Lynelle - posted on 01/24/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
I am a highly educated (arts law UNSW) mother of a beautiful but at times v v selfish 16 year old daughter (only child). Her father is not involved at all... and she is about to enter the last two years of school. We are not wealthy and my mother has just taken a second mortgage to send my daughter to a private girls school to give her the "best shot" at "a life"...
We had to BRIBE her to go... Within our matriarchal family I have now ceased legal work and will be the "stay at home" to provide support to my daughter on the cusp of becoming an adult. I have registered to study on line, am aiming to make my affairs "papersless" (Australia is 20 years behing us is IT terms) and I AM SO SCARED I WILL NOT BE ABLE TO HELP HER MAKE GOOD DECISIONS.
I feel impotent.
I have told her to balance her "passions" with her "material level of comfort", ie yes work at what you love but remember money does not rain from the sky.
I am seeking friends to talk to as I undergo this journey with my daughter as at the moment I am very isolated and find myself getting overstressed and venting on the wrong people.
I would love to hear from anybody, anywhere about what they have found works and what doesn't ... I would also like to learn more about the US... I have never travelled there... have relatives in Washington, and Florida... and would love to see New York before I die.
I am 43... unmarried and not looking for love at all until my daughter has found her feet.
So hi to all you mums out there... I read and relate to so many of your posts.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
My name is Elizabeth but Beth is fine.