Baby #3...?

Chelsea - posted on 09/11/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My husband and I have been back and forth on the idea of a 3rd child. We currently have a 3 and 4 year old and my step-son is 12. (Very helpful big brother, might I add!) Anyhow, we had our first two back to back. They are exactly a year and 3 days apart. So, it has always seemed as though we've been raising twins. One of us takes one child, the other takes the other child, etc. etc.... However, since last year we have been discussing the idea of adding a new addition to the family. How did you ladies feel about baby #3, #4, or any more than 2?! Please share your thoughts!

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Annemare - posted on 10/05/2015

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Hi everyone

I just came across all of your conversations and was also wondering what to do in my life with another baby. We have two boys aged 9 and 11 and they keep me busy enough, but I also feel like I just want one more then we will be complete. I was on yaz birth control but I left it a few months ago because I had so many side effects from that and it made me a horrible person. Now that I left it I feel more love and loved by my husband and children (feels like I'm back to normal again). I had my first period on the 23rd September for a whole week, and I dont know if I want to go onto another birth control pill because it makes me feel terrible. I do want another baby but like what one of you guys said ones the kids start fighting and you have a crazy day then I'm not sure if I want one anymore.

My husband is scared to have another one but deep down I can see that he also wants another baby. Does anyone have some advice on that for me, and also what are my chances of falling pregnant after having my first proper period??

Thanks so much
Annemare

Sarah - posted on 09/11/2015

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I gotta say it goes in spurts. Overall I am definitely more laid back, patient and tolerant. I used to be a total "grade grubber" (my kids had to be the best) and I did not tolerate a cluttered house. I still like things in order, and have found ways to keep kids things where they belong. When it comes to patience, I would say yes I am more patient. However, I do have my days, just like every mom does. What typically would not bother me...leaving the milk out, putting away an empty cereal box or not putting away your laundry. Some days that will push me over the edge, I go berserk, the kids look at me like I am nuts. I cool off, apologize and we move on. I think the best thing I learned is kids can help you do things. I don't have to do everything myself. I used to make their beds and tidy everyday (because I like a tidy house) Well I trained the kids to do it, they wipe down the toothpaste out of the sink, they put dirty clothes in the hamper, they realized we are a working unit. A team, and together we get what we want. I am a bit OCD, I don't like to leave the house a mess. The kids have learned that if they pitch in, then the get where they want to be on time. Now my kids are older, one just turned 19, 16, 13 and 11. I never knew how much I'd enjoy parenting. I thought it was like a job, but now I picture our family as this fluid functioning unit. Everyone helps, gives feedback and participates. There is no question who is in charge, me and dad (really me but I let him think he is in charge too). My young adult has become very independent and I am so proud. I suppose i went off topic and did not really answer your question. I think patience, for me, came with age, acceptance that no one is perfect, no one expects you to be perfect and that life is meant to be fun!

Sarah - posted on 09/11/2015

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I have 4. I was told that number three would be my last due to complications during the pregnancy (LIES!) I love having lots of kids. There are down sides, you need a van, you need two hotel rooms, you become a set-up at a restaurant and you get teased. I would not trade any of them ever! We had all 4 in 7 years, so we were very busy, now even busier. But it is a good busy.

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Uyenchi - posted on 10/01/2015

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I went through the same thing a year ago. My kids were 2.5 and 4. My husband wanted a third, and since I was the one on the fence, the decision came down to me. For over a year I debated with myself, I read articles on having 3 children, I looked for signs to help me decide one way or another. There would be moments when I thought - let's just go for it, but then when the kids were sick or fighting, or when I was angry at my husband, I didn't think I could handle a third. I even had a 5-year IUD put in. But that feeling like someone was missing from our family lingered. So one day I decided to go for it. I didn't want to regret not having a third later in life when I'm too old. So now I'm pregnant with our third, baby is due in a few weeks, and I couldn't be more excited. And it feels so good now knowing that I'm done, and that after this one my family is truly complete.

Chelsea - posted on 09/11/2015

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Thank you so much for responding! We actually do have a minivan! Once the kids were in their big-kid car seats, I felt it was more logical and practical to have a car that they could actually climb into themselves. Best decision ever!
Would you say that you gained more patience as your family grew or do you ever struggle with that aspect?

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