Assisted living and grants for college.

Katelin - posted on 01/17/2015 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I am 17. I live in South Carolina. I'm currently pregnant, 36 weeks. I live with my boyfriend and his family but I feel like our relationship may be ending if something doesn't change soon. If things don't work out, I was trying to look into assisted living and grants for college. I'm working on getting my GED right now. Because I'm 17, I can't find anything that provides housing and financial support. Can someone please help me?

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Ev - posted on 01/18/2015

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Katetlin-

All these ladies do know what they are saying. Right now my own niece who is 21 is living with a boyfriend on his family's income. She is not working nor is the father. They depend on everyone else to give them what they need. Her mom tries to get her to come home but because her mom wants her to work she won't. Also, this girl is in no way shape or form to be parenting because she does not seem to understand that she could one day be in your shoes. She was not ready when she found out she was expecting her son to be a mom or parent a child. As for getting grants and so on for college, its not easy to raise a baby period even when you do not go to school. I would say that college needs to wait until you have this situation figured out first.

Michelle - posted on 01/17/2015

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For starters, I wasn't lecturing and if you post on a public forum you will get all sorts of responses. I also don't know what conversations you have been having with your boyfriend about your future so was just making sure you had thought through everything.
As for the rest, I live on the other side of the world so wouldn't have a clue what the local agencies are. That would be the first place to ask, but since you've thought of everything I assume you have tried contacting them.
My point was that if you are having to ask for assistance then you aren't really in a god place to provide for a child.

Sarah - posted on 01/17/2015

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The advice given is not a lecture. We are all parents, single, married, affluent and not so affluent. The suggestions come from a place of concern, for you, your baby and the father. I suggested you contact the Dept. of Human Services. Even at 17 you should qualify for WIC. If you need to be emancipated to get other forms of aid, then ask your parents to sign the petition. You can get a petition for emancipation at your county clerk's office.
You have no idea what lies ahead. No matter how well prepared you think you may be, things are going to happen that you are not prepared to handle on your own. Don't let anger or fear prevent you from asking your parents for help.

Katelin - posted on 01/17/2015

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That's what I'm trying to do. But if things don't work out I need a back up plan. I asked if there was any support for housing and grants for college. I did not ask for a lecture from someone I do not know. You're stating things I already know. Not trying to be rude.

Michelle - posted on 01/17/2015

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Then you need to seriously think about what you can do. A baby isn't cheap and if you are having trouble supporting yourself now, what are you going to do when your baby needs things things urgently? They don't get cheaper either, the older they get the more expensive.
I think you need to sit down with your boyfriend and look at all your options.

Katelin - posted on 01/17/2015

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I can't rely on anyone. One half of my family literally doesn't have any money and the other half only cares about themselves. So it's not like I have a choice.

Sarah - posted on 01/17/2015

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You are going to have to rely on someone. Parenting is very difficult under the best of circumstances.

Sarah - posted on 01/17/2015

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Have you sought counseling? A baby is going to bring a lot of stress into this already strained situation. Have you spoken to your parents about this?
Since you are about to have a dependent you should be able to qualify for services, even at 17. If you do not qualify based on your age, you can petition the courts for emancipation. If you can't resolve a plan with your parents or your boyfriend's parents, reach out to the Department of Human Services for help.

Katelin - posted on 01/17/2015

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My dad lives at his house but we don't get along and I can't rely on him for much of anything. And my mom lives with her boyfriend but she is on disability and doesn't have much money. I'd like to just be on my own. I can't rely on my family at all.

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