Corinne - posted on 05/30/2012 ( 186 moms have responded )
I grew up in a family that lived by the 'rub some dirt in it' rule. If you didn't seriously hurt yourself there was no need to get anything but a kiss and a reassuring "You're ok" from an adult. Times have changed but my family hasn't; the kids in our family are still expected to take a minor injury as just that. We have had two cases where we had to go to the hospital for stitches or a cast for a broken bone in my lifetime and even then we are encouraged to "take it like a champ" as my grandpa would say.
Now that my daughter is at that stage I keep the same philosophy (although I do get scared EVERY fall). She loves to climb, jump and run a little too fast than her little legs can keep up with so she takes a tumble at least once a day. While her and another kid were playing at the park she fell and hurt her knee a little. It wasn't even bleeding so I told her "You're alright, shake it off kiddo!" with a reassuring smile. She got up and got back to playing. No big deal, right?
Wrong. At least as far as the mother of the other toddler was concerned. She gave me a dirty look and without a blink said "I would never treat my child that way, you're supposed to be a mother and comfort her, not a bully and tell her to suck it up!"
I couldn't believe it... I was so offended that this woman not only called me a bully but insulted my parenting skills. I don't usually let people's words phase me but there are some places you don't go and your ability as a mother is one of them. My daughter knows that I love her and will comfort her whenever she needs it but she also is learning not to make a mountain out of a molehill and I think that's a useful life skill.
Am I wrong to expect my kid to get back up when she gets hurt without mommy's help every time? Yea, she's barely two but the earlier you start the better is what I was taught. I will continue to expect her to "shake it off" even if I get grief for it... I just hope I'm not the only one out there expecting my child to be resilient all by herself.