to ice it and let us know in a couple of days if it is still bothering her. Most don't even re-enter her conscience mind until it hurts again, but she always thinks it's worse than it is.

All that to say that teaching your kid to "toughen up" about minor owwies (sp?) is a practical and enviable parenting method. MOST of us understand that we are still compassionate parents, ready with kisses or hugs or even a little band-aid, but we still want our kids to 1) build up a pain-tolerance level (as we all have to deal with the big owies) later with the appropriate responses; and 2) understand that not everything has to be a big deal.

Corrine, I hope your heart has healed from this petty barb because it really just deflected and left no mark on your character. Those of us who understand are behind you!

Vikki - posted on 07/09/2012

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I think you are doing just fine. People coddle their children too much these days and that has resulted in kids being much weaker than we were as kids. I, too, grew up with that same rule. It's like with anything dealing with children, you have to know which battles to fight and which ones to let go. A small, minor fall is nothing serious, so don't blow it out of proportion. We use humor, as well. My son is a little sensitive anyway, so we use humor to shake it off so that he doesn't blow it out of proportion and make it worse than it is. We'd always make jokes and inferences to sports, like if he fell on his stomach, we'd yell "safe" and do the umpire motion for "safe" in baseball. He used to laugh at that. When he was a toddler, he fell a lot too. It's a toddler thing. As long as he wasn't hurt, we'd laugh it off and say "you're okay!" and "nice move" or other non-negative things that showed that he was okay and that it was okay to fall every once in a while. (when he got older, we took a bike ride around the lake and I fell off the bike-- something he had done several times while he was learning-- and I laughed it off and said "see? even adults fall off bikes!!" and then we laughed hysterically. lol. The other kids at the nearby playground laughed, as well. It was definitely a teachable lesson. And yeah, it hurt, but nothing serious. So, they were able to see an adult "shake it off" and deal with it)

We have had to deal with bullies and other issues at school (he's 11, much older than your little girl), but shaking it off and dealing with these bullies and telling him to use humor rather violence as a comeback has helped. The kids still think he's weird, but he does get some laughs too. And the bullies leave him alone. Mothers cannot be by their children's sides their whole lives, so teaching our children to "shake it off" and know which problems are actually bad and which ones they can resolve themselves will help them so much in life, through school and growing up.

Stick with what you're doing and if that mother doesn't like it, then she will just have to deal with it.

Michelle - posted on 07/07/2012

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Yeap alot of people think that the way that they parent is the best and just can't help but be rude enough as to demean other people who don't do as they do. Unfortunately with Twins as I have, it seems people think they have a right to put their 2 cents worth in. I use to just ignore it but I've had a gutfull and now I tell them to shut up they don't know what they're talking about and if they continue I tell them to FUCK OFF.

Reba - posted on 07/06/2012

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Being a teacher of middle school children, I wish MORE parents responded the way you do. I have to pass out bandaids and alcohol swabs more during the day than I do pencils...(and most of the students NEVER have a pencil.)

When your child is actually hurt, and you know when that is, I am sure you will provide the necessary comfort and assistance to her. Don't let what the other parent said bother you. She is not responsible for you or your child.

By not over-reacting, you are teaching your child that life is full of mishaps. You won't always be the best, but you can always do your best.

WAY to GO! Keep up the good work!

Joanne - posted on 07/06/2012

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I tell my daughter to shake it off when she falls or hurts herself obviously if it it not serious...i have learned that telling her that minimizes the crying and over reacting for no reason...keep doing what you are doing we all are great moms....its tough and know matter what everyone else says listen to your heart if you feel you are doing theright thing you probably are!

User - posted on 07/06/2012

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She is less than two years old????????? Why can't you spend time playing with her in a way that she does not get hurt. SHE IS A BABY. Why should she not get warned about dangers or do you want her to take the ultimate fall and then say "how could this happen to my little girl" Are you preparing her for the jungle? Or an orphanage where she would not get understanding? I know she knows you love her but what if she is injured badly that love will not save her.

Rebecca - posted on 07/06/2012

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I am with you Corinne. I tell my three year old boy the same thing and have done since he started walking. He gets a kiss to make it feel better and some ice if he wants it. Sometimes I ask him if it is falling off to which he always replies no and giggles. Like the story of the pavement we often go to see if the thing that hurt him is damaged and we often berate it for hurting him too. All of this makes falling over fun actually so there is little need to cry. Now that he is 3 he often falls and just gets up saying..'I'm alright'. If he really hurts himself he comes for a kiss then goes off again. In my opinion it is the other mother who was not doing what was best for her child. She is creating a person who will panic if she hurts herself when mummy is not there.

Diana - posted on 07/06/2012

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We tell our kids the same thing. "If it's not broken or bleeding, go play." As long as they aren't crying, they are usually fine and if you make eye contact, they will cry. I remember being over at my Grammy (I was there every chance I got. LOL.) while one of her friends' kids were there. She was probably about 4 or 5 at the time & fell on the concrete sidewalk to the house. She cried & cried like someone was killing her (her mom was a coddler & it was her first child.). My Grammy cleaned her up (still screaming bloody murder the whole time), put a bandaid on it & asked her if she thought she broke the side walk. She asked her to go out and see if she could find if there was a crack where she fell. You know what happened? She stopped crying like someone turned a switch & spent the next 20 minutes searching the sidewalk for cracks because she was worried that my Pappy wouldn't be able to find it & fix it. LOL. You are right...learning not to make a mountain out of a mole hill is a useful life skill that all children should be taught. I know a 40-year old adult woman who cut herself with a knife at a picnic that I was at. It wasn't deep at all or all that bad for that matter. It didn't require stitches & a bandaid took care of the bleeding (which stopped on it's own after running it under water for a little). I've never seen a grown person act like she was practically dying before from a small cut. She didn't know what to do. She was running around the kitchen whining about how badly it hurt and she thought she might pass out, wondered if she should go to the emergency room for stitches. Seriously? My 10-year old had a deeper cut that bleed more when she pinched her finger in her closet door. She cried a little, got a bandaid, some neosporin, & went back to playing. By bedtime she had the bandaid off & was clipping off the extra flap of skin because it bugged her. I repeat she was 10.

Monica - posted on 07/05/2012

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Tamara, the you'll be better before you get maried was what my parents always told me, that made me chuckle.

User - posted on 07/05/2012

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hehe....they would hate me then....my daughter falls, i look at it, if i see no bone sticking through and not alot of blood then shes fine lol...i tell her to shake it off and try what she was doing again...shes also a gymnast and they cant quit when they fall...ive tried teaching my daughter that since she was a baby on a rocking horse. if you fall off you get right back on! you may have a scratch or a bruise but youll live! lol...usually ill tell her shell be better before she gets married lol...usually gets a laugh out of her and shes good. when she is bleeding, ill use "breakable" medicine (neosporine that comes out as foam but is liquid in bottle) and when i tell her she "broke" the medicine, she laughs and is all better.

Leah - posted on 07/04/2012

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I agree with you. I am the same way with my children. When they are badly hurt then I will be there and comfort them but when its just a little thing why does there need to be a big dramam bad out of it. you are not a bully your are a good mother. our job as a mother is to teach. if you coddle them for every little hurt then how are they gonna learn to deal and cope with the big things in life. they will not be able to handle any little rejection as they get older, if you make a big deal of every little thing then they will need that when they get older. You are doing the best for them.

Dora - posted on 06/28/2012

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Sorry, Shannon, I thought he hit you. Later I thought maybe it was an accident, but waited until I heard more. I've been acquainted with people who did things like that - deliberately! And I thought you may have been a victim of child abuse. That's once I'm glad I was wrong. Sounds as if you're OK.

Jennifer - posted on 06/28/2012

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i would of slapped the shit out of the nosey old bitch and told hur to mind hur own buisness.
Karate chop to the throut, and a swift kick to the overies! then i would have told hur to shake it off.. HAHA. if you dont tell your kid to shake it off and tuffen up then your ganna have another whiney lil brat and we dont need any more of the "anoying kid" types hanging round pissing all the normal kids off at the playground, no wonder why their are so many bullies these days, they do the work parents cant do these days and whoop some ass. A BOYFRIEND OF A MOM

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Dora he didn't mean to hit me. I was in softball at the time so we were out throwing a ball around and I missed I was fine he did not damage my self image I don't know how you got that idea. It really was just a coincidence that it happened two times in a row. Really I find it funny looking back because I was the one who wanted to play softball I begged my parents to let me play. Also he did make sure that I was fine before we continued if I had gotten a black eye or something then yeah we would have stopped.

I really thought that incident was funny that's why I shared it, I don't hold any resentment to my dad.

Kristin - posted on 06/28/2012

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I am the same way as you. I tell my kids to shake it off all the time, and I feel that this makes them tougher and not scared of doing things. I think it is a useful life skill as well as we all know life huirts and we cant live in a bubble so if our kids can shake off the ltitle things the big things dont see as bad.

Dora - posted on 06/27/2012

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Shannon, with all due respect I hope you don't follow your father's patterns.That's taking tough love a little too far! I don't know if I'm glad you don't resent him for that or not. If you were feeling resentment it would be justified and you would maybe be less likely to carry his patterns to another generation. Your father did some damage to your self image and the same thing will be repeated if you carry it on. Please talk to someone about this.

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Corrine my parents did the same thing...in fact my dad hit me in the face while playing catch once told me to shake it off then he did it AGAIN after the second time he told me to go back inside to read. I wasn't much for playing catch/softball and wanted to read anyway, I don't think I cried because we continued after the first time and if it hadn't happened again so soon we probably would have stayed out there. I am a super clumsy person and will regularly run into walls/doors and think nothing of it because of the way I was raised. There was one time I thought I did something to my shoulder and had a co-worker check it out but I was fine I just hit it really hard on a door frame.

I really think that this is the best way as long as you know that everything is okay and this will be what I do with my son when he gets to the moving around stage.

Vicki - posted on 06/27/2012

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Oh sorry thought their was an opinion needed.not a contest some mothers just show love in different ways for different reasons... My opinion was mine.... I STAND BY THAT ! By the way people often mistake abuse 4 love and are confused...Since we do not know the future hugging up a child with a booboo is still utmost MOTHERLY ~~~~~

Heather - posted on 06/27/2012

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I have told my 3 yr old son to "shake it off" since he could walk. Of course, we made it a bit fun. I would tell him to actually shake the part of the body that he "hurt". Now he will take a tumble, get up and shake his arm while saying oowie. He is fine and he knows it. It makes him feel better to "shake" the boo-boo away.

Lisa - posted on 06/26/2012

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Unless my son(who's 4) is bleeding or seriously hurt, I don't make a big deal out of him falling or getting scrapes/bruises. I say the same thing to him..."brush it off, you are ok."

Jennifer - posted on 06/26/2012

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I also agree, when I was growing up my parents were tough, If i cried over something small and wasnt really hurt then I got told to shake it off and go play and if I didnt then I was told go in the house becuase I couldnt handle playing outside, I am also the same way with with my child... when she falls and starts crying if I see her go down and know that it wasnt as bad as she thinks, I say the same thing.. " your fine, shake it off, you'll live".. she gets up comes and gets a kiss and shes on her way...
the way I see it... being a mother and knowing your child, you can tell when they are seriously hurt or crying becuase thats what they think they should be doing.... and in that case I think that telling them to get over and move on and go play is teaching them that yea you know what your gonna hit some bumps gets hurt along the way, but nothing is going to stop you and slow you down.. you have to keep going... I thinks its a great lesson. And I also will continue to teach my daughter this.

Carrie - posted on 06/26/2012

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Corinne, I have told my son (who's now 10) to brush it off since I can remember him getting his first little bruise. I am also good for a "did you dent the floor, hurt the sidewalk, break the _____?". Of course his nana will baby him for silly things that aren't serious, but that is only at her house. And never when 'm there. I have to be honest it's kind of entertaining to watch her cringe when I ask my usual questions, that make him grin , get up, & get back at it. You aer by no means the only one who wants their child to be a strong, resilient person!

Bobbi - posted on 06/24/2012

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You are ABSOLUTELY right! That mother's child will probably grow up to whine about every little thing.

Krystal - posted on 06/22/2012

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Unless your child was seriously injured, I think what you did was correct. People like her at the reason their are so many needy, over-bearing children today. You gotta teach your child to get back up after they fall, and not make a big deal out of it. They're going to fall, literally and metaphorically many times in their lives, and need to know when it's worth the tears and attention and when to brush it off.

Lizz - posted on 06/22/2012

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Please... i wish more parents were like that these days. I was taught by the same rule and i turned out just fine if not better for it, and my son is being brought up the same way as well, he too is almost 2 and when he takes a little fall i don't run to or baby him. If he is hurt bad enough i will know it and if not then he needs to learn to pick himself up and move on. not only is this a great lesson for minor injuries, but life as well. I've had many trials and "injuries" in my life that i was able to pick myself up from and move on and i feel it's mainly because that's how i was raised and i am very grateful for that. Kids these days are babied too much and expect people to do too much for them for too long. As far as the other parent.. eh her kids will be living with her til their 35 cause they don't know how to take care of themselves, she get her karma!

Guadalupe - posted on 06/21/2012

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With me it depended on why they got hurt. They knew that if they got hurt doing something they weren't suppose to do. I wasn't gonna give them any sympathy. I also wouldn't baby them everytime they fell down. I've noticed that kids look to see if anyone is coming to hold them if they get hurt. If no one is there or they just leave them alone most kids deal with it & don't cry. But if they see someone around that will pick them up they start crying. The only time my kids came crying to me was when they or their sibling was really hurt. They love & care for each other alot. Two of my three kids are adults now but i still remember alot of things about raising them.

User - posted on 06/19/2012

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i love the saying just shake it off. i don't think it is inappropriate at all it teaches kids not to freak out over little situations, of course we still kiss boo boos lol, and put bandaids on when it bleeds, but it shows a child that when they fall and just get grass on their hands it does not mean they are going to die.

Barbara - posted on 06/18/2012

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I also live by the "shake it off" rule. If it's not bleeding, and after I do a silly "shake" myself, my daughter is fine and playing.
The nerve of that other woman. Don't let anyone EVER make you feel like a bad mom!!! The only advice I'd say is to stick up for yourself next time. Next time say "Mind your own business" lol

Racheal - posted on 06/16/2012

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I totally agree with you....I am so over our "bubble wrap" society! Go you.

Renae - posted on 06/13/2012

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why sugar coat everything? I'm sure if her kid stumbled and didn't even fall she would rush over and say: "oh you poor baby! you got a boo boo?? oh my sweetheart!" yuck. Don't you want your child to be an independent person apart from you who can handle themselves in any situation? you don't need to coddle your children to let them know you care!!!! she is just one of those helicopter moms, tell her to go fly a kite. You aren't being a bad parent, but I was told this once: "I'll 'bad parent' my way, you 'bad parent' yours!" (in essence: back off lady!!)

Tracey - posted on 06/12/2012

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Hi Connie
You are doing the right thing. My cousin would make a real fuss over her daughter who is now almost 16 and still carries on about ever little bump scratch. My son is in constant pain due to a deformed foot and leg but rarely complains as I raised him with the same attitude as you do. She will have great coping skills thanks to you.
I agree with Krista E about how to deal with the "busybody".

Connie - posted on 06/12/2012

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Let's see... you can tell her to she is ok and she goes back to play and everyone enjoys their day, or you make a big fuss and you end up holding a crying child for who knows how long. Hmm.. gee, why is this choice so hard to make? Obviously this other woman never worked in a nursery or had to take care of several small children at once.

Marlene - posted on 06/12/2012

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I totally agree. If you make a huge fuss over somothing small they will follow suit. Don't get me wrong.....I love my kids with all my heart and soul and when they hurth themselves my heart nearly jumped out of my throat. The main thing is when it is something serious, you need to keep telling them its ok, and treat appropriately...but if it is just a little tumble and no blood...say "aww...(kiss the boo-boo) you're ok. There's my big girl/boy. " I had three children and my two youngest put me threw the ringer. My son was an accident looking for a place to happen. When he was seriously hurt I dealt with it, but kept calm enough not to freak him out. If it wasn't major, I didn't let him get too worked up over it. Now, being all grown up....he worrries me when he is injured at work hehe..but he is a tough boy.

Elizabeth - posted on 06/12/2012

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I have four boys and 1 girl, and I tell all of them to buckup Nancy, My oldest is a boy and he is the most biggest crier of them all! my daughter is the toughest. My children range from 11-2 and I think it teaches them to get right back up, and not to sweat the small stuff.

Monica - posted on 06/12/2012

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My parents raised me like that. I remember falling off a friend's skateboard when I was in grade 6. I scraped my knee, bleeding and everything, and she wondered why I wasn't crying.

My kid I generally gave a hug and sent on his way, more comfort if needed if it was bad. (He hated seeing blood, that would tend to freak him out).

Honestly, if your kid could run off happily afterwards, then she's fine. The other mom should learn a lesson from you, not lecture you.

Pam - posted on 06/12/2012

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My neighbor baby'd her youngest terribly. One day, the neighborhood kids were out playing basketball in the court. The girl took a tumble and scraped her knees and hand -- surface abrasions, no real bleeding. Well, she starting howling like she was being stabbed and her mother came running out of the house -- from three houses away -- and CARRIED her back to the house. This was a girl who was 13 or 14 years old, mind you. After she was gone, all the rest of the kids looked at each other in shock, and my daughter asked me, "Mom, what was THAT about?" Kids will take tumbles, they'll get hurt, they'll get up, they'll survive. You'll know when the accident is more than just a tumble, and you'll deal with it appropriately. In the meantime, give your children the gift of learning how strong and resilient they are.

Emily - posted on 06/12/2012

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Seriously? Over mothering isn't going to do your daughter any good. When she is seriously hurt, yeah, love her, but giving her the skills to shake it off is more important. That way every little thing doesn't become a crisis.

Lisa - posted on 06/12/2012

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I do the same witH my 2 children possibly a magic kiss and they are fine,I know if they are really hurt as their cry is different,children need to be taught like you said not to always make a big deal out of everything,ignore what the woman said you know what's best for your child

TINA - posted on 06/12/2012

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Good job mom. I think that is a great way for you to treat her. I do the same for my daughter. I kiss her boo boo and tell her to go play. Shes tough and not everything needs to have a big to do.

TINA - posted on 06/12/2012

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Good job mom. I think that is a great way for you to treat her. I do the same for my daughter. I kiss her boo boo and tell her to go play. Shes tough and not everything needs to have a big to do.

Rebekah - posted on 06/12/2012

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I agree with you if this works for you and you are not brushing her off if she gets more seriously hurt (which it does not sound like you are doing).

Charlie - posted on 06/12/2012

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I live by this rule too! My 2 year old son is into everything and anything and has even found that using the washing machine to get up onto the side is really easy! If he falls over I take a quick look and say ooo what a big boy give him a kiss and off he goes, he doesn't fuss about it & now he's really resilient if I made a big fuss out of everything then he'd expect it all the time, and wouldn't want to play. The only downside I've found is that he'll fall or bang his head without me realising and I discover the bruise an hour later! If it really hurts, he'll cry but every child is going to get cuts and scrapes that's just life for a 2 year old! Let them get on with it & don't worry what other people think, their the ones having to deal with a crying & mardy child because of the slightest thing!

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