Olivia - posted on 12/11/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )
I am writing as an Step mother with Aspurger's. I went into my marriage knowing I was an Aspie, telling my husband that I was. It was often blown off until I had melt downs or was distant or cold (to which he would say I was unloving and didn't care anymore... which is far from true). Often when I am with my family I feel disjointed and out of place, as if everyone there speaks French and I speak Martian Laungue from another planet. It leaves me frustrated and feeling helpless. I put on a happy face and try my best. My husband thought it was not necessary to tell my step-son (his bio son) about my condition until a recent event. The other night at home his son, who I love and care about deeply, was picking at me (usually I am fine) but I was having an outwordly day and it was hard to connect with the outside world. I snapped a bit at him, after warning him to please let me be that night because I was not myself. My husband was angry at me, telling me I need to snap out of my foul mood. My mood wasn't foul I just was not my whole self, and often struggle with connecting with anyone and most people. I told him I am going to tell my SS about my condition that way I can make sure he knows that I was not mad at him but only a bit out of the world that day... and if I seem disconnected or sad it is not because of him. My husband argued that he wouldn't understand and that I need to stop using it as an excuse... I just wanted some advice, because sometimes it is just hard to be an Aspie wife and step-mom.
P.S. I did apoligize to my SS.