Baby daddy problems

Jocleyn Isabel - posted on 08/03/2016 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My boyfriend and I just had a baby girl and less then 2 months later he had another baby girl from his ex. I don't want my daughter to be around her until she full understands the situation. I'm I doing the right thing?

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Jodi - posted on 08/03/2016

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It could be YEARS before she "understands" the situation. Honestly, your are being unreasonable. Your boyfriend has a right to a relationship with his other child, and this is going to be your child's sister no matter what. SHE has a right to a relationship with her too. At the end of the day, your boyfriend gets a say in this too.

I must admit, I'm confused too, as to how his EX has had a baby after you unless the man cheated on you, which really makes him a stellar example to society, but if you are happy to have him cheat on you, then that's your issue. Quite honestly, I'd have been more concerned about the cheating that the relationship between the two babies.

Dove - posted on 08/03/2016

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Your daughter has a right to a relationship w/ her father and her sister (and the other little girl has those same rights)... regardless of anything else. If they grow up knowing each other there won't be any 'big' thing TO understand.

I can understand it is a frustrating and emotional situation for YOU... but for them... all they need to understand is they are family.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/03/2016

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So many questions, so little info. Are you still with this man that cheated on you while you were pregnant? Are you living together? Does he live with this other women? How old is your child? Please provide more information.

Point blank, no I don't this you are right. I totally can empathize with how hurt and jaded you must be, but that is your daughters sister. They should know each other. What exactly do you want your daughter to understand? That daddy had unprotected sex with another women while mommy was pregnant with you? She doesn't need to understand adult stuff. She just needs to know this is her sister.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/04/2016

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This whole thing is a complicated mess. I hope your daughter gets to meet her sister, have a relationship with her father, and I hope you were smart enough to get child support.

Dove - posted on 08/03/2016

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Well, you can't control what he does about his relationship w/ either daughter or what the other mother does or does not decide to do. If both girls live w/ their mothers and neither mother lives w/ the father... then it's really up to the father to arrange for his daughters to know each other.. unless the mothers can get along and set things up on occasion for the sake of the sisters, but I can imagine how stressful and difficult that may be.

Your OP states that you don't want them around each other and your follow up reply says it is the other mother and the father w/ the issue... Just have a court order for custody, visitation, and child support all set up in regards to your daughter and be open to the possibility of the girls having a relationship w/ each other... then it's up to the father and the other mother to grow up and get over themselves for the sake of the kids. THEY are the innocent 'pawns' in their father's low life behavior. The least they can suffer for it... the better. ♥

Jocleyn Isabel - posted on 08/03/2016

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No i am not with him anymore. His ex girlfriend lived with him for a month after her baby was born and my daughter is 3 months.

Jocleyn Isabel - posted on 08/03/2016

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Yes i would like them to meet eachother but his other babys mom wants nothing to do with my daughter. He had cheated and I had found out right before I went into labor. He doesn't want them meeting until there old enough to talk..

Nadine - posted on 08/03/2016

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It really is not hard to understand. It is her sister. I assume he is going to want visitation with his daughter, and that would probably entail, at some point, overnights. Or perhaps he even may want custody of his child, if that is in her best interest. Do you live together? If so then are you just going to insist that his other daughter miss out on a relationship with his other daughter? They are both just as much his daughter.

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