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Aleks - posted on 06/18/2013
Is this something that is quite new (in the last few days or couple of weeks), or is this the way your baby has always been?
Some babies are "high needs" babies. This is NOT A BAD HABBIT.
You carried this baby inside you for 9mths, so its only natural that he is attached to you. I understand that this can very very tiring. It is not easy.
There are some suggestions for you which you may wish to check out.
1. SILENT REFLUX. If you say your baby needs to be carried all the time, is he also crying in your arms if you lay down with him? If so, then this could be a sign of reflux. This can be treated. So have some heart. Reason for him also wanting you all of the time is because if he is suffering some kind of physical discomfort he may wish to only be held by the person he gets most comfort. This means YOU (at least in these early stages of baby's life).
2. EAR PROBLEMS/INFECTION. Similarly, many times ears may cause pain or discomfort if baby is put in a different position may cause pain or discomfort (or increased pain/discomfort, as your baby may be in constant discomfort). So just like with silent reflux, ear pain may also cause a baby to be highly demanding of the thing that comforts him the most - YOU.
3. MALADJUSTED MUSCLES/SPINE after birth. Due to the nature of labour and birth, some babies may end up with some minor damage done to their ligaments, muscles or even spine. Again, this can cause pain and/or discomfort. Leading baby to be needy and demanding and frequently crying. Some gentle treatment from the right professional (osteopath, physio or even chiropractor) may help to solve the problem.
Btw, how are you baby's sleep? Does he sleep well or does he wake up frequently? This too can give you clues if his crying is related to some kind of physical problem.
If you have ruled out all of the above, please take heart that some babies are just REALY sensitive. Its who they are. It is tough. Don't be afraid to occasionally let him cry for a few minutes if you need to get something done (like just have a shower or go to the toilet). Do not feel guilty for that. Or even when you need that 30min to have a quite time (having a cup of coffee, or going for a short stroll just to ease your mind) and your husband is looking after him. Again, do not feel guilty. As long as baby is with a loving care-giver he will be ok even though he cries.
Also, I have heard that white noise can do wonders for babies like these - some radio static, or hair-dryer type noise sometimes settles babies like you have described. Its something worth trying too.
Please also talk to someone with regards to your depressed state. Is there some kind of maternal help line you can call where you live? It is worthwhile doing. If you don't feel comfortable doing this, do you have access to a best friend? Or a sister or mother? Someone you can unload on and talk to about stuff? Sometimes talking things out can be a huge relief? But if this does not help, please seek medical help in this matter. Post-natal depression is no light matter.
Good luck, and please let us know how things go.
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