Autism/Aspergers, etc.

Joann - posted on 08/16/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My 17 year old son hasn't been diagnosed. He has NO friends. Stays indoors during summer - has much anxiety about outside - Has horrible hygene habits, has 100 shirts hanging in closet but to him, he only has 2 (I guess they feel the best)- has no empathy, slow motor skills, does not want to drive. Plays a lot of video games but also has a huge interest in Sports. Can tell you what the professional player's batting average, position he plays, coaches names, etc. He also has ticks - stands in front of the TV, often clapping loudly or clucking (rolling tongue on top of mouth) - Sometimes it's deafening! I'll yell at him to knock it off and he doesn't even realize he's doing it. He does not want a girlfriend, friends, to socialize - just stay at home with mom & dad for the rest of his life. Of course I want more for him but was wondering if any Aspies have ticks? I will say that he suppresses his ticks at school but the minute he gets home, I put in my ear plugs!!! Thanks all.

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April - posted on 08/19/2016

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Hi! I am sorry to hear that you didn’t get the help that you and your son deserved when he was younger. It is a long hard and lonely rode to get a diagnosis. I traveled that rode with my children before. It does take a great deal of perseverance and thick skin when doors close in your face. I don’t think hope is lost for your son though! Based on what you said, it does sound like there is some valid reasons to think that your son might have Asperger’s. (My oldest son has it.) Although, I think it can be hard to determine if some of the things you mentioned are Asperger related or just plain goofy teenagers. Haha! I would encourage you to go ahead and try to convince your son that it is in his best interest to get a diagnoses now. He is still under 18, so he would be able to get services. I think it is also important to have a diagnoses on paper just in case your child needs accommodations later on in life whether that may be for college, work, etc. It is just something to think about. Praying for you!

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Joann - posted on 08/16/2016

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Believe me - I go over this every day and every time he texts me something he wants. The big thing 10 years ago was ADHD. Everything was ADHD. I constantly beat myself up over not being more aggressive on this or following thru with the occupational therapy. I have cried too many tears for his lonliness. It bothers me more than it does him. He is a lovable kid - and I will get him what he needs but he is what he is. He is not social or empathetic at all. I could cry all day and he doesn't care - I don't take it personally anymore. I just wasn't sure about the tics. Also, he doesn't sleep much. He gets up for school at 4:00 am even though his bus doesn't come until 6:35 am. His reasoning - "I need to be awake when I get on the bus". I can't argue with that! I do believe he has sensory processing disorder thus the clothes, no water on his head, will not swallow a pill, and the world will end if he doesn't get Mac & Cheese on Friday night.

Dove - posted on 08/16/2016

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You can't make him now. That was my point. I'm sorry, but if my child were struggling I would not stop until we got the right answer from very, very young. Clearly that doesn't matter NOW cuz you can not go back in time and I'm sorry you did not find the answers and support you needed when he was little.

I will just answer your question in your OP then. Yes, I'm pretty sure a lot of Aspie's have tics.

Joann - posted on 08/16/2016

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wow - OK - I knew this was coming. Misdiagnosed in Kindergarden. Pediatrician put him on Adderall. All he did was lose weight. He could not and can not to this day take a pill (an advil, a Tylenol). I had to crush it up and put it in yogurt. Finally realized he was a zombie and took him off. Brought him to another pediatrician who realized he wasn't making eye contact and she suggested I take him to a neurologist. They tested him and we walked away with he does not have ADHD. Fast forward go to Occupational Therapy. The doctor wanted him to spit in tube as a drug test and he won't go back. How can I make this 6'1 - 225 pound kid go to the doctor? Believe me, I have tried and tried. He tells me he does not have Aspergers or Autism. He's barely squeaking by in high school and doesn't make any trouble at school. It's like he's not even there. I really appreciate your support and understanding. Thank you Dove - I'm now so enlightened!

Dove - posted on 08/16/2016

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Why would you not have sought a diagnosis and help for him years ago? Many kids w/ autism are capable of growing up to lead full and productive lives as an adult, but they NEED the extra help and support. You have done your son a huge disservice by not seeking help for him many years ago.

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