BABY DAD IS BAD INFLUENCE ON MY SON

Carolyn - posted on 05/05/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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my fahter son has been divorce and seperated from me since my kid started to walk. and is still livng at my mothers house he takes advantege of the hopitality my mo gives him and thinks he has all the right in the world to get involved in my life, well to this day he aint working doing something for his life but plays the part w my mom. my mother has backed him up since the day I left him, an for that he has 50 percent custody. its on a paper but dont trully means he does what he suppose too. I aint a addict to any drugs or abuse alcohol. I work hard bc am a single mother w the help of me, my self, and I. well I had a feeling his up to no good and found out that on sat. my sister had a party and their was a fight well the father of my kid was causing the drama and brought out a gun and clocked it. he didnt shot no one , my son or I where at my mother.. oh yeah this happen in my moms house. i want to call cps but I dont have any evidence and my sister that told me the story I know she wont want to report the situation. my mother took his side.. what should i do?

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Michelle - posted on 05/06/2013

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I agree with Jodi, the things you have told us about aren't enough to destroy the relationship between Father and Son.

I am also curious about the relationship between you Mother and Ex though. I also wonder why you Mother has chosen your ex over her own flesh and blood. There seems to be a lot more to the story that you haven't told us.

Jodi - posted on 05/06/2013

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I'll be honest, the only thing here that concerns me is the gun thing, but I read it that neither you or your son were there at the time? I am assuming this because your sister told you? Sorry, you post was a little unclear. The rest of it, while a little strange, and indicating he is a bit of a loser, isn't telling me that he shouldn't have 50% custody of his child.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/05/2013

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I would stop going to your mothers house with your child, and fight for sole custody if you choose. I think other things are going on here that are being left out. Your ex is living with your mom? Are you sure they are not having an affair? That is the first thing that came to my mind.

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Jodi - posted on 05/06/2013

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I understand why you were unhappy with him, but I am still not understanding why you feel the need to call CPS or why you need to do anything. Clearly you have a custody order that says he has 50% custody. You need to follow that. If you want to be able to change that, you are going to have to have some evidence of why, and I'm still not seeing anything.

Carolyn - posted on 05/06/2013

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thanks.. I agree on the fact that my own mother wont back me up. but when my mother found out I had walked out on my Ex, she also had found that I had already started to see other people. Not a lot of time pass when I started to date a guy who was 10 years older then me and I really felt for him. I am still with this men, but he has been the encouranging person to make me come out of my shelve. I aint saying I couldnt of done it on my own and stayed single for couple of years, but i feel god put him in my life for a reason. my mother ones told me that why did I destroy my family. but I never was 100 percent happy, She also said that she put up with my father for a lot of years and that I should of done the same. When i made this choose I had already been with my ex for 4 years and was very silent of my happiness. i wanted to break the chain of living the unhappy life. Since my seperation I told my ex I didnt want to exclude him from my babys life, so I gave him his rights as a father. I dont ask for child support of spousal. bc if he didnt give me money when I was with him clearly, he wont in the future. All I want was for my child to have his father figure and not to have drama. but clearly my mother or him want a peace of home, they love the drama. Till this day he dosent have a job I can honstly say he had a job when I was pregnant and left it 3 months after. He rather live off people and not worry of his kids future life, He lives it to to me,

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