At What Age Can Kids Choose Which Parent to Live With?

Erin - posted on 02/27/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hi, I'm 15 years old and my parents are getting divorced. My dad is trying to take custody of me and my sisters and honestly I would rather live with my mom. Not because I have anything against my dad but im 15, there are certain things that I cant talk about with my dad and I'd be more comfortable living with my mom. I was wondering if I'd be able to testify in court and state my reason for wanting to live with my mom?


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/27/2014




It depends on where you live. You need to have one or the other of your parents request a Guardian Ad Litem for you and your siblings. That way, your opinions can be heard, even if you are not 'of age' to make a choice.

This does NOT mean that you will be removed from your parents' custody. This is a person who will represent you and your siblings in the proceedings, to try to make sure that your best interests and your concerns are considered.

Jodi - posted on 02/27/2014




I think it depends on where you live, but in most places, the judge would listen to your views and the reasons why and give them consideration.


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Ev - posted on 02/27/2014




Again it depends on the state you live in and the laws there. Also some states set an age that the judge will hear a minor who is a teen for example at your age and take it into great consideration what you want. Most times from what I have been told the child's wants at this age are taken under advisement and usually granted. Do not quote me on that but that is what happened to some of the ones I do know.

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