Jackie - posted on 11/24/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )
My son is honestly the most stubborn child I have ever seen. He is very willful and doesn't listen at all. But he is also the sweetest boy ever and loves to cuddle and give hugs and loves. So, here's an example of my dilemma with him. The other day we were watching a movie together and I kept dozing off and waking back up, dozing off, etc. He was right next to me on the couch but got ahold of a roll of toilet paper that had been brought out by my daughter the day before and proceeded to shred it into tiny pieces and throw it all about the room. I woke up to him decorating me with it. I was not mad at him. I didn't get upset at all. I got a sack and set it on our ottoman and told him I was going to go potty and he needed to put all of his torn up toilet paper in that sack. He began to do it so I went to the bathroom. When I came out, he was messing around and saying oh im tired, oh im sick, oh i don't want to do it, etc. so i said no, you're going to clean it up, you're a big boy. He absolutely refused to do it. I had to literally take him by the arm, bend him over and physically make his hand pick up each piece of toilet paper and put it in the sack. He was whining the whole time and when we were nearly done and he realized I was not going to pick any of it up for him, he started to bawl... LOUDLY.. and get angry. I just calmly kept it up, until he was done and then I said, "see no big deal, it's all done now!" He kept crying like I had broken his heart. So I asked if he needed a hug and he said yes, so I sat him on my lap and hugged him until he stopped crying. When he was done, I said, "when you make a big mess, you have to be a big boy and pick it up yourself. Do you understand?" and he said he did. I said, "I know you can do it, you are a really big boy, so next time you can do it yourself and it will be easier." Then he sees some little pieces we missed, goes over and happily picks them up and puts them in the sack. Now, this would be a great ending to the story if that was it. But no, he does things like this all the time and it's driving my husband and I crazy. I'm not sure what to do anymore. I've tried time-out. I've tried putting him in his room and letting him throw his fit until he calms down and apologizes. I've tried standing him in the corner for a couple of minutes. Nothing works. He's so stubborn it's just strange. I'm really just at a loss. My girls were not like this at all and I'm really not sure how to handle it. Any ideas?