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Jasmine - posted on 05/06/2015 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My Daughters Father Is Always Going Out With His Friends racing , drinking , partying , But Never Spends Time With His Daughter . has anyone else been through this situation I DON'T LIVE WITH HER FATHER AND WE ARE NOT TOGETHER

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Michelle - posted on 05/09/2015

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Take him to court and get a visitation schedule drawn you. Also file for child support and move on.
You can't control what he does in his life so stop worrying about it. You can't make someone be a Father so you just need to be the best Mother possible. Don't dwell on things you can't change.

Jodi - posted on 05/09/2015

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OK, well, if you aren't living with him, then you can't control how he spends his time (you can't really control it if you ARE living with him either, but at least you'd have the right to having a discussion with him). You can't force him to spend time with his daughter. You can certainly make sure that options is there for him, but you can't force him.

Raye - posted on 05/07/2015

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Dove, I think she locked the other one because she got an answer she didn't like. I'm fairly certain she still lives with the guy, so she was probably upset she could not get child support payments from him in that circumstance.

Raye - posted on 05/07/2015

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Many women have experienced what you're going through. Your man has not grown up and is not being a responsible adult. It sucks. You need to sit down with him and talk about you and your child's needs. Do not make demands. Just let him know what you're feeling and that you want him to be more available to his child, and provide for his family. If he is unwilling to change, then you need to make a decision on whether you can keep going the way things are or leave him.

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Dove - posted on 05/09/2015

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There is nothing funny about my response.... It's true. You can NOT make him be a dad. All you can do is get a court order for custody, visitation, and child support... and then focus on yourself and your child no matter what he does or does not do.

Jasmine - posted on 05/09/2015

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No i don't live with him. We are not together. He lives with his parents and i live with my mother

Jodi - posted on 05/07/2015

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I am also still wondering if your are still together with the father (ie. living together) or if you are apart. My response with regard to this questions would depend on if you are still together or not.

Dove - posted on 05/07/2015

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Why did you delete your comments on the other post and lock it? That's confusing....

You can't make him be a father. All you can do is sit down and calmly talk to him about how you feel and the impact his behaviors have on the child. It's up to him what he does about it and then it is up to you how you choose to proceed.

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