Chantal - posted on 05/02/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )
My son is in his first yr of school (kinder) and just a couple off days ago his teacher sat a young boy next to him, who is known to be very violent towards others for no apparent reason, this young boy turned to my son who was doing his work and said ' i'm going to stab you with my pencil to see how sharp it is" , my son ( who im so proud of with his behaviour) told this boy, no, hands off!!! But unfortunatly the boy didnt listen and stabed my son in the arm with the pencil, my son didnt cry or retaliate he just got up went to the teacher and told her, i was called to come in and have a look (which thank god my son was ok, there was only a small puncture wound,) but i am so dissapointed by the way the school is handling this.
The school has a hands off policy were you have 3 strikes then you move on to a white card which restricts you from being able to join in extra curricular activities and no canteen brought food and miss 3 lunch break playtimes.
With the younger children of the school as they are still learning right from wrong there slate gets wipped clean each term.
The problem i have is this child isnt just pushing and shoving other children, he is really doing things that are alot more violent, he is not involved in extra curricular activities and dosnt have the money to buy things at the canteen, so these school policiesdont really teach him anything,
But the thing is i dont actually want to see this child expelled or treated poorly, i actualy feel bad for him, i have seen his parents around the school and they are both very loud, bad mouthed and have communication problems.
I look at his mother and see a women who loves her children and is doing what she can to look after them, but is an angry sort of person.
The school has said they will call her and chat but i get the feeling that it will be ignored.
The 3 days of missing lunch was not availble on the day it happened apparently the teacher that runs these lunch time detentions was not there, so he got to go out and play with the rest of the children, while the lunch break was on i was there to see my son and this boy within half an hour of stabing my son was out in the playground having a pretty serious fist fight (yeah this boy is only 5-6yrs old but i've never seen any child that violent).
So i've hastled the school to see what they can do, and i get the feeling there just as frustrated as me, but because of government legislation they can only do so much.
so i feel like im stuck between a rock and a hard place i dont want this boy to be victemised because of this, but i do want him to realize this behaviour isnt on and he is obviously not getting that message at home, and the school's policies dont really suit this situation.
I thought of calling childs services to see if they can get the parents involved in some kind of parenting courses or something, but i think i would feel so bad if he was taken away from them, it's obvious they love him and are trying, i know a few ppl may read this and say no childs services wont take him if the parent are willing. but childs services are so bad in nsw they are always on the news for making mistakes.
So i would like to put my situation out there and see what others would do in my shoes?