Brittany - posted on 04/17/2012 ( 25 moms have responded )
Hi there, Confused on the last name I should give my new child. The father and I have been living together for 2 years. We care for his two teenage children, and also my 7 yr old son. We are currently expecting a baby together in September. I gave my son my last name when I had him at 17. My boyfriend wants the baby to have his last name the same way his other children do.
My biggest issue is that the younger children would have different last names, also he is still married, separtated, but they share the same last name. Why would I give my baby THEIR last name? Does it sound selfish to want MY children to share the same last name... I feel insulted that he would expect me to give my baby a name he still shares with his (although separated) wife.
(I don`t care if she wants to keep the last name, I care that my child will have a name he shares with another woman through MARRIAGE, not divorce.)
I've been telling him to finalize the divorce to help me make my decision since the day I found out I was pregnant. I'm now 21 weeks and a phone call has not even been made to a lawyer. Please some input would be helpful -- Thank you