Baby daddy

Emma - posted on 05/19/2014 ( 16 moms have responded )

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My child's dad is an ASS. She's nearly 4 now and she's been out of his life a long time but yet he still torments me. He does not care for her it's just about me it always has been , what iv been up to, who I'm seen .. It's just constant torment but he's in jail now and now looking for access of her and bringing me to court twice for it and has not shown up now I'm up again next week with him but iv no idea how he thinks he can still get access to her she does not even want to see him .. It's a never ending battle with him! Any advice on how I can get him of my mind and stop putting myself in bad form ??!

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Emma - posted on 05/24/2014

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He's a criminal he's in jail for reasons, trying to shoot someone for not serving him a pint ,, robbing post offices .. Petrol bombing peoples cars.. His bestfriend petrol bombed my sisters window and yet he thought it was hilarious even though our child was in the house . Who wants a child around that she would hate me if she was in his life.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/24/2014

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Him being incarcerated is not a good enough reason to attempt to terminate rights.

You didn't think he was an ASS when you had consensual sex with him and created the child, and he's got just as much right to be her parent as you do.

Don't make a mistake that your child will end up hating you for when she finds out later.

Emma - posted on 05/24/2014

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Thank you dior Jenn the last thing I want is it repeating with her as my mum went true this as a teen and also her mum did, but she's a great smart kid hopefully I teach her well and she chooses the right path.

Dior - posted on 05/23/2014

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Look into terminating his parental rights. By taking you to court, it seems like he is using your daughter as leverage. Get close to an administrator at the court. Tell them what's really going on. And if he is getting you out of character, read daily affirmations. As corny as it sounds, give it time and it will work. Unfortunately, you can't teach an old dog new tricks. All you can do is be the best mom you can be and teach your daughter better so the cycle doesn't repeat. I feel your pain.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/19/2014

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He wouldn't get custody, but if he chose to take visitation, yes he can get visitation while incarcerated.

Plus, (i'm not sure about this, you need to check) if he asks for visitation and you do not grant it (even if it's court ordered) I believe he could still pursue parental alienation, and have one of his relatives take custody. Like I said, I'm not sure, it's something you need to check on.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/19/2014

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It's not up to you, though, Emma, it is up to the courts. If they grant him visitation, you have to allow it. If you do not, that's considered attempted parental alienation (even if you know he wouldn't have shown up anyway...). Parental alienation can lose you custody of your child.

It is better for the scheduled visits to be missed on HIS part, not on yours.

Emma - posted on 05/19/2014

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He does not care for her, well at least he does not show it so I don't think he deserves any access. He was granted supervised visits before but never bothered to show up.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/19/2014

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Well, you cannot deny him access. He's her father. When you go back to court next week, ask for supervised visits with an impartial supervisor.

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