Baby 11

Michelle - posted on 01/02/2014 ( 27 moms have responded )

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Hi I'm trying to conceive my num 11 baby I had a miscarriage in November I was 6 wks . Very upset but now Reyes in December it's just killing me to c if it worked bug I'm now going crazy I thought I was having early symptoms but now I'm a week away from my piriod. And it's like all the signs are gone . This happen to any 1 please help some hope would b gd

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Mardi - posted on 01/04/2014

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A lot of my ancestors had 10-20 children, thats living, not counting still births and miscarrages.

I was often told I could handle a dozen, but was more than happy to stop at 3.

I'm also concerned about the level of education and hope that your helping your kids to do better in their lives.

Have the grandbabies started to come along yet? How do your other/older kids feel about such a big family?

How do you have time to even think of when your due etc, you should be flat out keeping up with 10 kids/babies in the house.

I will say on Jodis and my behalf, we have a problem here in australia of welfare young mums popping out babies for the welfare bonuses (blame the government for that one), this should settle a bit now the new government is in. Sadly, often its more about the money than about the children, and we are looking at generations of welfare dependant families.

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Jodi - posted on 01/08/2014

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Tameil, given this isn't even YOUR post and no-one has addressed your situation specifically, I am not sure why you are feeling attacked, judged or mistreated.

User - posted on 01/08/2014

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Thanks I didn't ask for ur approval or ur opinion just want to share my excitement .

User - posted on 01/08/2014

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Thank u so much for ur support and incourgment. I feel I have been judged and mistreated on this sight I have had the full support of my doctor as we'll I come from a big family to I am of aboriginal and Greek Origen and proud of it my husband is Fijian I am happy to announce the I am preget with number 11. So thank u I Christian to another .

User - posted on 01/06/2014

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I think this post got off track.... By number 11, Id say just keep trying, there isnt much you can do other than things like fertility treatments and such. If you have 10 children congratulations! I am blessed to only have one, but 10.. wow that would be wonderful truly. I have 5 sisters and 1 brother, and I love them all and so thankful for my large family. I myself want more children as many as God will provide for me.
Id say by number 10 you have everything down pat and know if you are ready for another, and that your still physically capable of raising another child. I hope the best for you and your family. God Bless You!

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I'm not trying to be mean either.
From all the posts of Michele's it appears that there is a need for actual 'babies'. Some women love little breast-feeding little babies that are in need ALL the time. But they are always referred as babies, not children. That may just be an endearing word. But as the older babies move out, there will be less babies and a need for more. Some women are afraid for the day when their children are gone so they keep making more.
I don't think there is a need for freedom of sleeping through the nights or otherwise. (Otherwise the making of babies would have stopped in the family year ago- seriously, when you think about it.)
Some people actually do have addictions to things other than alcohol or drugs. What I find is sad and disturbing, is when a woman keeps having babies until the babies start coming out with mental (downs syndrome for example) and physical disabilities and STILL want to keep having babies. This happens often, yet the parents are still needing more.
Why would a person WANT more than 8 children or whatever? I truly do NOT understand that.
Can anyone answer that for me?
Very unfair to an unborn child.

Chris - posted on 01/04/2014

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I’m not trying to be mean but I truly hope that English is not Michelle’s original language.
I have 11 children 4 Bio /2 step and 5 adopted. My adopted sons were teenagers when we adopted and if they had been younger I don’t think I could have done it. What people are saying to Michelle is not mean or hateful they are saying to try and raise 11 children and give each child the individual attention and help they need is hard if not impossible. The expense is also hard (trust me I know) I had 6 in college at the same time. If your oldest is 23 you will probably soon be a grandmother then you can have babies around without the sleepless nights.

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My ancestors had a ton of kids too but that was many years ago. Often people had that many kids to help out on the farm - that was one reason. Since then, we have something called BIRTH CONTROL.
I'm quite certain that I could have popped out 10 or 15, but there is reality to deal with- like quality time with your kids, money, devoting help with their homework, driving them to activities if you can actually afford activities, health care for 20 people, etc. etc.
Yes- I'm concerned about literacy and the like as well. I agree.

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I cannot imagine a world where we all had 15 or 20 kids. Wow. And what would the driving force be, what would be the point? Religion?
Oops....I think I'm done with this conversation.

Michelle - posted on 01/04/2014

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There's no need for any nasty posts. Every person has the right to live the way they want to.
I personally couldn't cope with that many children but some admire me for having 3.
Michelle: maybe wait until your period is due and then take a test. There's not really a lot of advice we can give.
Good luck.

Jodi - posted on 01/04/2014

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Actually, I didn't automatically think welfare was involved. See that word "if" that I used? If you understood correct English, you would recognise that there is no accusation in my post of anyone being on welfare, simply a supposition that IF someone is on welfare they shouldn't be continuing to have children.

Just for the record, my post also wasn't directed at you specifically.

Judgemental? Well, if it is judgemental to believe we, as human beings, should be looking after our planet for future generations by reducing our carbon footprint (which includes not overpopulating our species), then fine, I'm judgemental. Definitely not self-centred though. I want my grandchildren and great-grandchildren to enjoy the natural environment I enjoy, and at the rate we are populating this planet, that is not going to be possible. Not such a self-centred agenda. Actually, an agenda I consider an obligation that should be the task of EVERY human being. You may see it as harsh and judgemental but it is certainly not self-centred and bitchy. It's realistic.

User - posted on 01/04/2014

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I Am in controll of my life thanks but u misunderstood me when I said I was addicted I don't no we're ur from bug h did misunderstand me I just love baby's I love being a mm and I would love j mor god willing so let's jugs leave I tag that ,

User - posted on 01/04/2014

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Msg I people u automate think welfare is involved just showed his self centered and close mined I are sorry u feel like that ur problem not. Mine

User - posted on 01/04/2014

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I thing u are a very judgmental person and obviously u have no idea of anything I'm actually saying so best we keep our did nitty cause I realy don't want a bitch fight with some 1 who clearly nos nothing about me . So I don't want ur stress thanks , and no ur not paying off my family so don't eavan go there . I would realy hate yo b a friend of such a bitchy girl . Feel footy for u . And I talk about the universe I sugesg u study that one gd luck with that. ,

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I agree.
This could get to be a nasty conversation. I can think of at least TEN reasons why I am so against people having dozens of kids until the later ones end up mentally compromised or the mom's life is at risk, etc.,etc., etc., etc., etc.
(Are my taxes supporting you and your children?)
Don't even get me started!

Michelle maybe there's a reason that you had a miscarriage in November.
Maybe your body is trying to tell you something.
Maybe your higher power is trying to tell you something.
Do ya think????

Jodi - posted on 01/03/2014

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Here is what is wrong with having so many kids. Our planet is already overpopulated and being drained of resources. We have the means to do something about that. personally, I think it is selfish to continue having so many children - selfish on more than one level, from both a global perspective AND from the perspective of the children you are already raising that you probably don't have enough time for. Also selfish if you are not 100% financially supporting them (no food stamps, no welfare, no tax benefits).

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YOU said you have an 'addiction', not me. An addiction is a fairly negative thing, don't you think? And a person with an addiction needs help, right? And to be addicted to babies??? You're saying you have a problem with wanting more babies, not me.
For a mom to hear that another mom "can't help myself, I am addicted", sounds like a woman who cannot control herself and against her willpower, is bringing too many babies into this world. It sounded like a cry for help, or- at least I think a lot of women would react to that comment in a negative way.

User - posted on 01/03/2014

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Wat is so wrong with this many kids I have a loving husband and were settled I just love baby's and it can handle them all just fine so wat is so wrong with that . There are people that have trouble coping with 1 or 2 kids but that's not me . Sorry u feel that way maybe I'm on the wrong sight because I came on here to enjoy peoples positive comments not the negative ones so thank u for that .

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You're addicted to what? If you're addicted to having babies lady- you need some SERIOUS help, and QUICK.That is just wrong on SO MANY levels.
(If this is NOT what you're addicted to, I apologize.)

User - posted on 01/03/2014

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Yes I have 10 baby's my eldest is 23 and my youngest is 2 I just can't help myself I addicted

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