Awkward situation with son.

Liz - posted on 04/13/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




Im sure this is situation other moms have had to deal with so would really apprciate your experience and help.

The other day my 10 yr old son walked in on me undressing. Id just gone into the bathroom to take a shower after playing in the paddling pool with my daughter when he came running in. Luckily id only just started getting out of my swimsuit so i only had my top half uncovered when he came in. He apologised straight away and kept saying sorry. I could tell he was upset so i casually grabbed a towel and covered up not wanting to make a big deal out of it. He came up to me again that evening to say sorry and got quite upsset again. I just said to him it wasnt a big deal and tried to make a joke of it by saying he'd seen it all before anway. I thought that was the end of it but now things are really awkward with him. To me honestly it wasnt a big deal its only a pair of

How do you think i should deal with this. Would like to hear if the same things happened to other moms.


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Sylvia - posted on 04/13/2011




I'm with Carolyn -- I wouldn't feel like this was a big deal *for me*, but obviously it's a big deal *for him*, so you need to try and figure out why that is and help him work through it.

As for specific advice, sorry, I got nothing. I have an 8-year-old girl, which is kind of different ...

Carolyn - posted on 04/13/2011




Has your son received any messages anywhere ( family, friends, school) that might make him feel shameful for seeing his mother or another woman undressed ?

Try asking him why he is so upset about it. Let him express his feelings and thoughts and then you can more properly address them and correct any negative thoughts or messages he may have received about the female body etc.

I worry about saying things like "its not a big deal" to young children because if taken the wrong way, it could make them feel like what they are feeling is not a big deal, and almost dismissing it with a one liner. (not saying this is your case) because it obviously is a big deal if he is so upset over it.

The fact that he has returned to apologize, get upset and is continually bothred, tells me he needs to have his feelings and thoughts addressed.

Just talk to him about it, and address his concerns.

S. - posted on 04/13/2011




Awww bless him, seems to me your dealing with it all in the right way. I mean what else can you do? Is he a naturally embarrassed easy person? My daughter (11) walked in on her step dad in the bath she said sorry felt daft and frogot about it as quick as it happened. X

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