At what age do you start trying to put your child to sleep without rocking him to sleep?

Jen - posted on 10/07/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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Our son is 10 months old and we usually give him a bottle and rock him until he goes to sleep. I'm wondering when and HOW I should start trying to get him to go to sleep on his own, without rocking?

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Minnie - posted on 10/07/2009

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It's always nice to be cuddled to sleep by someone you love and who loves you. I would never deny my child that.



Rocking or no rocking, ALL children learn to put themselves to sleep on their own when they're ready. He's not going to need you to rock him to sleep on his wedding night, you know.



So why don't you make with the cuddles- he'll grow up before you know it and then he's not going to want momma rocking him at bed time.

Kellie - posted on 10/08/2009

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Hey, our first little one , we went to "sleep school" at three months as this is when I went back to work and hubby and I could not stand there and rock her in the middle of the night as we both had to get up for work next day. So we did settle sleeping/ control crying from 3 months with her..our new little one (8 weeks) 9 times out of 10 she will go to bed awake and wrapped and she will put herself to sleep no fuss. If you are interested let me know and will forward a few easy steps(would rather not bore you if not interested)

The advantage of this method if she wakes herself in the night she puts herself back to sleep. Honestly my 5 year old is a great sleeper and no issues at bedtime now and so far (fingers crossed) our 8 week old sleeps through 6.30 pm till 6 am..routine routine. Good luck x

Jane - posted on 10/07/2009

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i rocked and held our 2 yr old until she was in her own bed and i hold our 8 month old until she's alseep on my shoulder. i would just stop rocking for 2 minutes before i put her in the crib so it's not just stopped. for me, i don't like putting them down if they're going to cry. there are a lot of books you can read if you want to teach him how to sleep, "how to solve your child's sleep problems" by dr. ferber and "the happiest baby on the block" are a few.

good luck!

Allison - posted on 10/17/2009

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It is excellent bonding time and even though my child is only three those three years have flew by at warp speed.... so, definitely cherish the opportunity

Allison - posted on 10/17/2009

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My son is three. He started sleeping in his own room at about 27 months, but he still had to be rocked to sleep. Due to some life changes, he is back in bed with me, smaller place, blah, blah,.... he will fall asleep now while we are reading stories, but he needs the company and attention

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Ana - posted on 08/05/2015

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Hi Kellie,
I would love to know the method you used with your 8week baby. You can email me anaclombardo@yahoo.com.
Thank you

Veronica - posted on 10/18/2009

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Like Claire, we didn't have a choice at about 10 months. Up until that time, I gradually moved from sleeping in same bed, to sleep in same room, to rock to sleep, to rub to sleep. Finally, she refused to be cuddled to sleep and would squirm and fight it. She also started to reject her soother and I never could get her attached to a blankie or a stuffie. At first, I tried to stay in her room until she fell asleep, but she would simply stand in her crib and shake the railings. It got to the point that as soon as we started the bedtime routine, she would cry. Even now, she still refuses to be read a book before bed (even though she loved it previously). So, I was left with no choice but to let her cry it out. Now, if she does cry, it is for less than 5 minutes and she's asleep.

Before doing the cry it out method, I relied on the "No Cry Sleep Solution", which has a number of things to try to "sleep train" (i.e. establishing a routine, introducing a lovey, etc.). To move from rocking, I would rock until baby was drowsy but not fully asleep. Then I would carefully place her in her crib, and watched her fall asleep.

I think that only you can know when your baby is ready to stop being rocked. Good luck.

Claire - posted on 10/15/2009

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i didn't really have much of an option i mean that in a good way, i was in the bath and my husband was cradling our son down stairs trying to get him to sleep but it just wasn't happening so my husband popped him in his cot, gave him his dummy and cuddly blanket and put his mobile on and he sent himself to sleep he was about 7 months when we started, but we were really lucky that he has slept through the night from 7 weeks.

Christina - posted on 10/12/2009

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I rocked my son to sleep then put him in the bed with us until he was 5 months then just put him in his own room, own bed. It was not easy considering he was my first, and he cried for about an hour. He cried himself to sleep for about a week (if that) and never after that! It was not easy but i didnt want to wait too long to put him in his own bed! There are nights that I will hold him until he falls asleep and he is almost 3. But he knows when its time to go into his room and go "nite nite" Hope this helped!! Good Luck

Katrina - posted on 10/12/2009

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as long as you are willing to rock your little one every night....then do it.

Wen - posted on 10/10/2009

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We waited til our son was about 14 months old (before that we nursed or rocked him to sleep). It took about a two weeks before he was able and willing to fall asleep without crying. Now he points to his crib and says, "bed!" when he's ready to go to sleep. That being said, we have a definite bedtime routine that we follow each night (bath,massage, snack & nurse, brush teeth, prayer & story).. so he's used to it now.

Bhavana - posted on 10/10/2009

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After he completes 1 yr. or may be a year and a half. You can change the pattern of putting him to sleep. may be tell him stories & put him habit of saying night prayers. I hope this info will of some help to you. God bless.

Lauren - posted on 10/09/2009

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we have a bedtime routine with our son who is nearly 4 month old. We do the Bath, into sleeping bag, feed, story (also burp time) and then into bed while awake/drowsy (although sometimes he nods off during the story)
it was really hard the first week or so, but we used settling techniques like patting and rocking while he was still laying in bed (not picking him up unless hysterical) and we dont use control crying. He has now got into the habit of going back to sleep himself (he was a big cat-napper) and because he has the whole bedtime routine he knows that he can start winding down for sleep and knows that bed is approaching, so dosent really fight it anymore. i think it would be harder with an older child that is used to being put to sleep a certain way, but if you stick to the same thing long enough and dont go back to the old ways he will learn quickly and it will work out well in the end.

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I rock my 10 month old still...my two and a half yr old never liked being rocked.. my nephew is also 2 and a half..and he STILL likes to be rocked....it is comforting to them, only stop when they dont want it anymore..or if you really feel you dont want to do it, just lay them in bed, and explain that they can go to sleep without you.. it takes time...but again some kids need that comforting feeling.

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every doctor will tell you that you shouldn't do that, that you should lay them down when they start to doze off... i did the same thing like you, where we held him till he fell asleep and put him down that way. we had no problems.. he's now 22 months and our routine and it's always been that way, is we sit down in a chair, read some books before bed and then we sit and watch wheel of fortune and he's in bed by the time the show ends. I now have twin boys that are 11 months, and it's difficult to get into a pattern with them. If you're afraid of keeping him rocking to long, you may want to have some colorful books that after he's done eating, you read to him and rock a little with him then put him up.... try that for a few nightsand see what happens. we've found that with our 3 boys that a calm down routine is best before bed.

Dhane' - posted on 10/08/2009

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I stopped rocking my daughter to sleep at about 6months, although it was difficult for er to fall asleep after I tried some light jazz music she loved it I also went To walmart and got some glow in the dark stickers and put them on her ceiling...every night before she went to bed a laid with her and counted the stickers on the ceiling she loved it and feel asleep counting (great way to start counting at an early age) She is five yrs old now and she goes to sleep with no problem...I would suggest music or peaceful sounds instead of rocking..Hope that helps

Jan - posted on 10/08/2009

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Quoting Karin:

I've been hoping to see a thread like this one. Grace has had many difficullt nights, including last night when she was up more than 5 times! Sometimes she just wakes up and we can't get her back to sleep. The other night, she did great. Only woke twice to eat and went right back. But, nights like last night make me want to just lay down and cry. I am not going to let her cry. There is no way I would feel ok w/doing that. I'm hanging in here and trying to help her learn to rest on her own. It;s just great to hear other Mom's who have that same philosophy and maybe are going through what I am. It sucks to be alone at 3am and not know what to do,
Thanks :)



It may be lonely @ 3am but you're doing a fantastic job Karin, your little girl will love you for it. To all you mums out there, we all do it our own way, there are no right or wrong ways, you all do your best, so you should give yourselves a big pat on the back, good for you. Best wishes to you all. xx

Rebecca - posted on 10/08/2009

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i have a 5 month old that Has to be rocked or cuddled to sleep,if i put him to bed awake he will cry until he is almost ready to pass out or get sick, so i will wait until i think he is asleep good in my arms before i even try to put him in his crib, sometime i get up 10 or more time to soothe him back to sleep in his crib but almost always he ends up in bed with me where its easier to cuddle him back to sleep. i figure i should cherish this time with him while i can because once he gets older he wont want to cuddle with mom & dad anymore:-) i know its can get rough sometimes especially when you are really tired but i dont want him to feel like he is alone & we dont care so i will go to him & rock him back to sleep as many times as he needs.

Helen - posted on 10/08/2009

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As long as you have a good routine for bed it doesn't matter. I've tried to avoid rocking my boys but purely out of choice. They both used to go into their cots and we'd hold hands through the bars until the wanted to roll over to sleep. I still lie next to my 6 year old and we snuggle for about 10 mins before i leave the room. He has learning difficulties but is starting to wean himself off. As the lady said before he won't want it on his wedding night so don't panic.

Karin - posted on 10/08/2009

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I've been hoping to see a thread like this one. Grace has had many difficullt nights, including last night when she was up more than 5 times! Sometimes she just wakes up and we can't get her back to sleep. The other night, she did great. Only woke twice to eat and went right back. But, nights like last night make me want to just lay down and cry. I am not going to let her cry. There is no way I would feel ok w/doing that. I'm hanging in here and trying to help her learn to rest on her own. It;s just great to hear other Mom's who have that same philosophy and maybe are going through what I am. It sucks to be alone at 3am and not know what to do,

Thanks :)

Jane - posted on 10/08/2009

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Tori is three years old and loves her cartoons at about 7 and then nods off at about half 8 xxx

Loves her sleep so haven't any problems with the sleeping routine haha

Nesreen - posted on 10/08/2009

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Hi there...well, the way I did it, is that I started to put my baby girl to sleep (without rocking her to sleep) when she turned 6 months. The thing is, I still sang her good night songs just before that, and that got her tired and sleepy, but she´d still be awake. I went through ONE horrible night of letting her cry it out (she cried for 3 hours that night, I kept going to her though every 10 minutes without picking her up, but just kept telling her that I´m there and that everything is ok), till she finally fell asleep. Although it broke my heart doing that, I´m glad I did.. ever since then, she goes to bed wide awake sometimes but falls asleep on her own. Now she´s 2, and she still does that perfectly... has always slept through the night since then (1pprox. 12 hours) and still does.. hope that helped : )

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