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Natalie - posted on 04/17/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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How do I make sure that my unborn baby's father never gets custody of her and only gets supervised visitation

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Dove - posted on 04/18/2015

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I also have to ask... are you still with him? If so... YOU need to leave for your own safety.

Dove - posted on 04/18/2015

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Document everything. If he hits you... call the police and get a police report. Also get a good lawyer. If you have enough evidence against him I would 'think' your chances of supervised visits will be good... at least while she is little (especially if he's hitting you while you are pregnant), but you also need to look into the future and realize if he never hits HER... his chances of eventually getting unsupervised visits are fairly good.

I know that's not what you want to hear... and I wouldn't either, but it is the reality when you procreate w/ someone who is not ideal.... they still have just as much of a right to be a parent as you do.

Jodi - posted on 04/17/2015

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What you need to do is have evidence that he could potentially be a danger to the child. If he has actually been convicted of domestic violence against you, there will be police reports. You would need to present these in court with a request for supervised visitation.

Just remember, at this point your baby will be an infant, so you have a good chance of getting supervised visitation initially, and it is likely the visits will only be short anyway. Eventually, however, if he can prove he is not a danger to the child, he would be able to petition for more time and for visits to be unsupervised.

It is best for you to talk to a lawyer about your options. I don't know where you live, but custody issues are treated differently in different countries, so mediation may be your first point of call, but an initial discussion with a lawyer about your options is probably a good idea.

Natalie - posted on 04/17/2015

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I'm only 18 but he's gotten multiple domestic violence charges against me. And I want him to be a part of our daughters life I really don't want her to grow up without a dad but I don't want her to hurt her. He has anger problems and has hit me even since he's known I'm carrying his child. I kept telling myself that he would never do that and since he has I'm having all these horrible thoughts. I don't think he would hurt his child but I never would have thought or continue to think he would hurt me like he has or he continues to do so. I don't want him to not be able to see our baby. I just want her to be safe and what if I'm not there and he gets annoyed or loses his patience and just goes crazy like he does on me

Jodi - posted on 04/17/2015

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You can't make sure. Noone can predict what a judge is going to say. Why do you not want him to have custody or unsupervised visitation?

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