at what age can kids be left alone to bathe themself?

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Jodi - posted on 01/17/2010

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Quoting Temeka



Mine are 1 and 2.5. My rule has always been, since age 3 months, NO STANDING...PERIOD. After spending WAY too much time in the bathroom (I can only put so much make up on, scrub the counters and tease my hair etc.), I can't help but think about the other things around the house that need to be done...





Are you for REAL???? You leave a 1 year old and 2.5 year old in the bath together with NO bathroom supervision??? PLEASE tell me you are joking. This is highly dangerous. Sure, you may only be steps away, but it only takes seconds for something to go wrong. These children are NOT old enough to be in the bathtub without supervision. So what if other things need doing - this is extremely irresponsible.

Erica - posted on 01/17/2010

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I am glad you asked this question because I was just talking to my husband about this topic. My daughter is 3 and does very well in the bath tub. I have just started to leave her alone for a few seconds here and there. I agree with everyone else on here, it is all up to the maturity of the child. I think you will just know when your child is ready. Don't push it to be to soon, it is a great opportunity to have quality time with your child.

Kelly - posted on 01/17/2010

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Age seven to completely bathe themselves. Age 3 or 4 to play for awhile by themselves in the tub, but that is with shallow water (maybe 2-3 inches) and checking on them every few minutes.

Aisha - posted on 01/17/2010

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I agree with Jodi. You can only spend so much time hanging over them. My daughter's been "bathing herself" (not overly clean about it, but she tries!) since she was 2. I am always close by ( I tend to clean the rest of the bathroom while she's in the tub), but as far as 100% solo, I started my sons at age 3. I leave the door open, and since everything I am doing is right outside, I know when there's something wrong....kids have a tendancy to sing in the tub!! No singing, and Mom comes running!

Katherine - posted on 01/17/2010

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I've always been told at arms length...that's as far as you go. With my 4yo I'll jet into the next room but I don't leave for more than a second. 4 minutes 4 MINUTES that's how long it takes to drown/die after water is aspirated into the lungs. ANY child under 6 could stand up and hit there head.....who knows what else. I think you need to be very close with a 4-6 yo and IN THE bathroom with the younger ones.

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Jodiberncich - posted on 05/28/2012

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Okay Moms out there...Im dating a guy whos son is going on 9..He still gives him a bath and washes his privates..Do you think there is something wrong here? Ive tried talking to him but it goes no where..I personally think there is something wrong with this situation and not to mention the father I guess was molested as a child himself..what to do?

Lisa - posted on 01/17/2010

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it depends on their age i started to leave my oldest who is 6 now by himself at 41/2years old playing with his toys but my youngest who is 5 i still bath because he has had some problems so to make sure he is ok i stay with him but i would generally say about 4 or 5 years is the best age

Heidi - posted on 01/17/2010

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My 16 month old went under the water 4 inches this week, and I had to fish him out. I was sitting right there washing my other boy's hair. 1 1/2 is definately too young to leave them alone. I left my older ones alone when they could wash themselves and asked me not to look when they took off their clothes. (earlier for boys, and different for each one) My almost 3 year old can drain the tub but I don't leave her alone since she has no privacy issues yet, and likes me nearby. She also still needs help with her hair.

Ellen - posted on 01/17/2010

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My rule for my sons has always been water up to the belly button! My four year old will now panic if it gets any higher! LOL But I will put my 6 year old and my 4 year old in the tub with out constant supervision but I do leave the door open and check up on them, if not more than to see how big of a mess they are making in my bathroom haha..however if my 10 month old son gets in with them, its rare but if its late and we are in a hurry I will put them all in together and then they are not out of arms reach!!

Barbara - posted on 01/17/2010

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My son is will be 8 years old on Thursday. He's been bathing himself since he was 3 years old. Well..not in the tub, he has always preferred to shower. I helped him wash his hair up until around 2 years ago. I guess it was around that time when I could leave him in the bathroom alone. The door stays open and I'm always in the next room just in case he gets soap in his eyes or he slips. Which has not happened. I think it has a lot to do with their level of maturity.

Kellie - posted on 01/17/2010

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I think Kelly Wally is right on. The question was at what age to leave them alone to bathe themselves. I'm sorry but a three year old, especially girl, does not have the coordination to get in the sensative areas to get clean. My daugther is going to be four and although she is as bright as any other child she is not capable of properly cleaning herself or washing her hair. Seven is a good time to introduce independent bathing but I would still be close by to make sure things are getting done and based on results give her more and more privacy.

Medic - posted on 01/17/2010

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My son is 3 and he takes showers, that being said, because he is still on the short side myself or my husband has to hold the shower head over his head so he still gets what he says is the "good water" and he can wash his body by himself and we help him with his hair. As far as him taking a bath he has known how to drain the tub since he was 2 and that by no means tells me he is ok to be alone in the bath. On the rare occation that he does take a bath one of us sits in the bathroom with him more to play with him so hes not alone. I actually have not thought of when we would leave him alone in the bathroom. I guess when it bothers him that we are in there and he proves he can wash himself and act right.

Cindy - posted on 01/17/2010

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I wouldnt until they are about five because they can then drain the water, kinda know what they can and can not touch and they can yell for help.

Jodi - posted on 01/17/2010

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I never left my kids alone in a bathroom until they were about 4, and even then, I would only be in the next room, and check on them regularly. My daughter is now nearly 5, and she happily plays in the bath on her own. She can wash herself fairly well, but she needs help with washing her hair.

Emma - posted on 01/17/2010

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Depends on your child. My stepdaughter was 3 when I started leaving her for a minute here and there...but I would make her sing or talk to me so I would know she was alright. When she was 4, she started washing herself...I would do her back and hair. She's now 6 and does everything herself. I'm planning on doing the same thing with my son, when he's about 3 and see how it goes. Every child is different, so it also depends on their own maturity. My stepdaughter may only be 6, but for the most part she behaves much older and can do most things on her own, like getting her own cereal, drinks etc.

Leslie - posted on 01/17/2010

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I will leave my 17-month-old in the bath tub if I have to go run for a towel or grab the phone, but I will not leave her in there for more than a minute. I think when your child is old enough to communicate with you and tell you without a doubt that he knows what to do when he gets under water. I would really probably wait until he can go to the bathroom by himself. Always make sure to be there when he is washing to make sure he gets himself clean, but I think 5-6 is an ok age to leave the child in the bathtub alone to play for with only checking in every few minutes.

Temeka - posted on 01/17/2010

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Hmmmmm....Wow - this will be a wrench in the mix....

Mine are 1 and 2.5. My rule has always been, since age 3 months, NO STANDING...PERIOD. After spending WAY too much time in the bathroom (I can only put so much make up on, scrub the counters and tease my hair etc.), I can't help but think about the other things around the house that need to be done...

Leaving the bathroom door open, in my teeny weeny house....I putter around, all the while hearing the giggling, playing and chirping from the tub...Feeling 100% confident of the breathing still taking place in the bathroom I continue my puttering...

I know, I know....I've read it all...but I think if I hear them making happy noises....all is good in the world. When it is quiet for even a split second I am only a few steps away... Probably no less than if I were doing a crossword on the toilet...hearing the silence...

Ok, I've braced myself for the backlash...Or maybe I'm not the only one...

Jovan - posted on 01/17/2010

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my son is 2.5 and I dont leave him unattended for long. I let him play in the water before I actually bath him so while he is playing i may be folding laundry or something in the next room, but i carry on a coversation with him or ask him to sing to me while im not in there and he knows not to touch the knobs! It just depends on the maturity of your child!

Ami - posted on 01/17/2010

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my little boy is 2 and personally i think ill wait till around 3 to 4 and i do get worried but like someones said already it depends on the maturity of the child. x

Beth - posted on 01/17/2010

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it is to easy for a child to go under water and not come up or they may try standing and can slip and fall. Age six would be an appropriate age to be left alone but give them toys to play with that way you can hear them while being in another room close by!!

Lisa - posted on 01/17/2010

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They can start learning to bathe themselves around 2 (with help) and as far as being left alone I would say 4 only if you are checking on them every few minutes and the door is left open so you can hear. If you want to shut the door or not check on them constantly I would say 6.

Marquita - posted on 01/17/2010

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I think it mostly has to do with the maturity level of the child. My daughter turned 3 a month ago and I feel comfortable leaving her in the tub alone if I have to grab something real quick. I stay in the bathroom with her most of the time and if I have to get the door or grab something I just make her sing a song to me or I carry on a conversation with her so I know she is ok. We have already went over the rules of the bathroom and she knows not to turn on the water in the tub. She knows not to stand up in the tub unless mommy is there to help her. It's just little things like that, that have help me feel of confident with that. I actually asked my boyfriend the other day if he thought she was too young to be in there alone, he said he thought it was ok because I've told her about the tub rules.

Kylie - posted on 01/17/2010

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4-5? My daughter is 4 and i let her play in the bath without watching her the whole time..i still wash her hair and body and make sure is drys herself properly. She does swimming lessons and knows not to touch the taps.

Rebecca - posted on 01/17/2010

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I personally let my son wash himself, for the most part and he's 2.5yrs. We don't leave him alone and although we wash his hair he likes to help and has since he was about 1.5yrs. I know i wasn't left alone to bathe until i was about 5yrs and then when i was 6yrs i passed out and hit my head and was never left alone again. I am always in the room with my kids for now but when they reach the age of 6 or 7 i will let them be alone. I feel when they are ready to shower they can be left alone.

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