Baby number 2 after 35. What do u think?

Milena - posted on 01/31/2010 ( 24 moms have responded )

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I am 36 years old I have a soon to be 4 year old. We are considering another bundle of joy and I was just curious what your guys' opinions are having a baby after 35. Anything special to watch out for? My first one was a planned c-section due to my walking disability, but all went well.

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Deanne - posted on 05/18/2013

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Go for it..I had all three of my kids after 35, and one after 40...life's greatest joys...All sections

Mary - posted on 01/31/2010

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Well, I had baby #1 at 38, and it was completely uneventful. I worked up until I delivered, as well as walking my dogs at least 2 miles/day up until the day she was born. No complications with her or me whatsoever. I had 2 friends, both under the age of 30 who were pregnant around the same time, and I fared much better than either of them. Just because the chance of complications is higher does not mean you will necessarily have any. If you are in good health, and good physical shape now, your odds of having a healthy pregnancy are pretty good.

Lisa - posted on 02/08/2010

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I had my first at 36 and second at 38, 1st was unplanned c-section (no issues health 6 lbs 2 oz)and 2nd was emergency c-section. Due to the placenta was not suppling enough for the baby, The Dr's thought she would be better off if they took her a month early because she wasn't growing as they expected.(She perfectly healthy and weighed 5lbs 13oz.) I had my babies close together and the body wasn't real sure what to think. Healing time was a little longer with the 2nd section.
If you feel that you are a healthy than go for it! No one will know better than yourself. Best of luck!!

Tara - posted on 02/01/2010

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I had my first girl at 36 and my 2nd girl at 37 (they are 18 months apart, 22 months and 4 months) and I think that if you're comfortable with it and healthy, go for it. The only thing I noticed as a problem with the pregnancy was high blood pressure, but I had that with both pregnancies, so it may not be something you would experience :)

Donnie - posted on 02/18/2010

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I had baby #3 at 36 and baby #4 at 40. It made me wonder how baby #1 at 19 and baby #2 at 23 had survived. I was a really good mom for the last two. For me it was great and I think it has really kept me young. I had homebirths with both of them. #3 is at UCSC for his first year and # 4 is a high school sophomore now. Neddless to say #'s 1 and 2 have given me grandchildren.

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Andrea - posted on 02/19/2010

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i'm 39 and expecting my second in late March (I'll be 40 in May). I feel BETTER than I did with my first, (and I was 37 then).I had a c-section with my first due to multiple reasons but I'm going to go for Vbac this time around. I exercise and eat right. It would have been nice if we could have done it sooner but it took 4 years to have our first (2 miscarriages) and I was in my early 30s then. I got pregnant first try with this one as well and "they" say it's supposed to take longer as you get older. Go figure! I think everything happens for a reason...Good luck with whatever you decide!

Niki - posted on 02/18/2010

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I have 4 children. Ashley 15, Jordyn 13, Nick 9 and Halle 2 1/2. My last child was a complete surprise/birth control baby. I was 35 at the time and I was so scared. I had already had 3 c-sections due not neing able to labor and scar tissue. We had all of our kids in sports and we were pretty content. Well... atleast thats what I told myself. I wanted a 4th but the thought of going through it again was unthinkable bc of how busy we were and of course my age. My advice to you is this. I was able to physically do it but more importantly mentally do it. I have a wonderful support system and knew it would be a challenge for all of us. Now 2 years later she was just meant to be here. We make it work and my age has ne bearing on how I parent except for the fact that I appreciate the whole process of the pregnancy.. Because truly its a miracle. Believe in yourself and if its something you/your spouse and the circumstances are right. Don't let your age be a factor on not having another baby.

Milena - posted on 02/18/2010

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I wanted to thank you all for your replies. We will be trying now. Have a checkup next week to make sure all is ok.

Julie - posted on 02/04/2010

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:-) I thinks it is GREAT! I didn't plan it this way, but I had my 2 daughters late in life, mostly due to my having a tough time getting pregnant; my hubby and I married when I was 24 and I am now 48 years old My oldest child was born when I was about 2 weeks away from turning 29 years old, and my youngest daughter was born when I was a about 1 1/2 months away from turning 37 years old. As it is with all parents, my hubby and I have had our challenges of raising them and we have made our mistakes along the way, but overall, our daughters have grown most beautifully in every sense of the word and I most truly believe that the fact that we had them so late in life had a lot to do with it. I also think that having my babies so late in life has been one of the primary keys to my youthfulness-like ways; most folks estimate that I am about, in average, 10 - 15 younger than my actual age...GREAT! :-D Also, most remarkably, despite the age gap between my 2 daughters, most people, including their daddy and I perceived them to be twins...8 years apart...since they are so much a like, especially from within. :-) In my and my family's case, so far, there has been only 2 down falls with having a baby so late in life: 1. The odds are increased for some certain risks in carrying and/or having the baby. Everything was fine with our first child, but with our 2nd child, I ended up with gestintional diabetes during my whole pregnancy with her. Then 2: Please bear in mind, that in our today's society, there's a great amount of our society that is so extremely close-minded on the fact that not everyone is into doing the current trendy thing in our society; which at this time, having babies during your teen/youthful years is the trend thing to do, while having a baby much later in life isn't; which leads to the stupidity assumption that many of them will have on you for it. It is not done out of cruelity, but it is done out of pure guillibleness of the other individual. My daughters and I really can't stand it, but we do smile and most politely tolerate it when people mistakes my now 19 years old daughter to be the mom of my now 11 years old daughter, and for me to be the now 48 years old grandmother of my youngest daughter...uuugh...! Sigh...but this is the down size of life in our society for the way it is today toward those who have children so late in life. My daughters tells me, begs me, to look younger just for this society's problem toward us, sheeesh...I am already successful at it by 10 - 15 years...sometimes even much more than that, and they want me to look younger just so people don't mistake me to be a grandma to anyone?! Oy! But I keep trying, my oldest wants me to be a blonde now, so now I am shooting for that toward my goal of youthfulness....all for the sakes of my love for my daughters. :-) May you receive all the blessings and joy with your child(ren), as I have done so with mine.

Lythera - posted on 02/04/2010

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children are a bundle of joy and a blessing, but you know the longer you wait the more at risk you are at giving birth for any woman over the age of 35 ialways crack a joke with my friendsi tell them anything ovet 35 is pension baby lol that means all my pension money will go to take care of that child but if you strongly feel you want another one go for it and pray for strength throughout it good luck

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im 31 with a 20 month old and im looking to either keep it at that or have 3...I think I'll be close to 36 by the time I have my 3rd. As long as you have enough love to give, I dont see why not! youre still a spring chicken!

Julie - posted on 02/04/2010

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go for it, i had my first at 38 and my 2nd at 39, didnt have any problems with either of them.

Diane - posted on 02/01/2010

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I am 40 years old and have a 5-month old. I'll turn 41 later this month. My pregnancy was completely uneventful, except that I in the end had to have a c-section because baby was too big (9lbs, 11 ozs., with a big head). I agree with the others who have said you should go for it if another child is what you and your husband want.

Dawn - posted on 02/01/2010

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Are you kinding, there are women out there successfully having children into their 40's! You will most likely have to go to a high risk doctor, but other than that everything should be the same as with your first. I had my first son @ 30 (ihe s almost a year now) and if my husband and I decide to have another it will not be for another few years, so I too will be nearing or over 35! I will admit that since I let myself go in my late 20's that having a baby in my 30's has left me a bit more tired than I expected and it is harder to lose the baby weight, but I am also enjoying being lazy (if you can call chasing a toddler around that!) and not really pushing myself like I know I could! Do what makes you happy...unless you get into your 50's/60's :) That I have a problem with!!!

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I had my first at 35 and would stil consider having a second at 40. I wish you good luck! I know plenty of people that had babies after 35 with no issues.

Zatonda - posted on 02/01/2010

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I think it's great, I wouldn't space it out too much, , because if you are concerned at 36, you will more concerned as you get older, after my c-section I deliver the rest natural. however I am sure if you have a c-section things will go fine.

Yvette - posted on 01/31/2010

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Hi Milena, if you want another child go for it. I had my 1st child at 32 he was a surprise. My second pregnancy was at 34 and they were twins. They were 5 weeks prem. However when they were born I felt my age and then some. Now nearly 7 years on I am feeling the drawback of having kids so late in life. Yes I know that I am only turning 40 this year - I am tired all the time because my three little MEN just don't stop - ever (well when they are in bed at nite) and the running around has just started between schools, kinders and sports. But you know what I wouldn't get rid of them for the world At the end of the day I sit down in semi peace and quiet with a cuppa and giggle (sometimes cry) about the day. Both births were c-sections and the second was easier much easier to get over. Being older though rest often (during bub's naptimes), drink water and eat healthy oh and try try try to get exercise in because when they are older........well you can guess

Brooke - posted on 01/31/2010

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If that is what you want I say go for it.. I personally could not imagine it lol but I'm up the other end of the scale, I'm 19 with a 1 yr old. My mother had me when she was 37. She has now passed on. I never liked the fact that she was so much older. I was always out of trend because of what she thought was nice.. She did her best but was unable to keep up with me as well as she did with my brother and sisters who are all in there 30's.

When I decided on having my child, my thought was I didn't want to be older with a young child or even older with a teenager, these days the chances of cancer or other health problems arise much more commonly and I want as much time with my kids as possible.

I only got 14 yrs with my mum.

Sandra - posted on 01/31/2010

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Go for it, I think your age shouldn't be a barrier. Your doctor can recommed tests and discuss risks of complications but to be honest, loads of women have babies over the age of 35 and are absolutely fine. And it would be so nice for your little one to have a brother or sister! Good luck!

Maureen - posted on 01/31/2010

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GO FOR IT my sister had her second (surpise) at 45 He is 21/2 and totally awsome... Plus a girl i worked with had her second one month before me and she was 46 or 47.

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hehe - I always said none after 30. Had my first at 30 now its non after 35. There isnt anything wrong with having them after 35 its just that the body isnt as prepared for it at that age and the risks increase. If its what you want I say go for it...but it may be good to talk to you doc first so that you can be better prepared for it should there be anything they need to make you aware of. Good Luck :)

Rebecca - posted on 01/31/2010

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I say, assuming you are healthy, go for it! There are higher risks the older you are, as I'm sure you're aware. Some of these apply only to first-time mums so you'll escape those. It can take longer to conceive, there is a higher rate of miscarriage and birth defects, and pregnancy complications. That said, plenty of women have healthy pregnancies and babies at your age and older - I think you just need to go into it with your eyes open and make an informed decision - as you should at any age. But the benefits of a sibling are well worth it in my opinion!

Jodi - posted on 01/31/2010

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Gor for it!!!! I did it :) I was 36 when I had baby number 2. I was 28 when I had my first.



The only thing I really noticed was the difference in how my body coped with it. The pregnancy was MUCH easier with my oldest, and I believe that was my age. My muscles just really felt it with my second. But the birth itself was much easier, and I have found the parenting much more relaxed too.



Having said that, however, I did have 2 miscarriages before I fell pregnant with her.....so my age did have its disadvantages......but I wouldn't change any of it for anything.

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