Baby #2

Katie - posted on 12/10/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




I just found out that we are expecting baby #2! I am excited & know that I want to become a mommy all over again-I'm just feeling sad & guilty because my 19 month old is my WORLD and I don't want him feeling sad or left out. I know that this is a normal feeling, but I guess I'm just looking for some encouragement from some of you ladies who went through these feelings also...
Thank-you! :)


Laura - posted on 12/11/2010




I'm about right there, My son's are about 2 1/2 years apart and the one in Feb will be 2 1/2 year younger than my second. Like Louise said, involve him in everything. Let him relish being the big brother. Let him help bathe him, get his diaper and throwing it away. If you are not nursing and bottle feeding let him hold the bottle. Just try to include him in everything even picking the name. Good luck and Congrats!!

Laura - posted on 12/11/2010




congrats !!! know exactly how you are feeling, nearly 15mos between my sons & felt over the moon to be pregnant but guilt towards the big brother now. Was told when i was expecting that the heart is a muscle & will stretch to love how ever many kids you have. Your 19month old will be great & they will be great friends & have so much fun together as they grow. It's natural to be worried but try not to be, everything WILL be fine :) Good luck

Angie - posted on 12/11/2010




Congratulations, Katie. I know you love and cherish you son but he is not the first oldest sibling in the world. By that I mean, he is joining the "oldest sibling" club and he'll do great. Try not to concentrate on him no longer being the center of your attention but about the joy he will find in having a younger sibiling.

Tammy - posted on 12/11/2010




Congratulations Katie! I just found out I am expecting #2 as well!- when are you due? I'm due August 9th. My son will be 25mo when our next litte one is born and I think Louise has some great ideas! And yes, we will have 7-8mo up our sleeve to have our child all to ourself too. I am really excited but definetly dont want my son to miss out either!

Louise - posted on 12/11/2010




I know how you are feeling! Just remember to involve your son with everything when the baby arrives. There is 29 months between my sons and when my younger son was born I bought my eldest a garage and cars and wrapped them up so that when people camea round with presents for the baby he had something to play with. I told him the present was from his brother and he loved it. I involved him with everything even the nappy changing he would bring a clean nappy or the wipes. At bath time he would sprinkle on the talc and so on. Yes the relationship does change but your son will realise that being older he can do more with mummy like have a story and a cuddle. Try and make time for him alone when you can and even ask the dad to have the baby whilst you take your son out occasionally one to one. You are a loving mum so you should not have any problems loving all your children individually. Congratulations and good luck!


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Amber - posted on 12/11/2010




Does that present thing work for a child that will be 21 months when my next one is due? I am worried about this as well but I am very happy that they will be so close together.

Katie - posted on 12/11/2010




Thanks a lot, everyone, I really appreciate the encouraging words & suggestions!
Tammy-congrats to you, also! My little guy will be 26 months when the next is born, so our two must be around the same age & my due-date is August 10th-how funny that we're so close with both babies!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/10/2010




Congratulations!!!!! What a wonderful thing. Your 19 month old still has atleast 7-8 mos of mommy all to him/her self! You will include your eldest in the new baby and that is the most important thing. You will find the time when the new baby is born for alone time with the first born. Good luck! And believe it or not, you are a better mom already for having this concern!

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