Babies 1st Birthday in Heaven

Emily - posted on 07/03/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hello everyone! I was after some ideas of things to do for my Daughters first birthday. Angel would of been 1 on 17/07/16 she was born sleeping at 27 weeks and the past year has been tough to say the least and I would love to celebrate her birthday but am unsure of what to do and also what people would think but also how do you ask people to come and join you for something like this or is it best to just do it alone? Any ideas and opinions please, thank you xx

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Sarah - posted on 07/03/2016

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When we lost twins to a birth defect in 2009, we honored their birth date by planting a beautiful cherry tree in our yard. I look at that tree, which finally fruited last year and I feel peace. It took me a long time to get there but I did.

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Sarah - posted on 07/04/2016

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Emily, I knew my girls were not going live and I grieved for a long time and it was terrible. I was terrible to everyone around me and awful to people who were only trying to help. I found a lot of relief in a support group for parents of lost children. It was open to anyone who had lost a child; miscarriage, stillbirth, accidents, adult children passing, anyone. The beauty of that group of people is I could say whatever I felt and no one judged or tried to placate me. I went about 5 months after the girls were born after my mom told me to get some help or she was going to move in and help my husband with our 4 other kids. To talk to someone who knows what it really feels like was a huge relief for me, maybe it would help you too.

Emily - posted on 07/03/2016

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Thank you, that is a really good idea! I planted a small bush when we lost her and that makes me smile seeing it bloom again at the minute! I think I will look to find something to do the same for her 1st birthday too and it gives me hope knowing that eventually i will find peace with my feelings too as its all so raw and although friends and family try to help you can never express just how devastating it actually is.

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