Janneke - posted on 01/01/2012 ( 42 moms have responded )
We have a beautiful 8 and a half month old baby girl. We have co-slept with her from when she was born and I have always found it a beautifully bonding experience, making night time wakings a joy more often than not.
It has, however, now developed into two problems, which are starting to drive me mad...! Firstly, even though DD and I often synchronise our sleep cycles and wake, feed and sleep very harmoniously, I cant sleep at all if my partner is in bed too! My alertness to DD and her movements makes me pick up on all his sleeping noises and I feel the hours tick a way lying awake in between two sleeping beauties, not getting any sleep myself. We have sort of accepted that, for now, we cant sleep in the same bed. But of course we miss each other.
Secondly, DD does get tired at around 7, but, unless I go to bed at the same time, she will wake continuously. After 20, 40 or 10 minutes. Recently, we have been starting to bring her downstairs to sit with us until I go to bed myself, in order to be able to wind down a bit with my partner at the end of a day. This doesn't feel sustainable though as I am so uncomfortable knowing she would rather be asleep.
She sleeps alright during the day, but only if I go for a walk with her on my back in our ergobaby backpack.
So, basically, I don't get any break during the day at all. Nor do her dad and I get much of a chance to be a couple. And I think what is causing me to worry, is that it doesnt seem to be improving, even though she is nearly 9 months now. If anything, it seems to be becoming a stronger pattern.
Any suggestions or similar experiences much appreciated!