Jacklyn - posted on 03/29/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )
My sons father led me on to believe he wanted my son and I and him to be a family since our son was born. I gave him a second chance after forgiving a lot of lies and his threats for me to abort our son when I was pregnant. But in the year I gave him, he refused to move in together claiming he was working a lot to save to buy us a house, and refused to help me with our son saying he was always tired from working so much, and hardly spent time with us. I have raised our son pretty much on my own paying my own apartment and working full time and attending grad school part time. He was giving me some money to help out, but ever since I found out he has been cheating, I filed for child support and broke up with him, so he refuses to pay now and often just tells me off and demands that I close the case because I am making things worse.
I have not seen him in more than three months but he often emails me demanding that I talk to him and that to blame me for things not working between us, that it was my fault he left our family, and although I know it wasnt. I am struggling with knowing that I cant so easily cut him off of my life since we have a son. Any advice or tips? Anyone been in my shoes?
I filed for child support and waiting on that, and have changed my number and told him if he wants to see our son, he can email me and I can make arrangements for him to pick him up from my parents, but he only emails me demanding to talk to him and that I am bad for not caring for him or show concern for him or try to be friends. He never apologized for cheating and treats me like he had every right to not be here for his son. I changed my number because he would leave me nasty voicemails and send me text messages just putting me down and blame me for everything and get me to close the case. So I made it clear if he wants to see our son he is more than welcome to, however he demanded that I take him to him and spend time together because our son has no relationship with him. I told him my mom would be happy to drop our son off to him, but he says no.
Just looking for support.