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Jodi - posted on 05/25/2016
That's a loaded question. Everyone is different. I'm guessing you are asking this because he has asked to be there when you are in labour. My advice is, if you feel comfortable with him there and it won't stress you, then fine, but if not, you are not obligated to have him there. It's entirely your choice.
Dove - posted on 05/25/2016
I was never in labor, but yes... I let my husband (who had filed for divorce 2 weeks earlier) be in the OR during our son's c-section. I figured if anything could snap him back to his senses it would be the birth of our son... I was wrong.
I didn't regret having him there AND I wasn't glad he was there. It just was what it was.
What you allow is totally up to you and your comfort level. He absolutely has a right to see his child after the birth, but the labor and delivery is all about YOU... so if you want him there (and he wants to be there)... have at it. If you don't... don't allow him in the room and don't feel guilty about it.
Raye - posted on 05/25/2016
He can be at the hospital while you're there, but he doesn't need to be in the delivery room while you're actually giving birth.
Once the baby is born, since you're no longer in a relationship with the father, you should file for child support and get custody/visitation agreed to and finalized by court order. That way, both parents know what their responsibilities are toward the child.
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