at my wits end with my stepson and my wife

Peter - posted on 05/02/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have been with my wife for three years married for 6 months.we grew up together and dated then.the problem is her son from a previous marrage.i understand the whole teenage thing,hes 16.he has done tons of teenage stuff which is exspected.but the first real argument with him the next day my car was vandelized.the next rough patch my medications were being taken.the third one my brand new leather jacket was cut up the next day.my wife doesnt think her son would ever do anything like that.we lock our doors and we have cameras.she never disiplines him she just pretends nothing happened.now i was born with asthma and she has six shepperds (dogs) and i told her that im allergic and cant breath.so her sollution go take more meds but it still dont help and she still refuses to get rid of them not to mention the two cats.ive bent over backwards for her son and her but i cant do it anymore.i know it takes work blah blah blah.hes learned from his father and mother to have plausable deniabillity.she lives in a fairy land where all people are good,bs,and when bad things happen its ufos or something.so ill stop and just say if your a stepparent and your being isolated get the hell out cuz thats all youll be is a guest.

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Peter - posted on 05/03/2014

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she does but wont get rid of her dogs she thinks if i find the right meds ill be fine.and shes in complete denile about her son.its beyond fixing theres so much more that happened.i just wanted to open some eyes to the fact that its just not gonna work and to eat there loses and move on so they can be happy.thats what im doing.

Liz - posted on 05/02/2014

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The asthma exacerbation is serious and you really need to be in a house without pet dander. The issue with your step-son is also serious and I can understand entirely why you are at your wits end.

Have you tried talking to her seriously to let her know how serious these issues are for you and that you may have to rethink the marriage if she cannot work with you to reach a compromise? If you cannot get her to talk and/or listen to you in the home, then consider going to a marriage guidance specialist.

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